Should is a much over used word. I spot it in my clients quite often and in myself. It comes from a sense that something is supposed to be different to how it is. Another person's behaviour, a situation or the way we are.

When we use the word 'should' it feels unpleasant and it is easy to think that feeling is coming from the person, situation or what's wrong with us. That feeling truthfully has other information in it. It's letting us know about our thinking about those things. It's letting us know that we are resisting what is. All we need to do is see that and it gradually falls away.

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