How we talk to ourselves matters. I was asked to share an episode on positive self-talk and want to open up with a review of the common mindset traps (cognitive distortions) we can have. By noticing these cognitive distortions we can better understand how we might be holding ourselves back and the impact our thinking can have on our lives and relationships. I will share the common cognitive distortions, what they are, and some examples that we might have in motherhood and life. 

 

 

Topics in this episode and related links you might like:

Habit tracking for the new year

Habit Change, for Moms Playlist is right here)

Positive self-talk

consider what story and emotion are you operating from

Why it matters what you think (limiting mindsets in motherhood)

What are cognitive distortions

The negative filter we see things through

How cognitive distortions impact our assumptions and view of things 

How they impact our behaviours, relationships and lives 

Common cognitive distortions

(wallpaper download form is below)

All or Nothing 

Our marriage was struggling, here are 12 things that helped us heal and strengthen it

162. Think the best of me, or not. Allowing the hard and awesome in ourselves and in our lives.

Overgeneralization 

158. MVP/ Do you typecast your kids? How labels impact our parenting and our children

Catastrophizing

Personalization

Jumping to Conclusions

Mindreading

misFortune Telling 

Emotional Reasoning

Should Statements

Discounting the Positive 

Minimize the positive

Focus on the negative

How to handle cognitive distortions

how to pay attention to your thoughts, challenge your thoughts, the power of noticing and naming 

 

The cognitive distortion downloads/wallpapers, if you can't see the sign up box then click here

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What does it mean to live on purpose? This is a question I get from listeners who want to live intentionally but aren't sure how to apply it to daily life (as a mom, because mom life has a lot of urgency and autopilot wrapped into it).  I want to unpack how I approach intentional living on a daily basis as well as the bigger picture. 

 

This is a listener question: how do we live each day with intention and purpose? 

We will cover what holds you back from intentional living and how to get started with simple steps.

Main topics covered in this episode (and related links):

Feeling unmotivated with life

For the mom who is ‘waiting’ for life to happen

177. Understanding what is motivating you (chasing vs avoiding)

Feeling swept up in routine and living on autopilot 

79. Six signs you are living your life on autopilot (and what to do about it)

Deciding you are ready to make a change and pursue intentional living

The Making Change Challenge

Decluttering the distractions, to make way for living intentionally

189. Prioritizing the day: if everything matters nothing matters and how to apply this in motherhood

161. Why having LESS matters, the benefits of decluttering and minimalism

Intentional Phone Habits Series

The Eisenhower matrix (important/non-important, urgent/non-urgent) can help you set daily focus 

Looking out for all-or-nothing thinking when it comes to approaching life on purpose

The power of small shifts done consistently, to help you shift into intentional living

78. Small things that can change your whole life (the compound effect)

133. 4 simple habits that make my momlife better

Setting your intention starts with getting to know what you want your life to look like

176. When you don’t know what you want in life. Life on purpose for the non-dreamer

Having a vision to be intentional towards, what this can look like and tools you can try

Know Where You Are Going (why vision setting matters + free LIVE YOUR VISION worksheets)

Deciding what your future holds, on purpose and not on autopilot

175. What will your future be? More of the same? Or will you turn off the autopilot?

Having more fun with life on purpose

138. Is momlife UNFUN? How to be a more FUN MOM, stop withholding fun from yourself

Knowing your values is key to feeling like you are living intentionally

How to get that feeling (why values matter + free LIVE YOUR VALUES worksheet)

149. How to find what matters to you (uncovering your personal values)

Aligning your action with your values

69. Will a simpler home bring me peace?

Other tools you can use to help you live your life on purpose

The Life on Purpose Workbook

Life on Purpose Roadmap

 

As mentioned in this episode:

The enneagram was referenced, here is a series on the Enneagram + Motherhood 

Hygge was mentioned, here is a post called Hygge vs Minimalism

The Spotify Playlists for all Simple on Purpose episodes right here. 

The Let's Get More Time Virtual Summit, registration opens in February 

The Facebook group, a place for you to share thoughts and questions and support 

 

Full Transcript

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Hey friends, it's Shawna, your nerdy girlfriend and counselor from simple on purpose.ca. Welcome back to 2024 with the simple on purpose podcast.

