I’ve a story for you this week.

It’s about a very hard thing that happened when I was young.

And I very much needed a sit-down conversation with my parents.

 

(The full story is in this week’s video and podcast – 4 mins)

 

And this week I am answering the question ‘Should “a talk” be more formal, or more relaxed?’

 

But, you know what?

 

In my family, with my own kids,

we don’t really have a lot of formal, serious, sit-down type convos.

 

But we do talk. About some big stuff.

 

And here’s the thing.

You can actually have plenty of ‘talks’

where it doesn’t happen in a formal, sitting-down way.

 

You can chat in the car. (As we do here every week!)

You can chat while walking the dogs.

Or doing some other thing your family does all the time.

 

A ‘talk’ doesn’t have to look like a board meeting.

 

And that’s great news.

 

Because it means you can think about how YOUR family works.

How do you chat about things as a family?

How you decide things?

Where are your own comfort zones?

 

What does your older kid(s) need, for ‘buy-in’ (to actually listen to you, and hear you).

:)

 

When you know the answer to those questions ☝ then you can figure out YOUR ways to ‘talk’ from there.

 

For more about how to have the big talks and the ‘small and often’ talks,

and to hear my little story about a really big talk that involved quite a lot of crying,

listen to the podcast (4 mins).