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Should You Keep Dating Her?
Should You Keep Dating Her? "She Believes in God, But Wants Nothing to Do With Him"
Episode Description
Two years together. Countless conversations, shared meals, and whispered "I love yous." And then she said the words that changed everything: "I'm sure God is real, but He doesn't have anything to do with me." If you've ever felt your heart split down the middle between romance and faith, this episode is for you. We tackle one of the hardest questions Christian singles face: Do you choose the person you love, or the God you serve?
Key Takeaways
Truth #1: This Isn't About You—It's About Her Soul Stop focusing on what you want (your church, your kids, your routine) and start focusing on what she needs: Christ as her Savior. Don't just talk about faith as a lifestyle—talk about Christ as her Savior.
Truth #2: Her Words Reveal Pain—But Also Opportunity "I'm sure God is real, but He doesn't have anything to do with me" likely comes from deep wounds. But it also reveals she believes God exists—that's a foundation you can build on through God's Word, not religion.
Truth #3: "Unequally Yoked" Isn't Just Religious Jargon—It's a Warning In marriage, your spouse isn't just your romantic partner—she's your spiritual teammate. If you're pulling in different directions spiritually, the tension will only grow and show up in decisions, parenting, and values.
Truth #4: Be the Salt and Light—Not the Savior Live in a way that makes her thirsty for the God you serve. But don't confuse romance with rescue. Only the Holy Spirit can convict her and bring her to Christ—your job is to reflect Him.
Truth #5: Walking Away Isn't Giving Up—It's Growing Up After investing time, emotions, and dreams, walking away feels like ripping your heart out. But as a follower of Jesus, obedience must win over emotion. God isn't trying to ruin your love life—He's protecting your future.
The Real Questions to Ask
Instead of: "How do I get her to want what I want?" Ask: "What does God want for both of us?"
Maybe God wants to draw her to Himself through your faithful witness. Or maybe He wants to free you both to find someone truly equally yoked. Or maybe this relationship is the enemy's trap to slowly pull you away from Christ.
Scripture References
2 Corinthians 6:14 - "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what fellowship has light with darkness?"
Matthew 5:13-16 - Being salt of the earth and light of the world
The importance of having Christ at the center when marriage gets hard
Warning Signs
Don't settle for someone who:
Merely tolerates your faith
Has to be dragged to church
Believes God is real but irrelevant
Refuses to even consider reading the Bible or knowing God
What to Look For Instead
Look for someone who loves Jesus more than she loves you. When marriage gets hard, when parenting gets overwhelming, when life throws curveballs—you'll need Christ at the center every single day.
Final Thought
A godly marriage is one where both partners are running in the same direction, toward the same Savior, with the same eternal purpose—not one constantly pulling apart. Only honest prayer and biblical counsel can help you discern which path honors Him most.
Connect With Us
Newsletter: www.theequallyyoked.comMatchmaking services: https://matrimonystation.in Latest article: How to Evaluate a Christian Man - 5 Essential Questions https://equallyyoked.substack.com/p/how-to-evaluate-a-christian-man-5
This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit equallyyoked.substack.com
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By By Matrimony StationShould You Keep Dating Her? "She Believes in God, But Wants Nothing to Do With Him"
Episode Description
Two years together. Countless conversations, shared meals, and whispered "I love yous." And then she said the words that changed everything: "I'm sure God is real, but He doesn't have anything to do with me." If you've ever felt your heart split down the middle between romance and faith, this episode is for you. We tackle one of the hardest questions Christian singles face: Do you choose the person you love, or the God you serve?
Key Takeaways
Truth #1: This Isn't About You—It's About Her Soul Stop focusing on what you want (your church, your kids, your routine) and start focusing on what she needs: Christ as her Savior. Don't just talk about faith as a lifestyle—talk about Christ as her Savior.
Truth #2: Her Words Reveal Pain—But Also Opportunity "I'm sure God is real, but He doesn't have anything to do with me" likely comes from deep wounds. But it also reveals she believes God exists—that's a foundation you can build on through God's Word, not religion.
Truth #3: "Unequally Yoked" Isn't Just Religious Jargon—It's a Warning In marriage, your spouse isn't just your romantic partner—she's your spiritual teammate. If you're pulling in different directions spiritually, the tension will only grow and show up in decisions, parenting, and values.
Truth #4: Be the Salt and Light—Not the Savior Live in a way that makes her thirsty for the God you serve. But don't confuse romance with rescue. Only the Holy Spirit can convict her and bring her to Christ—your job is to reflect Him.
Truth #5: Walking Away Isn't Giving Up—It's Growing Up After investing time, emotions, and dreams, walking away feels like ripping your heart out. But as a follower of Jesus, obedience must win over emotion. God isn't trying to ruin your love life—He's protecting your future.
The Real Questions to Ask
Instead of: "How do I get her to want what I want?" Ask: "What does God want for both of us?"
Maybe God wants to draw her to Himself through your faithful witness. Or maybe He wants to free you both to find someone truly equally yoked. Or maybe this relationship is the enemy's trap to slowly pull you away from Christ.
Scripture References
2 Corinthians 6:14 - "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what fellowship has light with darkness?"
Matthew 5:13-16 - Being salt of the earth and light of the world
The importance of having Christ at the center when marriage gets hard
Warning Signs
Don't settle for someone who:
Merely tolerates your faith
Has to be dragged to church
Believes God is real but irrelevant
Refuses to even consider reading the Bible or knowing God
What to Look For Instead
Look for someone who loves Jesus more than she loves you. When marriage gets hard, when parenting gets overwhelming, when life throws curveballs—you'll need Christ at the center every single day.
Final Thought
A godly marriage is one where both partners are running in the same direction, toward the same Savior, with the same eternal purpose—not one constantly pulling apart. Only honest prayer and biblical counsel can help you discern which path honors Him most.
Connect With Us
Newsletter: www.theequallyyoked.comMatchmaking services: https://matrimonystation.in Latest article: How to Evaluate a Christian Man - 5 Essential Questions https://equallyyoked.substack.com/p/how-to-evaluate-a-christian-man-5
This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit equallyyoked.substack.com