In this episode, Amanda and Ashley unpack the tension every believer feels between control and surrender. With Gospel-centered insight, they explore how our grip on control often stems from fear and insecurity — a struggle that dates all the way back to the Garden of Eden — and how true freedom is found when we surrender everything to Christ.
They reflect on motherhood, daily responsibilities, and the everyday moments where we try to hold tightly to outcomes… and where God invites us to release our grip and rest in His sovereign goodness.
What You’ll Hear in This Episode…
- Why we instinctively try to control our seasons of motherhood.
- How control can be an illusion — and what that means for our faith.
- The connection between surrender and trusting God’s character rather than our own strength.
- Practical ways to notice where we’re holding on too tightly — and how to shift toward surrender.
Things We Have Influence Over…
(As discussed in the episode)
- Our thoughts
- Our boundaries
- Our words
- Our behavior
- Asking for help
- Our choices
- Our friends
- Expressing our feelings
Things We Do Not Have Influence Over…
(Also discussed on the episode)
- The future
- Other people’s ideas
- The past
- Other people’s feelings
- The weather
- Other people’s thoughts
- Other people’s mistakes
- Other people’s actions or opinions
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Resources:
Ben Stuart quote- "When you cant see his hand, you can trust his heart."
Alyssa Bethke book, When Doing It all in Undoing You chart mentioned initially from Raising boys and Girls Podcast...
"THINGS I HAVE INFLUENCE OVER"
* my thoughts
* my boundaries
*my words
*my behavior
* asking for help
* my choices
* my friends
* expressing my feelings
* my goals
"THINGS I DO NOT HAVE INFLUENCE OVER"
* the future
* other people's ideas
* the past
* other people's feelings
* the weather
* other people's thoughts
* other people's mistakes
* other people's actions
* other people's opinions
Quote from "Risen Motherhood" book-
“Even when well-meaning plans fail, we can surrender our will, our desires, and our dreams to embrace whatever it is he’s doing in and for us. This kind of submission will move our hearts from drudgery to delight. What if we accepted the beauty that God, in his sovereignty, wants to cultivate something different than we expected in the hours of that missed nap? We might have a fussy toddler on one hip and a screaming baby on the other, but circumstances like these press us into the joy of sanctification that the Lord graciously ordained in order that we might look more like his Son. He isn’t asking us to go anywhere that he himself hasn’t been. Isn’t this what Jesus did for us over 2,000 years ago as he prayed, “Father, if you are willing, remove this cup from me. Nevertheless, not my will, but yours, be done” (Luke 22:42). By his example, Jesus enables us to surrender everything about our lives for the sake of those around us (1 John 3:16).
This kind of sacrificial surrender involves prioritizing God’s agenda above our own, which often includes prioritizing the needs of those he has put in our homes above our own. As mothers, we know this isn’t always glamorous. But our Father orchestrated each of our lives—both the hard and the effortless— to remind us that every single thing on this earth is under his ultimate control (Ps. 103:19). And because
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