Pastor Joey and Pastor Rob discuss the equal but different gender roles in a biblical marriage. Today they discuss wives... tomorrow is the husbands' turn.
Marriage as presented in Scripture is between a biological man and a biological woman and intended to be for life.
1. The command for wives is to submit to their own husband.
Ephesians 5:22 (ESV) Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
A. The meaning of the word, submit, is a military term and it means to arrange or rank under.
• The main idea is the relinquishing one’s rights to another person.
• The idea of submission is not subservience but of willingly following another’s leadership.
1 Peter 3:1 (ESV) Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives,
• When a wife submits to her husband, it is an act of obedience and worship.
Ephesians 5:22 (ESV) Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
B. Paul identified wives in an unqualified manner which makes the command apply to every wife.
C. Her own husband implies the mutual possessiveness of the marriage relationship.
Genesis 2:24 (NIV84) For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
1 Corinthians 7:4 (NIV84) The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.
• It’s a reminder that there is absolute equality in a marriage, even though the husband and wife have different roles or functions assigned by God.
2. The reason wives are to submit is because God has delegated authority to the husband to rule over and guard the family.
Ephesians 5:23 (NLT) For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church.
A. Paul used the example of Christ being the head of the church as an example of the marriage structure.
Colossians 1:18 (NIV84) And he is the head of the body, the church . . ..
• Being a leader in Christ’s Kingdom means being a servant!
B. What does submit in everything mean?
Ephesians 5:24 (NIV84) Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
• It means every area of life but not in matters that are sinful or in opposition to Scripture.