How many times do the things that cause you discomfort have to repeat before we learn from them. Blinded by the bad repetitive behaviour we face, we are hopeful that the chances we give to others will eventually lead them to showing us the same respect that we have always showed them. The same issues that keep on arising are proof of someone being an opportunist who will always follow the same predictable patterns, "it's all about me philosophy". Nothing will change if you dont change it yourself by taking away their chance of opportunity. We are to blame if we let them disappreciate our value, for that we are not here to be their relief and saviour every time they get themselves into the deep end, especially when it is always going to be one sided. This would be okay if the respect shown were mutual but the moment you test a persons loyalty is the moment you are disappointed by facts. They don't care about anyone but themselves, they believe the deserve more than the next person and they will never do half of what you do for them. So accept the fact that you are not appreciated and you will move forward once you cut your losses because of the time that you've felt that you have wasted trying to make the relationship work. Life is hard enough without having a so called friend dragging you down, so don't be hard on you be hard on them.

If you look close enough you will see more than the superficial, you will see the layers of alternative perspectives that open your eyes to the truth. Where the facts are being ignored lies are put in place to mask the truth of the true situation all to protect those who are willing to be honest from being punished for stating the obvious truth. People who are aware of the outcome of sharing their honest thoughts choose to divert to lies all to ensure that their vulnerabilities aren't on show for the cynical minds to be able to disect their views and use them as a negative tell. If no one knows what your annoyances are then you are safe, but the actual truth is buried under all the lies of your deceit and neglect of the truth. So is it better to share the truth and risk the outcome that it brings for speaking the truth? Or is it better to not be the nail that stands up infront of the hammer waiting to knocked down? The answer is what do you have on the line? and is it worth your honest opinion?. We are all made different some of us see deeply into life while others are content being happy in their own ignorance, either way you do you because whatever gets you through the day and to the next is better than you being miserable and therefore struggling with life's challenges.

Those of us who recognise the selfish acts of people who use chameleon tactics to try to camouflage their true selfish intentions refuse to fall victim to their manipulative ways. The shifty chameleons dont like it when you can see through their lies and see them for who they really are because they strongly believe that they are smarter than those that they are trying to fool. Even though not everyone speaks up many see them for who they are but prefer to avoid the conflict that comes with confrontation. Showing them that you can see their true intentions forces them to change their tactics and forces them to come to terms with the fact that they arent as smart as they think that they are which results in them being overly frustrated and grumpier for most of the time. Many of the chameleons spend alot of their time on trying to figure out how they can manipulate someone even in the most normal conversations but they don't realise that when you steer away from your normal behaviour you stand out like a sore thumb. So if your nice only for some of the time then people will wonder what is your angle? And what do you you really want? Chameleons dont want to show you their true colours because the truth that they deny is a lot uglier when it's not filtered. So if you have grown to be selfish and you really don't stand for anything but your own needs than own it and see how many people choose to be a part of your world. Or be someone who people would rather flock to because you are the person who has others in mind when you make important decisions by showing others the respect that they show you. Your choices lead to your consequences so don't blame others for where you've ended up.

Some people get frustrated if they are not the centre of attention all the time. When they are not included in the conversation they will pony around until the groups eyes are only on them. Showing off only when the crowd is watching them in the hope that you would see them as though they have things under complete control and that they are stand out happy all the time. Their disguise may please the crowd but when your show pony varies so much from your true self that will only come out when the doors are closed in the comfort of your own home it is unhealthy. Their insecurities force them to take part in a conversation even when they have nothing to say, this leads to them putting their dignity on the line all for a laugh. They parade the floor showing others that they are confident in all aspects of their life even though they might have struggles in their life that are adding to their insecurities. To ignore the pain is to deny the pain and how you are actually feeling now masking it with a smile will mean your sorrows will be overlooked and you will never have the assistance that could get you out of your slump. They don't realise that our struggles might be different but we all try to deal with them the best we can by not ignoring them and pretending they dont exist will put you in the line of faking your conversations all to prevent anyone from getting to know the real you. The more you act past what you are really feeling the more the show pony takes control of you and puts you into a rollecoaster where you will lose yourself. So entertain all you like but not at the detriment of who you are. Acting the fool will lead to people treating you like a fool. Their is more substance in being real than ignoring your reality, so less pony and more you.

Once you've reached the level of favoured you can do no wrong. You no longer have to share the repercussions of your actions that others have to face head on all because the others are seen in either a neutral or below neutral standing from those who are holding the power stick. Even though we are supposedly all part of the same team only the favoured have an unlimited get out of jail free cards for all their indiscretions because they have managed to build a relationship with those in power. Those in power stretch out their neck to shield the favoured then go twice as heavy on anyone else who notices that the favours don't go all around. This forces you to play cat and mouse to even out the playing field. Once you choose to stand up for your beliefs the standing back up pounces onto you highlighting that the rules have changed for you and will continually change out of your favour. So you either put a lid on trying fight for equality by keeping peaceful thoughts against those who trample on peace with their lies or you confront the liar and wait to hear them stumble with the words that their are no favourites here.

