<a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1932279/open_sms">Send us a text</a>A simple question can close a door—or open a life. After Lynn’s husband, Jim, died without warning, I thought giving space was kindness. I watched her carry herself with strength, and I told myself she’d ask if she needed me. What I missed were the quieter signs: a new sadness behind her eyes.If you’re walking with someone widowed or grieving—whether it’s been weeks or years—this conversation gives you language, courage, and a way back to presence. Listen for practical grief support, faith-rooted encouragement, and a reminder that love is in the returning: ask, listen, remember, and come back again. The conversation moves from regret to a clear set of tools anyone can use to support a widowed loved one with care. • sudden loss and the shock that follows • giving space versus showing up with intention • how outward steadiness can hide deep pain • faith as a model for consistent friendship • apologizing without excuses and making amends • practical, specific questions that invite truth • concrete offers of help and time-bound check-ins • honoring memories and repeated storytelling • committing to proactive, gentle outreach

Send us a text A simple question can close a door—or open a life. After Lynn’s husband, Jim, died without warning, I thought giving space was kindness. I watched her carry herself with strength, and I told myself she’d ask if she needed me. What I missed were the quieter signs: a new sadness behind her eyes. If you’re walking with someone widowed or grieving—whether it’s been weeks or years—this conversation gives you language, courage, and a way back to presence. Listen for practical grief support, faith-rooted encouragement, and a reminder that love is in the returning: ask, listen, remember, and come back again. The conversation moves from regret to a clear set of tools anyone can use to support a widowed loved one with care. • sudden loss and the shock that follows • giving space versus showing up with intention • how outward steadiness can hide deep pain • faith as a model for consistent friendship • apologizing without excuses and making amends • practical, specific questions that invite truth • concrete offers of help and time-bound check-ins • honoring memories and repeated storytelling • committing to proactive, gentle outreach

<a href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1932279/open_sms" rel="noopener noreferrer">Send us a text</a>A simple question can close a door—or open a life. After Lynn’s husband, Jim, died without warning, I thought giving space was kindness. I watched her carry herself with strength, and I told myself she’d ask if she needed me. What I missed were the quieter signs: a new sadness behind her eyes.If you’re walking with someone widowed or grieving—whether it’s been weeks or years—this conversation gives you language, courage, and a way back to presence. Listen for practical grief support, faith-rooted encouragement, and a reminder that love is in the returning: ask, listen, remember, and come back again.&nbsp;The conversation moves from regret to a clear set of tools anyone can use to support a widowed loved one with care. • sudden loss and the shock that follows • giving space versus showing up with intention • how outward steadiness can hide deep pain • faith as a model for consistent friendship • apologizing without excuses and making amends • practical, specific questions that invite truth • concrete offers of help and time-bound check-ins • honoring memories and repeated storytelling • committing to proactive, gentle outreach

Showing Up For Grief

This podcast is sponsored by SOULPLUSGRACE serving the San José area, offering grief support and grief journeying with spirituality.&nbsp; I hope to help you travel through grief with God at your side.&nbsp; "I am a trained Spiritual Director for those who seek to complete the 19th Annotation of St. Igantius’ spiritual exercises OR seek spiritual direction while grieving.&nbsp; I have also worked as a hospital/cemetery chaplain and grief doula. I believe all paths lead to God and that all traditions are due respect and honour. I take my sacred inspiration from all of my patients and companions–past, present and future; the Dalai Lama, James Tissot, St. John of the Cross, the Buddha, Saint Teresa of Ávila, and, of course, Íñigo who became known as St. Ignatius. I utilize art, poetry, music, aromatherapy, yoga, lectio divina, prayer and meditation in my self-work and work with others. I believe in creating a sacred space for listening; even in the most incongruous of surroundings." BACKGROUND<ul><li>Jesuit Retreat Center, Los Altos, CA -- Pierre Favre Program, 3 year training to give the Spiritual Exercises of Saint Ignatius</li><li>Centro de Espiritualidad de Loyola, Spain -- The Spiritual Exercises of St Ignatius of Loyola -- 30 Day Silent Retreat/</li><li>Center for Loss &amp; Life Transition – Comprehensive Bereavement Skills Training (30 hrs) Ft. Collins, CO</li><li>California State University Institute for Palliative Care--Palliative Care Chaplaincy Specialty Cert. (90 hrs)</li><li>Sequoia Hospital, Redwood City, CA -- Clinical Pastoral Education</li><li>19th Annotation with Fumiaki Tosu, San Jose, CA, Spiritual Exercises of St. Ignatius</li><li>Santa Clara University, Santa Clara, CA M.A. – Pastoral Ministries </li></ul>CONTACT ME:&nbsp; candeelucas@soulplusgrace.com with questions to be answered in future episodes.

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This podcast is sponsored by SOULPLUSGRACE serving the San José area, offering grief support and grief journeying with spirituality.  I hope to help you travel through grief with God at your side.  "I am a trained Spiritual Director for those who seek to complete the 19th Annotation of St. Igantius’ spiritual exercises OR seek spiritual direction while grieving.  I have also worked as a hospital/cemetery chaplain and grief doula. I believe all paths lead to God and that all traditions are due respect and honour. I take my sacred inspiration from all of my patients and companions–past, present and future; the Dalai Lama, James Tissot, St. John of the Cross, the Buddha, Saint Teresa of Ávila, and, of course, Íñigo who became known as St. Ignatius. I utilize art, poetry, music, aromatherapy, yoga, lectio divina, prayer and meditation in my self-work and work with others. I believe in creating a sacred space for listening; even in the most incongruous of surroundings." BACKGROUNDJesuit Retreat Center, Los Altos, CA -- Pierre Favre Program, 3 year training to give the Spiritual Exercises of Saint IgnatiusCentro de Espiritualidad de Loyola, Spain -- The Spiritual Exercises of St Ignatius of Loyola -- 30 Day Silent Retreat/Center for Loss & Life Transition – Comprehensive Bereavement Skills Training (30 hrs) Ft. Collins, COCalifornia State University Institute for Palliative Care--Palliative Care Chaplaincy Specialty Cert. (90 hrs)Sequoia Hospital, Redwood City, CA -- Clinical Pastoral Education19th Annotation with Fumiaki Tosu, San Jose, CA, Spiritual Exercises of St. IgnatiusSanta Clara University, Santa Clara, CA M.A. – Pastoral Ministries CONTACT ME:  candeelucas@soulplusgrace.com with questions to be answered in future episodes.

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