Teri Netterville and Denise Arthur believe it is not appropriate to take advantage of your family members when it comes to caring for your own children. It is quite fine for Grandparents to keep their grandchildren when they want to and when it does not interfere with other things they would be doing. It is quite different if you are using grandparents as a substitute for having to pay for daycare. You should always offer to pay or to do something special in return.