0:09

So it's been a while I think my last episode was about a month ago. And I was in that winter break mode with the kids home and I took time off work. And it was really cozy and Heuga relaxing. We had lots of slow mornings, we had lots of stick and Puck that the kids were going to during the day and movies on the couch.

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So coming back to the routine, the routine of school lunches, and after school drop offs and pickups and I tell you that like second shift for me that three to 8pm, maybe three to nine, by the time everyone's in bed,

This is part 2 of the situations that can feel tough around the holidays. We explore how we deal with grief, family dynamics and clashes and ways we can take care of ourselves and look for ways to enjoy what is available to us. Tips from a counsellor to consider for the holiday season. 

 

 

Main topics of this episode:

Part 1 unpacked topics like anticipatory anxiety, routines, loneliness, overspending and transitions 

196. When The Holidays Feel Hard (stress, anxiety, loneliness, overspending, transitions)- tips from a Counsellor

Dealing with grief over the holidays

When you need permission to grieve

The 4 tasks of grieving

Canadian Grief Support mygrief.ca

Family dynamics

Owning your own values 

149. How to find what matters to you (uncovering your personal values)

Family roles 

8 common family roles

134. Do you typecast your kids? (Labels + how they impact our parenting and our kids)

Boundaries help maintain a relationship vs barriers which block a relationship

Knowing when to use each one

Coping well, taking care of your capacity over the holidays 

The Meeting Your Needs Series

Bringing the fun with you, you are allowed to enjoy moments

162. Think the best of me, or not. Allowing the hard and awesome in ourselves and in our lives.

Finding Joy In Your Every Day (#theperfectmomentsproject)

163. Have fun with your kids, on purpose + reasons we don’t have fun

Five Tips to Make Your Christmas Simpler and More Enjoyable

When Did I Stop Enjoying My Kids? (and my journey back to enjoying them)

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Hi, It is Shawna, your nerdy girlfriend counselor from simple on purpose.ca Welcome to the simple on purpose podcast. And I'm just going to jump right into it. This episode is a follow up to 196 When Christmas feels hard, in that we introduced the concepts of making one shift for yourself this Christmas in the US things that feel hard. And we talked about anticipatory anxiety that you might be feeling stressed around the lack of routine, the pressures that we feel on Christmas spending money, being alone at Christmas being in a time transition. So those were all really great intros in situations that were shared. And I'm going to pick up and continue on with the topics of grief, family dynamics and boundaries. So the topic of grief was shared in the scenarios that women shared about the things that feel hard at Christmas. So there are things that we are grieving, we might be grieving this deed of the world right now, we might be grieving, a loss of what we thought this year would be. Maybe we're walking through a loss a loss of a person that you love, a loss of a relationship, a loss of a family, or friends system as you knew it. And if if someone has lost someone in the recent years, they're going through these seasons of life without that person for the first time. If someone has had a divorce or changes in their family, even if it was wanted, they're still left with this blank space that was once filled with familiar patterns and people and traditions they could rely on. And they know there are people grieving losses that happened over the past few years and didn't really get a chance to mourn during COVID Things have gone unaddressed. And new griefs can trigger old griefs. I wanted to share an experience that I had with grief around Christmas time. A few Christmases ago, during COVID, my mom had what was suspected to be a mini stroke, and she already had dementia. So from this, she was put into the hospital and then moved into a care facility. But at that time when it first happened, and she was in the hospital, she couldn't talk. She wasn't very responsive. She had to be spoon fed, she was in a wheelchair. And this was such a dramatic contrast to where she had just been. I mean, my dad had taken care of her for years.

I asked listeners to share the tough scenarios they expect to encounter during the holidays and Christmas. I will start with Part 1, going through the themes of scenarios and sharing an idea on a shift you can try to make this season, from a counsellor's perspective.  The goal is to give you some tools on how to handle the reality that life can still be hard and things can feel tough, especially around this time of year.

