dating in your 30s is chaotic, hilarious, and unapologetically selective. in this episode of she’s probably talking to other guys (spttog), we dive deep into the reality of adult dating…moving from the chaos of red flags and uncertainty to knowing exactly what we want in a relationship.

we explore:

• why knowing what you want changes everything, and why settling for “potential” is no longer an option
• how patterns, consistency, and communication matter more than chemistry alone
• the power of boundaries and the freedom that comes from saying “not my thing” without guilt
• understanding yourself, what you’re willing to compromise on, and what parts of your life are non-negotiable
• how dating in your 30s isn’t about lowering standards, it’s about being unapologetic about what matters and letting go of what doesn’t

this episode is for anyone navigating the pressures, expectations, and realities of dating after 30. it’s messy, empowering, and full of insights that will help you approach love and relationships on your own terms.

🎧 listen here on spotify, as well as on, apple podcasts, iheartradio, or amazon music

🎥 watch the video episode on spotify and youtube

📱 follow @spttogpodcast for behind-the-scenes clips, updates, and extra insights

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dating in your 30s is chaotic, hilarious, and unapologetically selective. in this episode of she’s probably talking to other guys (spttog), we dive deep into the reality of adult dating…moving from the chaos of red flags and uncertainty to knowing exactly what we want in a relationship.

we explore:

• why knowing what you want changes everything, and why settling for “potential” is no longer an option
• how patterns, consistency, and communication matter more than chemistry alone
• the power of boundaries and the freedom that comes from saying “not my thing” without guilt
• understanding yourself, what you’re willing to compromise on, and what parts of your life are non-negotiable
• how dating in your 30s isn’t about lowering standards, it’s about being unapologetic about what matters and letting go of what doesn’t

this episode is for anyone navigating the pressures, expectations, and realities of dating after 30. it’s messy, empowering, and full of insights that will help you approach love and relationships on your own terms.

🎧 listen here on spotify, as well as on, apple podcasts, iheartradio, or amazon music

🎥 watch the video episode on spotify and youtube

📱 follow @spttogpodcast for behind-the-scenes clips, updates, and extra insights

dating in your 30s, single life, relationships, adult dating, dating advice, red flags, boundaries, thriving in your 30s, unapologetic dating, messy dating, spttog, she’s probably talking to other guys, the banannie diaries, annie rockhill, dating clarity, selective dating, intentional dating

have you ever noticed that the moment someone walks into a room confident…people get uncomfortable?

in this episode of the banannie diaries, we’re breaking down why being “too confident” isn’t a flaw, it’s a mirror. a mirror for insecurity. a mirror for comparison. a mirror for people who were taught to shrink instead of shine.

society labels confident women as “too much.”

confident men as “arrogant.”

and anyone who refuses to tone it down as “intimidating.”

but what if the discomfort isn’t about you at all?

in today’s episode, annie dives into:

• why confidence exposes insecurity in dating, friendships, and work

• the double standards around male vs female confidence

• why being “intimidating” is often a projection

• how to stop shrinking yourself to make others comfortable

• using discomfort as a filter for who belongs in your life

if you’ve ever been told to “tone it down,” “be humble,” or “not be so much”, this episode is your permission slip to stop apologizing.

because confidence isn’t the problem.

insecurity is.

🎙 tag someone who needs to hear this.

💬 share your take: is confidence empowering…or uncomfortable?

#spttog #shesprobablytooconfident #thebananniediaries #datingtruths #confidenceispower

have you ever noticed that the moment someone walks into a room confident…people get uncomfortable?

in this episode of the banannie diaries, we’re breaking down why being “too confident” isn’t a flaw, it’s a mirror. a mirror for insecurity. a mirror for comparison. a mirror for people who were taught to shrink instead of shine.

society labels confident women as “too much.”

confident men as “arrogant.”

and anyone who refuses to tone it down as “intimidating.”

but what if the discomfort isn’t about you at all?

in today’s episode, annie dives into:

• why confidence exposes insecurity in dating, friendships, and work

• the double standards around male vs female confidence

• why being “intimidating” is often a projection

• how to stop shrinking yourself to make others comfortable

• using discomfort as a filter for who belongs in your life

if you’ve ever been told to “tone it down,” “be humble,” or “not be so much”, this episode is your permission slip to stop apologizing.

because confidence isn’t the problem.

insecurity is.

🎙 tag someone who needs to hear this.

💬 share your take: is confidence empowering…or uncomfortable?

follow she's probably talking to other guys so you don’t miss next week’s episode!

