When you were a kid, what was something that helped you feel safe or calm?Who is someone (past or present) you feel relaxed being yourself around—and why? Are you more of a “figure it out myself” person or a “talk it out with someone” person?Scripture (Read Together)
Psalm 131:1–3, John 15:4-9, Col 3:12-17, Rom 8:15–16
What words or images stand out to you from these passages?What feels comforting about this picture of God?What feels challenging or unfamiliar?How does these passages describe the posture of God towards us?What do you notice about Jesus? What do these passages imply our posture toward God and others should be?How is this image different from how we often think about mental health and faith?Application
Do you tend to relate to God more through striving or resting?What helps you feel close to God when you’re overwhelmed?What might it look like for you to “abide” (John 15) this week?How does feeling secure with God change how we show up for others?What does “carrying one another’s burdens” (Galatians 6:2) look like in everyday life?When someone is hurting, what does presence look like instead of fixing?Prayer
Invite the group into a short, guided prayer:
God, help us receive your love—not try and earn it.
Calm our anxious hearts. Heal what has been wounded.
Teach us to be people of presence for one another. Amen.
Sit quietly for 30–60 seconds.Invite participants to picture themselves resting safely with God.Close with the Lord’s Prayer or Romans 8:15 spoken together.Going Deeper (If Time Allows)
What messages about independence or strength shaped you growing up?How might those messages influence your faith today?What would it look like for the church to be a place of secure attachment?At-Home Practice (Optional)
Spend 5 minutes this week in quiet prayer using Psalm 131.Practice being fully present with one person—no fixing, no rushing.Notice when you are tempted to withdraw or strive, and gently return to God.