 

The interview with Brandi Hofer of Colour Me Happy Community 

On Youtube - Brandi Hofer Studios

On the podcast - Colour Me Happy Community

 

Main topics covered in this episode:

The expectations of Christmas/The Holidays vs the emotions we carry as humans

156. 3 things to know about feeling negative emotions

Anticipatory anxiety, one way to deal with it

174. Christmas hygge ideas + understanding how the window of tolerance impacts your stress in motherhood

Tough scenarios during the holidays, lack of routines

115. A Controlling mom, or a capable mom?

Overspending to make the holidays FEEL good

141. When shopping isn’t making your life better (mindful and minimalist tips for shopping)

Being alone or missing family during the holidays

Times of transition during the holidays 

67. Making motherhood harder than it needs to be (Mom Martyr)

Simple Christmas (all posts here)

 

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Hey friends, it's Shawna Scafe, your nerdy girlfriend and counsellor from simple on purpose.ca I thought I would add my last name in there because I never say it and you're probably reading it and don't really know how to pronounce it. So nice to meet you guys. My Instagram used to be Shawna Scafe. But the way it was written everyone thought it was Sean is cafe. And people were genuinely wondering where my cafe was. And that would be so dreamy to have a cafe so but I don't, I don't have a cafe. So I just changed my instagram name to simple on purpose. Anyways, here you are, you're at the simple and purpose podcast. Welcome. And today has been a really busy day. This morning, I did an interview with brandy Hofer. She is a Canadian artist. She's a muralist. She's a portrait artist. She's an educator, she's a speaker, and I have followed her work for actually a lot of years now. And I just love her work. It's so beautiful. It's like a feast for the heart. It's just so wonderful. And I recently had commented on one of her Instagram posts, and she wrote me right back, and she asked me to come on your podcast, which was so cool. On one hand to be asked, because I just admire her so much. And on the other hand to realize she had a podcast, I hadn't missed that in the Instagram algorithm. So I said, Yes, I started listening to her podcast, it's called Color Me happy, which is also the name of her book that I just ordered. I'm excited about it. Because the more you talk to her and the more you listen to her podcast, the more you see just how have a real deal. She is like genuine, honest, open and passionate, like you can feel her passion for what she does, and for empowering other women. So her podcast is about being a community for motherhood and art, you don't have to be an artist to listen to it really like I listened to it. And it's women talking about issues that women deal with in different areas of entrepreneurship and motherhood. So I'm gonna link her in the show notes, I recommend following her everywhere, and getting your book in follow your podcasts, especially because she's Canadian. And we let just love fellow Canadians around here, don't we? So then, after I did that, I went to put on my long johns, because there's snow here today walk down to my kids school, because they're all in the same school this year. And because they're in the same school, I thought I should probably help out, I should be more involved. So I signed up to become a noon hour supervisor, which as I say it, I'm like,

A major hurdle that many of us moms to rest is the underlying belief that we need to 'earn our rest'. In this episode, Professional Counsellor and mom of three unpacks how this belief impacts our abilities to rest well, our relationships and our coping habits. 

 

 

This episode is in follow-up to Episode 194. I stopped calling myself a lazy mom 

In this episode, we discuss topics such as:

relaxation vs pseudo-rest, burnout

opportunity costs, and how we insert ourselves into the equation

188. Motherhood & Instagram Culture (how online communities impact your motherhood experience)

189. Prioritizing the day: if everything matters nothing matters and how to apply this in motherhood

the cultural views on motherhood, being lazy, and earning rest

how we apply the logic of 'earning rest', seeking external validation, martyrdom

67. Making motherhood harder than it needs to be (Mom Martyr)

192. Who are you when I’m not looking (internal vs external validation)

the escape hatch, dealing with our feelings

185. Emotional needs in motherhood (what they are and how to meet them)

142. What will change cost you? (Paying the status quo or investing in change)

Show up for your life

getting the cycle backwards between rest and hard work

the Instagram post you all loved about rest

the cycle of hyper-productivity then crashing

meeting your needs

the series is right here 

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Hey friends, it's Shawna, your nerdy girlfriend counselor from simple on purpose.ca. Welcome to the simple and purpose podcast.

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So if you're new here, welcome. I am Shawna, I am a mom of three kids in Canada, I am a counselor. And my aim is to equip you with tools and ideas and insights that help you live more simply and more intentionally, in all the areas of your life.

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So this episode is a follow up to the last episode where I was unpacking that concept of asking yourself in moments where you are finding yourself with a desire to relax, am I being lazy? Or am I overwhelmed, because when we can differentiate between the two, we can handle it accordingly.

