She Who Wins

In a society or workplace that’s dominated by men, how should women behave to be taken seriously? Honestly, women shouldn’t even be adjusting, to begin with; hence the call for gender equality across all industries. But there’s this stigma around the word “feminism” that it’s viewed as something extreme when it shouldn’t be.

In today’s episode, Samantha Martin, attorney and founder of The Femish Organization, talks about the modern feminist. She shares interesting insights into gender equality, especially in a male-dominated space, and how we can all address this imbalance between masculine and feminine energies.

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:

Episode Highlights:

[02:00] What is a Feminist? 

A feminist is just somebody who wants equal treatment and equal rights. Fair doesn’t mean everybody has the exact same thing. Fair means people get what they need in order to succeed in order to have a fair way in the game. Feminism helps everybody. It helps men and helps women. It helps every community, non-binary, and it’s good for everybody if people can just get past this connotation of being extreme.

[05:31] Working in a Male-Dominated Space

The legal industry is male-dominated when there are more women in law school. And yet somehow they get weeded out due to this internal struggle that exists. This is not only prevalent in the legal industry, it’s also in STEM where women all had the same experiences. Women do certain things at work to be taken seriously. But women shouldn’t even have to do that.

Everybody has a different balance of masculine and feminine traits. But to adjust yourself to meet the masculine energy default in your profession is like letting them win. You’re almost admitting that masculinity needs to be there in order for a business to grow and be taken seriously. But it’s a game we have to break down. When you are being yourself and you’re expressing yourself, you’re being a better version of yourself, and you do everything better in your life, including your job.

[11:31] How Society is Devaluing Femininity

Society devalues femininity and it expects women to be a certain level of feminine. You should wear makeup, but don’t wear too much makeup. Don’t be super covered up but don’t be showing a lot of skin. There are all these rules and many more rules around femininity, while masculinity tends to be the default. Masculinity is more accepted in our society compared to femininity. If you’re a feminine man, you’re assumed to be gay, even if you’re just being a nurturing parent. And so, there’s this imbalance prevalent in heterosexual relationships, too. If we can start valuing femininity again and not looking at it like something that’s anti-feminist or weak, or all the stereotypical stuff that the patriarchy has told us it is, then we’ll be in a better place and we can make a better world.

Resources Mentioned:

WOLFPACK by Amy Wamback

How do you build a brand so irresistible that you’re standing out from the crowd, but you’re still being your truest, most authentic self?  In this episode, Jamie King, aka “The Slay Coach”, talks all about branding and how you can become an irresistible brand in the most authentic way.

Jamie teaches experts how to become expert educators and how to build courses, and empowers women to build seven-figure brands. If you want to learn how to monetize your knowledge and experience on the internet, Jamie is the go-to person.

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:

Episode Highlights:

[07:35] How to Build Your Personal Brand

Personal branding is about uncovering things and finding out the parts of yourself that you are hiding. It’s about doubling down and amplifying your favorite parts about you and pouring rocket fuel on those things about you.

Double down and amplify your presence, and own it. Discover the things that you love about yourself and love them more. Let people know and let people in on your personal details, and that creates a bond with people who resonate with you.

[12:59] How to Stand Out in a Crowded Place

Create and craft your unique value proposition or UVP, which is that thing that makes you unique. There are all kinds of reasons why people buy from you. But if you want to stand out, stop saying what everyone is saying. Stop following and doing what everyone else is doing. Look at what your competition does well and look at your unique skills and passions. Look at what is missing in your competition and what’s missing in the market. Then use your skills to fill that gap.

[17:01] Should You Be Launching Every Week?

A lot of people are duplicating business models in a launch format because it’s what has always been done before, instead of really looking at what is best for them (and their families), their personal energy maintenance, and their mental health. But there is power in doing what you know is going to fit you best – even if that means ditching the launch model so you could be more energetically and emotionally available for your family and kids. At the end of the day, you have to be able to set boundaries and hold space for yourself.

Resources Mentioned:

www.theslaycoach.com

If there is one common impact on every single woman in the world – it’s relationships. We’ve all had a failed relationship at some point in our lives, whether it’s a marriage, friendship, or any other kind of human connection. Whether it was your fault or not, what’s important is to learn from those experiences as well as equip yourself with the tools and the self-awareness of what you want your next relationship to look like.

In this conversation, Jaime Morgan, a relationship and personal growth coach, shares some tips and strategies to make relationships work. Jaime works with women who have been through divorce, and with couples who want to create “easy love” – a connected love that feels like it flows with ease.

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:

Episode Highlights:

[04:31] How to Trust Yourself to Love Again

A lot of times, we know intuitively when it’s not time yet and when we still have to process the feelings. When resentment, anger, sadness, or grief is taking over your life in disproportionate amounts, then it’s a good signal that it’s time to work on letting go. Letting go is not the action. It’s the result of surrender, awareness, and choosing that enough is enough. You acknowledge your feelings, but then you also choose to move forward.

