是不為也，非不能也
We just don’t do it, not because we are not able to do it. It comes from《孟子梁惠王上篇》。Taking Mount Tai under your arm and crossing the northern sea, if you say, “I am unable,” that is really unable. Splitting wood for the elderly, if you say, “I am unable,” that is not acting, but not unable.
《孟子梁惠王上篇》：王曰： 「不為者與不能者之形，何以異？」孟子曰：「挾泰山，以超北海，語人曰：『我不能』，是誠不能也。為長者折枝，語人曰：『我不能』，是不為也，非不能也。」王說：「不肯做和不能做，有什麼分別呢？」
孟子說：「挾著泰山，跳過北海，告訴人說：『我不能』，那是真的不能。為年長的長輩做一點小事，如折一根小樹枝，告訴人說：『我不能』，那是不肯去做，並非做不到。」「不為」是我們平時對待生活和工作的態度，「不能」是我們頭頂上的目標，兩者就像「腳踏實地」和「仰望星空」，如果做不到「腳踏實地」，就不能真正的「仰望星空」。所以，我們要做的，就是實現一個由「不為」到「有為」，由「不能」到「可能」，然後到「能夠」的一個過程。如果我們能夠克服懈怠，抵制誘惑，胸懷目標和毅力，堅持不懈的去做，還是不能的話，就需要靠智慧了。我們每一個人進步的過程，就像電腦的軟體、程式一樣，軟體配合硬體，就會發揮出意想不到的作品。曾經，有一對夫妻要創業，他們賣的是甲魚。他們一心想成功，策略是把甲魚蛋，送到學校，免費給小學生，並讓他們父母陪同孩子去領取。這些甲魚蛋，玲瓏透亮，非常好看，孩子們都好喜歡。他們帶回家後，都努力想盡辦法，把小甲魚孵化出來。藉著這次的活動，此夫妻也就提高了知名度，打開了廣大的市場。所以，我們不是不能，是不為也。再者，如果我們真的什麼都做了，還是因為天時地利人和的不同，造成失敗，應該要如何面對呢？要知道，過程永遠大於結果，經驗和教訓是我們每一個人最寶貴的財富。就算徹底失敗，我們也換來了美好難忘的記憶，以後有機會，我們還是有可能成功的。人的命運，常常不可能一帆風順，甚至，有人一生，都時運不濟，命途多舛。況且，就算有才能的人，如果遇到無法抗爭的力量，也會失敗。因此，我們永遠都要記得，只要我們「有情」，「有志」，「有智」，「有責」，無論如何，我們都能變成「有能、有為」的開拓者和創造者的。
     We just don’t do it, not because we are not able to do it. On the contrary, we should say, “we can make it!” During tough times, or when we’re under stress, we all try to keep ourselves going. The sentence, “Everything happens for a reason,” reminds us of our values, so we can connect to a little positive encouragement when we need it. When we’re feeling less than confident, we might tell ourselves to just “fake it until we make it.” There are days when we just don’t feel our best. We might be under the cold weather, distracted by other things, or dealing with grief. Sometimes, when we need to push forward anyway, we act as if everything’s fine. Our body languages and actions certainly impact our mood and vice versa. These all show us that we don’t feel like doing anything well. In that case, mentorship and coaching relationships are built on authenticity and vulnerability, and are made for our benefits. We don’t pretend we can make it, but we need support. The fact is that anything we’re working to master will feel awkward at first. We talk to ourselves, “we just don’t do it, not because we are not able to do it.” We, then, continue to practice it until the new habits become more natural. It is one of the possibilities that we can make it. 
Moreover, in order to make things better, we have to know ourselves. When we have a better understanding of ourselves, we’re able to experience ourselves as the persons we truly are. No two people are exactly alike, so our journeys and plans will be unique to only our personalities and experiences. The more we know about ourselves, the better we will be good at setting intentions and overcoming barriers toward our life experiences and desires. Self-awareness is empowering! Everyone’s path to success is unique. There are countless successful stories about athletes, celebrities, monks, entrepreneurs and corporate executives, and each one has found their inner source of motivation and tapped into it. It’s their personal superpower. Therefore, finding our personal superpower is very important, and it begins with our self-awareness.    

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