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When we're overwhelmed, we've maxed out we've reached capacity. And I've talked about that window of tolerance. That's that range where we feel a sense of resource and ability to deal well with the day in all its demands. being overwhelmed takes us out of that window of tolerance. And we have this dilemma of actually being worn out and needing rest. But then that voice comes in that says, if you're resting, you're lazy, you should be doing this or that.

1:09

So in that moment, we have a choice, we can be lazy, or we can go and get more things done. One leads to guilt fueled pseudo arrest, the other leads to even more burnout.

1:20

A concept I've shared over the years is the concept of opportunity cost. And that is the acknowledgement that when we say yes to one thing, we say no to the other, and vice versa.

1:30

For example, if I say yes to a day of work, and all that comes with it, career advancement, maybe job satisfaction, a wage, etc, then I say no to maybe being a stay at home, parent, and all the stuff that would happen then if I was a stay at home parents, someone's there to do chores, make meals, childcare, whatever, vice versa, there's no wrong choice. I'm just saying these simple choices, we are weighing against our own values and goals have a cost on either side.

1:56

But as moms when it comes to the opportunity cost of rest. We live in a culture where we have put ourselves into the transaction.

2:04

We tell ourselves this math, if I say no to me, resting, I say yes to getting more stuff done. And since I live in a culture where busy is glorified, I should choose that. Or vice versa. If I say no to getting stuff done, I'm saying yes to me being a lazy mum.

Do you ever find yourself trying to rest or relax and get this nagging voice telling you that you are being lazy? As moms, this can be a nightly experience, when we finally get the kids down and would like to unwind. Instead, our R&R gets hijacked by this notion that if we aren't doing chores, hobbies, exercise, etc then we are being lazy.  But, odds are you are NOT a lazy mom, rather you are overwhelmed. 

 

 

In this episode we cover some of these topics (and related links you might like):

The original blog post When I realized I wasn’t a lazy mom, I was just overwhelmed

Naming our experience

The power of naming our emotions (how affect labelling can improve your emotional intelligence)

Societal expectations on moms

188. Motherhood & Instagram Culture (how online communities impact your motherhood experience)

Self-definition (limiting identities)

76. Why it matters what you think (limiting mindsets in motherhood)

Three ways we are exhausted during the day

Physical exhaustion

Emotional exhaustion, mirror neurons, our kids' emotions

117. Emotional Intelligence 101 (and by Enneagram Type)

119. Tolerating tough emotions in our kids (and ourselves)

113. Why you aren’t thriving in motherhood (stress and surviving)

Mental exhaustion, mental load, decision fatigue

144. How to lighten the mental load of DECISION FATIGUE

The counter-argument of 'just be more organized'

11 Things That Make My MomLife Simpler

133. 4 simple habits that make my momlife better

How do we handle this voice telling us that we are lazy

Window of tolerance

understanding how the window of tolerance impacts your stress in motherhood

153. How to move from ambivalent to ambitious (making change takes more than just willpower)

Knowing when you are overwhelmed and when you are feeling lazy

180. Self-care, self-comfort, self-love & what we have learned from our mothers

129. Does your ‘to-do list’ overwhelm you? Expectation overwhelm and how to handle it.

Get the wallpapers for the Beautiful Words Episode right here 

All of the Simple Christmas posts are right here 

 

FULL TRANSCRIPT

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Hey it's Shawna, you're near to go find a counselor from simple on purpose.ca. Welcome to the Simplon purpose podcast.

0:17

So it's December guys we made it is December. And today when I'm recording this, it's snowing in BC, which I know what's going to make it beautiful here, except I have to drive out of town for a hockey tournament. So That's never fun to be driving through these kinds of conditions. But hey, that's the life of a Canadian parent with a kid in winter sports, traveling through all the conditions, bringing all the snacks and the vitamins and the gear is just like a whole thing, isn't it?

0:42

So we're in December, many of us are thinking about Christmas planning for it, whatever you're celebrating, we're thinking about it. And I do like to share content that is seasonally relevant. And often I would share a lot of posts about Christmas. But I've shared so much in the past that I'm not going to rehash all of it. Again, I'm just going to lead you to the archives of all of the posts all of the episodes about all of the things when it comes to simplifying Christmas, and having your Christmas be intentional and purposeful in something that you just show up for and enjoy. So stop by the link in the show notes for a little landing page for all of that.