[12:40] The Gottman Method

Created by John and Julie Gottman, the Gottman method provides tools that couples need to make their relationships work. If two people genuinely want the relationship to last over time, they truly can if they learn how to communicate in healthy ways, turn towards each other, and foster that connection and foundation of friendship.

[16:00] The 3 C’s of a Successful Relationship

To have a successful relationship, focus on communication, conflict resolution, and connection. Communication is not just about what we speak, it’s how we listen and our intention going into it. The most important work we can do in our relationship is the work we do on ourselves because the only person we can change is ourselves. Nothing changes, if nothing changes. It’s how we talk to each other, listen to each other, and argue. Because relationships include arguing and fighting and we can use conflict to bring us closer together if we know how to communicate in a healthy way.

[19:20] How to Deal with Conflict in Your Relationship

Go into a conversation with a different intention. Go in wanting to understand rather than being understood. Show up in that conversation with the intention to understand them better, and genuinely want to listen and hear what they say, and you will see how the other person softens up. Then there’s an energy shift that leads to an upward spiral of communication that comes from a place of trust.

Resources Mentioned:

www.jaimemorgan.com

@thejaimemorgan

Are you the typical “woe-is-me” person who always has something or someone to blame when something doesn’t go your way? Where you are at this point in your life right now is a product of your own choices. Today’s guest, Johanna White, an award-winning graphic designer and visual branding strategist, started three companies within one year while battling a brain tumor. And she did all that because she not only believed in what she was capable of, but she knew she had to show up at her highest value and choose joy amidst the pain. Today, she’s living her life symptom-free, and the last time she walked out of the surgeon’s office was seven years ago.

As the founder of Designed by Jo studio, Johanna believes that if someone is the best at what they do, they deserve to look like it. For the past decade, she’s worked with individuals, startups, and Fortune 200 brands worldwide to help them cut through the noise, attract more of their ideal clients and be as delightfully expensive as they deserve to be.

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:

Episode Highlights:

[13:02] Take Action Over What You Can Control

Whatever you’re going through right now, the only one responsible for the outcome is you. And so, stop focusing on all the reasons why you think something won’t work and shut out those thoughts. It doesn’t serve you when you focus on the negative things. Instead, focus on what you want and how you’re going to get there and start talking and living like it, today.  It doesn’t mean you’re going to lie or pretend everything’s okay. But be careful about how you talk about your circumstances.

[19:46] Joy is a Choice

Dealing with her tumor, Johanna eventually decided to surrender and choose to have joy, even in pain. She realized there was nothing left to fear because joy is a choice and what she thought she needed was only an illusion after all. And so, you could find yourself in the lowest points of your life, but you can still choose how you respond to it.

[36:51] The Power of Thoughts

What you believe matters, but what you do about what you believe matters even more. You have to show the world what you’re capable of, and you’ve got to show up as that.

[42:39] Branding 101: Knowing Your Value and Showing Up as Your Highest Value

Before you can show your value, you have to know what it is. If you don’t actually know what makes you unique, amazing, and different, or why people are going to line up to work with you, then you’ve got to do some deep diving and some messaging around that first.

Once you know your value, you have to show it and show up through what you wear, what your website looks like, and your social media. Show up to the world as your highest value, with your brands, and in every touch point – with how you answer the phone, how you send an email, etc. If all those are not lining up and visually validating your value, then it’s not the customer’s fault and the world’s fault that they don’t perceive something that you have NOT put out there. Therefore, you have to be intentional with your branding.

Resources Mentioned:

www.designbyjostudio.com

If you’re struggling with saving and investing no matter how much money you’re earning right now, then it’s time to be very intentional and take action!

In this episode, Britt Baker, co-founder of Dow Janes talks all about money and how she’s bringing a step-by-step approach to saving and investing. Britt is a Harvard Business School graduate and an expert investor with 10+ years of experience as a money mindset coach. Britt is on a mission to serve those who have traditionally been left out of the financial world.

Through Dow Janes, Britt and her co-founder have helped hundreds of women pay off debt fast, set up long-lasting money systems, and invest their time. Britt believes everyone deserves the confidence, clarity, and peace of mind that comes with having your finances handled.

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:

Episode Highlights:

[04:01] Things to Consider Before Investing

Most people think of investing as a quick way to get rich. But investing is a patient, long-term game. There are also some things you need to consider before investing:

[14:58] The Idea of Discretionary Spending

Spend in alignment with your vision and values. Get really clear on what your values are and how you want to use the money to live your best life based on your personal values.

Budget and save up for it. When you have everything planned for how much you’re going to spend on something, it gets rid of the guilt that can come from spending money you didn’t plan for.