We strive to remove the hardship from our life so that we can live a life without stress and struggles, but its the intolerable levels of hardship that we have to face that has helped us in discovering our true potential. Living a life where the things that you desire are handed to you on a silver platter will only take your desire to try further away, because there is no sense of achievement for something that comes that easy to you, this eventually leaves you in a weaken and vulnerable state of mind where you wont do anything ever for yourself untill those helping remove thier assistance. A life that is so simple leaves us feeling that we cant achieve greatness because we have never got ourselves out of our comfort zone because the fear of failure has controlled us. Not trying to pursue our dreams and staying where we are most comfortable is failing yourself because you have never given yourself the chance to meet your full potential. Let your passions guide you to a place where its worth the risk and even though you may fall there is nothing that can hold you down when your are focused on your passion. So if you plan to use your life appropriately then live it trying to reach your full potential chasing it passionately and maybe you'll surprise yourself because we only know what is around the corner if we get off the couch and look.

Once you've made up your mind and decided what you want it's up to you alone to put steps in place in order to get yourself closer to your ideal job. This important decision shouldn't be taken lightly because it can sometimes seem an easy choice but when you have only focused on the advantages of the other job then its easy to fall in the trap of believing the grass is actually greener on the otherside. There is good and bad parts in any job but the questions we forget to ask ourselves is, Does the good out weigh the bad in the new job opportunity? And will your life change dramatically for the better with your new job? Changing your job on regular basis will eventually tire you out because the older you get the harder you'll find getting back on track with learning a new skillset. Our threshold to pressure varies from individual to individual, whether a high pressure job is any better than a low pressure job depends on the individual?. More money usually means more work unless you have managed a strategy to get more money with minimal work. Not all jobs are about the money some are purely about the reward you get for being successful in your chosen field. If we all chased the money more people would drop what they like, for what will bring them more dough. So if your passions aren't tied to a high end job then just focus on what job will fit your happiness requirements and let others dwell on their money situation and wonder why they have less time to enjoy because of their high paying job.

We live in a world where there are rules put in place to keep things in an organised order rather than letting the chance of chaos to determine our fate. No matter whether it's right or wrong the order to things that keeps the momentum moving forward is regarded as the path that should be followed, so if your not keeping up with the direction that the world moves in then you'll be left behind no matter of your status. When faced with a dilemma that may compromise your views Is it better to bend your values or fold them?. The choice to say what is on your mind should be weighed up against the likelihood of your point being interpreted in the way that it is intended rather than opening up and telling all while others keep quiet with their personal views. If your point of view no matter how valid it is, is ignored and brushed aside because the facts fail to impress then you have wasted your time trying to show someone the sensible option and all you've managed to achieve is creating conflict between you both. Sometimes choosing to speak their language, play the same games that they play is the better option otherwise you'll give them all while they give you bare minimum. So choose your battles wisely and make sure you ownly open to those who aren't trying to tear you down. Your life will be less weary if the drama in your life is on the TV set not a part of your lifestyle.

Growing up some of us thrive the more we tick off our bucket list while others dont even have a bucket list to check. Whether your one who's content with where you lie or you prefer to keep busy ticking as many boxes as you can, your reasons for doing what you do are your own. Desires that dont push you enough to stand up and move forward so that you could reach your full potential might feel like your wasting your time but we are not all going in the same direction chasing the same reward. Someone who craves more for themselves will do whatever it takes to get what they want out of life because you can not be the best version of yourself without putting in the hard work. The moment you come to terms with the fact that self-realization is the key that will guide your life to excellence will be the moment you strive to reach your full potential with all your being because your happiness is on the line and we all dont want to let ourselves down. The more we ignore our desires and pretend to be something that we are not the more we are likely to lose ourselves in our made up lies where we convince ourselves that we are content with the bare minimum. The mind is such a powerful tool that when we choose to ignore its message willingly by disregarding what is the right path for us over what is an easier fix the unresolved issues we ignore can have an underlying affect on us with the build up of stress that can makes us physically sick. Having a healthy mindset is the only way that we should be, by doing what is right for you and your peers you will remain positive with a clear conscience where there will be only true justification with all your choices. The moment you go against the person that your trying to portray will be the moment your body says no. So don't ignore your body and strive to be the best version of yourself with only the truth to guide you.

We are surrounded by information everyday, but how we interpret that information varies from individual to individual. People who believe in multiple truths will always highlight their views as "my truth" but if truth was based only on your own personal view point and not a universal view point then how are we ever as a society supposed to see eye to eye when there is conflict. Truth is universal because it is aligned with facts that is why we all have to accept it as factual reality whether it works in our favour or not because that is the first step to establish common ground with one another. Without the right information infront of us we would all struggle to make sense of the world because where reality and truth collide there will only be conflict. Our core belief system influences how we interpret the information that we receive as either true or as false but because the information is siphoned from a limited source it forces us to fill in the gaps by guessing the rest, this is why we all may think we are right but where common sense is ignored its likely not to be you. Our version of the truth relys solely on what we think is the best representation of the truth even though we may only have a piece of the puzzle, but this can change easily with the discovery of new valid information. So before you choose to make up your mind on what's true maybe put a bit of thought on the other side of the fence and try not to be distracted by your emotions.