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I'm going to talk about a well loved post that I shared a few years back called I stopped calling myself a lazy mom. And when I wrote it, I was writing it from that experience of feeling like I was momming hard all day long, three small kids.

1:34

Just reminder, my kids now are 12,11, and nine. So when they were all at home, they were all like close in age and it was like hot, hot and heavy situation.

Words are incredibly powerful, they can communicate exactly what you are thinking, feeling, wanting, needing, in sometimes as little as a single sentence. But that only works when we understand ourselves and have the vocabulary necessary to name our lives. Join me today as I talk about nine beautiful words from other cultures that capture the heart of simple and intentional living and discuss how they can influence your life.

 

 

Naming our experience 

The power of naming our emotions (how affect labelling can improve your emotional intelligence)

117. Emotional Intelligence 101 (and by Enneagram Type)

The Facebook Community Group 

Hygge

Hygge vs Minimalism

Three ways to bring hygge into your daily life

174. Christmas hygge ideas + understanding how the window of tolerance impacts your stress in motherhood

30 Ways to Hygge When It Is Cold Outside

 

Lagom

164. How I am finding balance in my life this year

189. Prioritizing the day: if everything matters nothing matters and how to apply this in motherhood

 

Sisu

11. The Finnish Way (sisu) + Do we need so much pantry space?

49. Facing change and uncertainty with a growth mindset

139. Are you TOO comfortable? And what is it costing you?

15 Practical Tips for Moms to GET STUFF DONE

 

Kaizen

78. Small things that can change your whole life (the compound effect)

11 Things That Make My MomLife Simpler

133. 4 simple habits that make my momlife better

150. A new approach to habit change: routine and habit refinement

3. Brain dump, kid’s clothes storage, minimum baseline to change habits.

175. What will your future be? More of the same? Or will you turn off the autopilot?

 

Meraki

192. Who are you when I’m not looking (internal vs external validation)

For the mom who is ‘waiting’ for life to happen

176. When you don’t know what you want in life. Life on purpose for the non-dreamer

Hurdles to being a mom who has dreams and hobbies

191. Are you idling on your goals or moving them forward (passive action vs massive action)

163. Have fun with your kids, on purpose + reasons we don’t have fun

 

Simple Christmas, and The On Purpose workbooks

The Simple Christmas Planner

All the Simple Christmas posts

Life on Purpose Academy

All of the On Purpose Workbooks

 

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📱GET THE WALLPAPER downloads for the words discussed in this episode

 

FULL TRANSCRIPT 

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Hey friends, it's Shawna, your nerdy girlfriend and counselor from simple on purpose.ca. Welcome to the simple on purpose podcast.

0:18

So welcome new friends, old friends, this is a podcast for anyone looking to be more intentional with how they're living. And we talk about ways that you can declutter the home, the heart, the life, in order to make space to get rid of the distractions and the clutter and make space for the important things, the things that matter to you.

0:37

And to let you know who I am, if you're new here, I'm Shawna. I am a Canadian. And I am a mom of three as well as a counselor. And I've been blogging for about a decade at simple on purpose, where we talk about decluttering intentional living and motherhood and I offer coaching and counseling services. Online. I'm an online counselor if you are looking for an online counselor coach.

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Alright, so today I want to share some of my favorite words with you. And these are not English words. But these are words that you might have seen floating around the internet, and maybe you haven't heard some of them. They are words that I've picked up through the years. And I've probably shared about some of them, and I've just pondered on them. And I'm sharing these specific words, there's going to be nine of them for two reasons.

1:20

The first reason is that they are words that embody a lot of the concepts,

We live in an audience-performer culture it is hard to know which decisions we are making for ourselves and which ones we are making for others. What you buy differently, how would you spend your time differently, how would you be differently without feeling like the world is watching?

 

 

In this episode:

The song that started it all: "Who Are You When I'm Not Looking" by Blake Shelton 

How hard it can be to 'play' as an adult

126. The Joy of Being Mediocre (hobby without the hustle)

Doing things for an outcome

Fashion, identity, and societal influences 

Simple style posts (capsule wardrobes, 30for30 challenge, dressing your age)

Spending habits

The Audience-Performer culture of social media 

Influencers in the wild (article on it here)

What is sacred vs what is for sharing online

Our lives as content, for external validation and approval 

Being part of society, while also being ourselves

188. Motherhood & Instagram Culture (How Online Communities Impact Your Motherhood Experience)

Being valuable and fitting in

Learning self-definition through the reflection of others

Moving from external validation to internal validation  

134. Do you typecast your kids? (Labels + how they impact our parenting and our kids)

Women and beauty standards of our culture 

What does it mean to be a woman when no one is looking?