[19:04] Money is Energy – Let It Flow

Scarcity breeds fear. It’s negative and limiting.  You have to address your relationship with money. Start by looking at your money story – stories you heard about money or how your household talked about money. Look at the stories that you need to reconcile now as an adult, as you’re creating your own relationship with money going forward. Then you have to develop an abundance mindset and rewrite what you think you’re worth.

Resources Mentioned:

https://www.dowjanes.com/

The Soul of Money by Lynne Twist

Instagram: @dow.janes

There’s so much chaos in the world right now. It’s all over the news and social media. And if you’re not mindful of the kind of information you take in every day, it’s going to affect your mental health one way or the other. How are you then able to find joy in the midst of chaos?

In today’s episode, Jen Zawadzki, founder of the Future You Project and an inspirational keynote speaker, joins us to talk about how you can tap into your inner joy in the midst of what’s going on in your life today. She also shares her story of overcoming adversity and turning pain into purpose.

Jen is creating a powerful ripple of personal and professional empowerment across the globe. Her keynote speeches, workshops, unique gift experiences, and own personal story have transformed countless lives and businesses.

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:

Episode Highlights:

[06:57] The Birth of the Future You Project

Several years ago,  Jen Zawadzki was receiving gifts and words of encouragement from her “future self” at a time she needed it the most. This simple act of kindness from her friend led her to create the Future You Project – inspiring people one gift at a time.

When you nourish yourself, and you tap into joy, you can do things you can’t even imagine. You can turn on your light and then you can let others turn on their own light and tap into joy.

[11:48] Developing Your Bravery Muscles

When you’re facing challenges in life, just know that there is so much greatness on the other side. You just have to remind yourself that every day. If you’re comfortable with where you are right now, then that means you’re probably not pushing yourself enough. This is a muscle you can develop which takes time. It also takes a level of understanding that failure is part of all this and that’s okay.

[13:29] The Difference Between Happiness and Joy

There are moments of happiness, but joy is an inward journey. Joy is finding comfort within your own skin. You’re so aware of who you are and the magnificence within you that nothing scares you. Nothing can get in your way that you’re in a constant state of joy versus grabbing at these moments of happiness.

You’re not relying on somebody else, either or some circumstance or some material to bring you that happiness. It can be exciting to get a new car or to have an extravagant house, and all of these things can bring you moments of happiness, but true joy is an inward journey.

[19:37] Finding Joy in the Midst of Chaos 

Monitor how much information you take in each day. Educate yourself about what’s going on in the world, but try not to dwell on it.

Social media is a two-edged sword. There are so many great connections that can be made but there’s too much toxicity that happens as well. One of the biggest dangers of social media is comparison, which is the thief of all joy. Follow people who are positive, authentic, and have a good message. Be mindful of how long you allow yourself to stay in the negative space.

Resources Mentioned:

https://futureyouproject.com/

For a lot of people, fear prevents them from doing something or going for their big dream, whether it’s business, relationships, moving across the country, or whatever that is. And most often than not, they try to tie in success to their self-worth.

In this episode, Johanna Buchweitz, a highly respected business advisor, skilled investor, and entrepreneur, joins us to explain how mindset makes all the difference.

As the founder of Frankly Co., Johanna takes her wealth of past experience and brings it to her online community – specifically made for driven, female entrepreneurs. Johanna is also the host of the Limitless podcast. Her success in pitching companies to buyers at high valuations makes her a sought-after expert for entrepreneurs at all levels and stages of growth.

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:

Episode Highlights:

[06:50] Tying Success to Self-Worth

You could be the best in the world, and somehow still find a way you would have to go higher. That’s only setting yourself up for failure. No matter what you achieve on paper, it’s never going to be good enough.

Instead, take care of yourself, to be able to perform at your best. And that could mean working less while still being very productive.

[09:52] The Money Mindset

Success is 20% strategy and 80% psychology. If you think the latter is missing, then you’ve got to take a step back and focus on that because it makes all the difference. Mind matters before anything else and everything else will follow. As money mindset Coach Brooke Ritchie perfectly puts it, “If you want to go faster, slow down.”

For female entrepreneurs, in particular, There’s a phenomenon where they find it too difficult to break the six-figure ceiling and get to the seven-figure mark. The underlying issue is this collective consciousness among women about making a certain amount, and that has to shift if they want to hit the numbers in the easiest, least painful manner. Therefore, it requires a lot of mindset work as well as learning how to work around self-limiting beliefs.

If you tie your success to your worth, sometimes your subconscious mind sabotages you.

[20:03] Tips for Starting a Passion-Oriented Business

If you’re not making enough money at your job to support your family, and you’re thinking of starting a passion project where you don’t have money to invest in it, then don’t do it. Make sure you have the runway, where you have enough money to support you for X amount of time that you’re still not going to be raking in any cash.

Resources Mentioned:

https://franklyco.com/

Instagram: @johannabuchweitz