#spttog #shesprobablytooconfident #thebananniediaries #datingtruths #confidenceispower

pop culture assumptions, rom-coms, disney obsessions, and marvel debates. rachel lives at the intersection of fashion and film, and she’s here to break it all down. from rewatching notting hill for style inspo, recreating bridget jones moments on instagram, to ranking adam sandler classics like a pro, we’re diving into what people really think about fans of movies and why most of it is wrong.

we’re talking fashion lessons from rom-coms and rom-dramas, adult disney fandoms and superhero style, iconic actors and actresses who inspire wardrobes (yes, jennifer aniston is still a vibe), crime shows, double lives, and why your favorite genres don’t define you.

this episode is rapid fire, slightly dramatic, and 100 percent main character energy. tune in to laugh, relate, and maybe pause your next movie…for an outfit shot.

Ig: @spttogpodcast |  @rachel.corridean

she’s probably pausing the movie…for an outfit shot | she’s probably talking to other guys (spttog) | the banannie diaries by annie

pop culture assumptions, rom-coms, disney obsessions, and marvel debates. rachel lives at the intersection of fashion and film, and she’s here to break it all down. from rewatching notting hill for style inspo, recreating bridget jones moments on instagram, to ranking adam sandler classics like a pro, we’re diving into what people really think about fans of movies and why most of it is wrong.

we’re talking fashion lessons from rom-coms and rom-dramas, adult disney fandoms and superhero style, iconic actors and actresses who inspire wardrobes (yes, jennifer aniston is still a vibe), crime shows, double lives, and why your favorite genres don’t define you.

this episode is rapid fire, slightly dramatic, and 100 percent main character energy. tune in to laugh, relate, and maybe pause your next movie…for an outfit shot.

ig: @spttogpodcast |  @rachel.corridean

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if you’ve ever been told you’re “too emotional”,felt judged for reacting too strongly or not at all…this episode is for you. in this episode of she’s probably talking to other guys, we dive into what emotional maturity really looks like, beyond the internet memes, outdated advice, and everyone else’s expectations.

we talk about spiraling, second-guessing yourself, and those moments when it feels like your emotions might take over. most importantly, we unpack how to pause, reflect, and respond in a way that keeps your trust in yourself intact. sometimes the strongest move isn’t reacting, it’s taking a breath and staying grounded.

this conversation is for anyone learning to feel deeply, think clearly, and own their emotional intelligence without apology. handling your emotions isn’t a flaw, it’s power, clarity, and self-respect all rolled into one.

🎧 listen now and share it with anyone who needs this reminder

valentine’s, galentine’s, and all the songs that make you feel every feeling at once. in this episode, rylin and i share our sweet and sour music picks, laugh about love and heartbreak, and get real on why the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself. whether you’re celebrating with your gal squad, your boo, or just vibing solo, we’re serving tunes, honesty, and a reminder to put yourself first 💖

🎧 stream now and let us soundtrack your love, laughter, and self-care

your habits speak louder than words. in this episode, i sit down with jake and chloe from creating fit families to talk about what it really takes to build a fitness business together while balancing life, leadership, and marriage. we dive into how discipline, consistency, and healthy routines create influence not just in business, but in every part of your life.

we talk about:
• running a fitness business as a couple
• building a brand through example
• balancing relationship, growth, and entrepreneurship
• leading with habits that inspire those around you

this isn’t just about fitness. it’s about culture, impact, and showing up intentionally every day. whether you’re building a business, a partnership, or just trying to level up your routines, this conversation is for anyone ready to lead by example.

follow, rate, and share with someone chasing big goals and creating influence through their daily habits.

find jake and chloe at @creatingfitfamilies and https://cffaus.com.au

not chaos. not gossip. not social media therapy.

in this episode, i’m sharing honest, nuanced thoughts on mental health culture, avoidance, softness, and personal responsibility. we unpack why “soft life” culture doesn’t always serve us, how therapy language became a personality, why discomfort isn’t trauma, and how avoidance sometimes masquerades as self-care.

we also talk about why discipline, structure, and accountability aren’t toxic, they can actually help us show up more fully in life.

this one’s for anyone who’s navigating the balance between caring for themselves and staying honest about what actually helps them grow. expect real talk, a few challenging ideas, and maybe a new perspective on what it means to show up with intention.

🎧 listen in, reflect, and maybe even question a few assumptions because growth isn’t always comfortable, but it’s always worth it.