Making decisions that are true to you and your passions and preferences, how to get started in small ways

Validating the little things for yourself 

 

Connect!

Make sure to share your thoughts and questions in the Simple on Purpose community facebook group!

What would you like to hear about when it comes to the topic of Simple Living?

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Hey friends, it's Shawna, your nerdy girlfriend and counselor from simple on purpose.ca. Welcome to the simpler purpose podcast. Around here we talk about ways to simplify your home, your heart and your life. So my aim is to help us all slow down, quiet the noise, remove the distractions and just look up for a minute at your life and consider what you want to keep and what you want to let go of.

0:35

So this week, I'm a little under the weather, I took a sick day yesterday. And that actually worked out well because one of my kids needed a soul care day. So we took it slow together, we each took turns having a hot salty bath with a TV show on the iPad and warm drinks. We did some brain dumping on paper, you know, get out all those stressful thoughts and feelings inside, listen to music went and bought vitamins. It was a it was kind of a beautiful day, even though I didn't feel great. And I think hot, salty baths, match that with a coffee and an Advil, boom, this is this is why I'm here right now, I can make some progress over the next four hours of my day. And then I'm probably going to move on to burgers and a hot toddy. Because I'm pretty sure that's the cure for a cold. And I should be good by tomorrow. I'm sure of it, I'm sure of it.

1:25

So today I want to talk to you about a concept that has just been rattling around in the back of my brain for years now. And it's a notion that I like to hold up to the different areas of my life. And just consider how it shows up in these different areas. So I think about it often. And I wanted to share it here because I think it might be interesting to you maybe even helpful for you too. And I'm going to share this concept by sharing some quick stories. I promise they're all gonna end up going in the same direction. But it's a little bit of circle time vibes right now. So go get a pillow and a coffee meet me on the circle rug.

2:02

On a cold Canadian day in February, almost 13 years ago, I was in early labor with my first child. My husband was driving us to the hospital in the hospitals over an ...

When we think about the motivation we have to take action, we can sometimes take action that is more passive. The type of action that feels productive but doesn't quite move us in a forward direction. This concept from Brooke Castillo contrasts passive action and massive action. 

 

In this episode, I discuss topics such as:

How simplifying the home leads to an aim for intentional living

living intentionally and overcoming complacency

self-motivation and limiting beliefs

the concept of passive action vs massive action

the discomfort of taking action

The upcoming workshop on motivation can be found right here at the Life on Purpose Academy 

Related episodes you might like

140. Give your discomfort a purpose #uncomfortableonpurpose

139. Are you TOO comfortable? And what is it costing you?

175. What will your future be? More of the same? Or will you turn off the autopilot?

Two Months In To The #onesmallhabit Challenge

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Hey friends, it's Shawna, your nerdy Brooklyn counselor from simple americans.ca. Welcome to the simple on purpose podcast. If you're new here, welcome. I'm Shawna, I'm a mom of three. And the whole aim of this podcast is to just be a time for us to take a minute, slow down. Take a breath. I know sometimes I just hear that word breath. And it reminds me to take a breath. And my aim is to help you to stop and take stock of what feels like too much. What maybe it feels like not enough. Where are we on autopilot? What is distracting us? And most importantly, what do we want? What do you want? And I aim to help you move forward with all of these questions, I aim to help you simplify and it might start with decluttering, your home, a drawer or a closet. And we're quickly going to see as I did that, decluttering it helps us to declutter ourselves, if decluttering our space helps us to declutter ourselves. And as we do that, we're also inspired to declutter our lives. And so I often say, I'm here to help you simplify your home, your heart and your life. But all of that clearing that space so that we can fill it with something different so that we can fill our homes, ourselves, our hearts, our lives, our days, with what matters to us. And that's the life on purpose part. So I'm just want to acknowledge that this recording is different. I'm in a hotel right now. And right before I was leaving, yesterday morning, I was searching that was everywhere for this special little adapter that I needed. So I could plug in my microphone, my usual microphone to the computer that I was bringing the laptop. I couldn't find it anywhere. It's such a mystery to me where it has gone. So when I do finally find is going to be somewhere probably ridiculous. Like a kid's duffel bag in the basement or an old like, bin of wrapping paper or something i I'm just it's a mystery of where I could put it anyways, I'm in a hotel right now I'm at a conference, I'm at a counseling conference, and learning some great things, meeting some great people. Anyways, here we are on a Friday night together in a hotel.

