Thank you so much for tuning into the SheShifted Podcast. I’m really excited about today’s topic. Today we’re unpacking rejection. Why are you excited about that. Anytime I get to share truth and push back darkness. I’m excited. Rejection is something, we’re all familiar with. I don’t care who you are; how old you are, what color your skin is. Rich or poor. Attractive or unattractive, fat or skinny. Tall or short. A believer or not. Grew up on the right side of the track or the wrong. It really doesn’t matter. We’ve all experience it at some point in our lives. It could have occurred during childhood, from a parent, or sibling. Someone withholding love, withholding praise. Never quite feeling valued, appreciated, respected, love or wanted. A spouse, friends, teacher, a stranger. We can all scan our live and we’ll find that we’ve all had moments where found ourselves in a position of feeling unwanted, devalued, unaccepted, casted away, dismissed, disregard and nothing reeks havocs on the heart like rejection.
You don’t age out of experiencing rejection. I have conversation with women in their 20s, 30s, 40s, and 50 all who have shared moments some recent moments of feeling unwanted or devalued.
Today, we intent to disarm the enemy and no long will he successfully use rejection against us. We going to have a real conversation about rejection.
Rejection is the most common emotional wound we sustain in our daily lives. It used to be that it only occurred in your small circle. Nowadays, thanks to the advancement in technology, www.; social media platforms and because we have the ability to communicate within seconds. We can find ourselves connected and disconnected to people in an instant.
Ignored our post, ignored your baby pictures, ignore our chats, our texts. Then there are the events that occurred where you weren’t invited, leaving you feeling exclude rather than included; again leaving us feeling rejected, left out, because of it. I know you many of you are thinking..it’s not that serious for me. I get it and maybe that’s not the area that stings the most for you. I commend you if it’s not. Awareness is the key and truthfully, often times we’re unaware that it actually is a feeling of rejection masked as something else. We don’t see our own blind spots. The beauty of self-awareness is it requires you to look inward rather than outward and that is the only way to get a understand of what is truly at the core.
Whether the rejection is experienced on a small scale or a large scale. It always hurts and it usually hurts more than we expect it to. Bear with me, today I want to encourage you to take a deep dive with me.
Many years ago, my husband after returning from a second tour in Iraq and spending a little time at home received orders to relocated to Korea. Now, we’ve just settled into a new home that we’d just purchased. Listen, I’m still unpacking boxes, decorating and removing stickers off of the furniture. I’d just settle into a new home, and school was starting soon for our son. Honestly, I felt like this just wasn’t good timing for anyone to be going anywhere. Like, the Army really asked me what I thought.
Of course, having been a soldier, I totally got that mission drives movement but it’s never easy or fun saying good bye. So, we agreed that he would go for a one-year tour and that the family would stay behind. Within a week of him getting on the ground in Korea, we decided that it was important for our family to be together. Now this was unusually for me because I am a soldier at heart and resiliency is my mind name. I’d endured the hardship of being without my spouse because this was his 3rd time in Korea and I was prepared to do it again. Oh,but this time things were different. I’d asked God to work on me and man had He’d responded. Psalms 34:18; the Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirt. Be ready for what you ask for.