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And I am also going to say it's been a long day for me my brain. It's Monday, it's been a long day, and seven o'clock. And I thought yeah, maybe I can just push this episode back a week. But I needed to tell you about the motivation workshop I'm holding on Friday. And I needed to get this done so that it could be edited this weekend. So I need to get it done tonight. So I had to motivate myself. I had to use all my own tools to get this done. Do all of my motivation tricks. Here we we talk a lot about being on autopilot, and about moving into living intentionally living on purpose. And I think sometimes about who I was pre life on purpose, pretty simple on purpose. And just how complacent I was how reactive I was. I was living in a house that had a lot of stuffs.

This is part two of a two-part series about planning your day. If you haven't listened to part one (episode 189), I highly recommend you do so and then come right back to listen to this one. Join me as I guide you through a typical day in my life as a work-from-home mom. I discuss how I use time-blocking, rhythms and answer your questions .

 

In this episode I discuss: 

My typical weekday 

My weekly rhythms for work, home and family

Time-blocking 

How the changing seasons also change my days

Family life, priorities and routines

Answering some questions I’ve been asked about planning my days

Exercise, laundry, meal prep, groceries, planning the week

Derailed plans 

 

All the fun links you might enjoy 

Family rhythms (setting your own, and worksheets) Family Rhythms + free worksheet

Planning the week with your partner What happened in my marriage when we started weekly calendar meetings

Exercise for wellbeing 184. Movement as self-care (exercise for wellbeing, not weight loss)

Establishing a chore routine 61. How we introduced chores to our kids (Saturday Morning Chores)

Creating your own simple cleaning routines Homemaker, on Purpose (the guidebook)

Working on your sense of capability 115. A Controlling mom, or a capable mom?

170. Planning the Day (reactive vs proactive, tools and approaches I use)

129. Does your ‘to-do list’ overwhelm you? Expectation overwhelm and how to handle it.

 

Sign up for the the Simple Saturdays email (a fun email, twice a month)

 

Upcoming workshops and coaching:

The Oct 13 group coaching session

The Oct 27 workshop on motivation

Full transcript (with timestamps)

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Hey friends, it's Shawna, your nerdy girlfriend and counselor from simple on purpose.ca. Welcome to the simple and purpose podcast.

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This episode is part two, actually. So I would encourage you to go back to the previous episode and listen to that first. These episodes are on planning my day planning my week and the first episode I talked about applying that concept of if everything matters, nothing matters. And I think that's just really a good foundation to have in the back of your mind when you're thinking about filling your day, and how you're going to fill your day. So I encourage you to go back and listen to that.

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Let's talk about my typical day, which is a question you guys have asked me. I kind of like hearing on other people's days, I don't know, I they used to do that Instagram challenge, like a day in the life or I forget what it's called, like one hour every? I don't know. Anyways, I thought it was really interesting. I like to peek in on how other people were spending their time. So I'm going to talk about my day and then answer a bunch of questions that you guys have sent in.

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So my typical day, week day, I'm going to wake up around 720. And I have a timer for the Internet and like the Internet app on my phone. So the kids can't turn the TV or iPad on until seven because they were waking up really early just to watch TV. So they are watching a little bit of TV by the time I'm up. And I get up, we all kind of get ready, the kids leave. Generally, they're all over the door by 830. And then I can eat breakfast, make a coffee and get started on my workday.

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So I spend my day working, I break for lunch in lunchtime. I like to like go out in the kitchen, listen to a podcast, maybe go outside, if the weather's nice, maybe go for a 10 minute walk, go back to work. And you know, because I'm working from home, I can do things like throw the laundry through, get the meat out of the freezer, because we're always forgetting to build a meat out army, do a quick living room tidy when the kids are heading out the door. And I head back to work.

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So the kids come home between three and 330. Actually, my oldest usually comes on first. So we actually get about like 10 or 15 minutes to just cat...