SIMPLY FOCUS Podcast: The Good Life Approach - Your podcast with the little extra Solution Focus for your daily life!

Janet Bavelas about microanalysis of face-to-face dialogue. In today’s episode of our SIMPLY FOCUS podcast, we talk with Janet Beavin Bavelas, Ph.D., F.R.S.C., Professor Emeritus of Psychology at the University of Victoria, about what fascinates Janet about Solution Focus, what fascinates Janet about microanalysis (moment-by-moment analysis) of face-to-face dialogues, how she stayed curious to unfold and demystify all these things around communication, and what helped Janet to focus on the interaction even in times when people mainly focused on inner concepts and to start her career as a scientist on that. We talk about what she and her team see and see differently than others when they look at face-to-face dialogues moment-by-moment in microanalysis. Find out what calibration is, what is happening there and how that could be important for everyday conversations and for Solution Focus. Check out what changed for Janet since they wrote "Pragmatics of Human Communication" more than 50 years ago. Learn about hand gestures, facial gestures, and gaze and common misunderstandings around these co-speech gestures. Janet also talks about the overall goal of her research over the years and she challenges you in the challenge of the week: Look at one and the same conversation in two ways: First, look at only one person and start thinking hard about what’s going on in the person's mind, look at what the person is feeling, why she/he is doing what she/he does, what the person is thinking, focus completely on the individual. Go and get a coffee and afterwards look at the same conversation again. Look only at what’s happening between the people. What you are looking for has to be what somebody does observably - physically or vocally - that the other person would notice and that was aimed at the other person, that would effect the other person.

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Dr. Stephen Langer has 34 years of experience in Solution Focused Brief Therapy. In today’s episode of our SIMPLY FOCUS podcast, we talk with Dr. Stephen Langer, a clinical psychologist and president of the Solution Focused Brief Therapy Association, about what fascinates Steve about Solution Focus, what is still the fascination to stick to this approach since 1984, and what he does that people come alive, start being hopeful, are more positive, start looking forward to things, and figure out their next steps towards their desired future. Hear how he is persistent in being curios to find out what his clients want to get out of the session and what they want different in their life that might somehow help them to move forward and have a better life. Find out more about the importance of really small and simple things people can do to get started and how exception seeking and good and meaningful tasks can still be very valuable for clients. He furthermore describes some of his favorite experiments and the differences they can make and the tasks of the Solution Focused Brief Therapy Association (SFBTA) and the Conference in November 2018.

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Pamela King about play as Intervention. In today’s episode of our SIMPLY FOCUS podcast, we talk with Pamela K. King, Author, Speaker, Trainer & Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, about what fascinates her about Solution Focus, how she finds the path with children towards their solutions, what helps her to find out what kids like to start a conversation and how she manages to engage young kids in a good conversation. She tells us a great example of how she and a 5-year old kid with his mother used HOPSCOTCH, his favorite game, to scale and playfully talk about his life and the importance of noticing and using what’s right in front of you. Learn how she also applies Solution Focused play and toys in her trainings with organisations and find out what Steve de Shazer told her the first time they met. Check out what differences Solution Focus makes in her work as an employer and how she amplifies greatness and uniqueness of others. And play in the weekly challenge: Notice at least once a day the opportunities to play and step in: Do jump in with both feed and play at least once a day!

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Monica Rotner about Solution Focused Leadership live! In today’s episode of our SIMPLY FOCUS podcast, Elfie talks with Monica Rotner, Division Manager of the Community Justice Service in Boulder, about what fascinates Monica with Solution Focus, the differences Solution Focus makes in her daily life as a leader, examples of what she does as a leader and how these enhance co-creating an environment for change. They explore how they co-created a different kind of work environment in her division 8 years ago. Find out how she dealt with unrealistic inputs in the process of co-creating their vision and how she deals with things that cannot be done as they are non-negotionable. Learn how they applied scales and scaling questions to co-create scaling questions to co-create strategies to get from the current reality to the future vision and how they keep the vision a living thing that’s always changing too. Monica knows the importance of walking the talk as a leader and the differences staying curious makes. And check out the weekly challenge: Take a few minutes every day and notice the people around you that are inspiring one tiny little way of doing something different. It might not even be somebody you know. It just could be somebody you see on the street who inspires you. Be observant and look around for people that are role models.

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Listen for the brilliance of others. It makes a huge difference! In this episode of our SIMPLY FOCUS podcast, we talk about Solution Focused listening. Find out what we love about the topic “listening” and what differences it makes when we listen for the brilliance of people. Learn about the “T study” that shows that as listeners we are co-narrators: when we listen attentively people are much better storytellers. Get to know Nancy Kline’s time to think or how a good thinking environment produces better results, and listen how we do the “thinking rounds” and what differences these make in our relationship and our family life. In Solution Focused Listening we listen for the brilliance of people, their preferred future, everything that works, and signs of progress, then we select exact words of the other person that reflect that, and build with our questions and their answers a useful conversation (see also episode #4 – the Art of asking great Solution Focused questions). Check out how listen – select – build can be used in everyday conversations or how Dominik’s mum found 20 things that are already going in the right direction. And last but not least the weekly challenge: Chose one conversation each day where you decide to listen in a Solution Focused way for the brilliance of your conversation partner. After the conversation take a few minutes and discover what differences this made. Enjoy!

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Jonathan D. Sherman about the GREAT relationship. In this episode of our SIMPLY FOCUS podcast, we talk with Jonathan D. Sherman, a Solution Focused licensed family & marriage therapist, about what fascinates him with Solution Focus, what differences Solution Focus makes in his family life, and how he refocuses and trains his focus in his life. Jonathan shares his secrets to have a great relationship with his wife Cara and their kids. Find out what the GREAT relationship looks like and how it works. Learn how commitment, appreciation, and consistent loving behavior generate desired emotions over time and get to know the power and reciprocity of "turning towards" behavior and hyper appreciation. This weeks challenge is actually a 30 day experiment: Pick a loved one and refuse to say anything negative to them (no criticism, no complaint) and instead everyday find something to sincerely appreciate them for and verbalise it or write it to them. Go for it and let us know how it goes at www.sfontour.com/simplyfocuspodcast in the comments section of episode 5!

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Asking great questions is an art. In this episode of our SIMPLY FOCUS podcast, we talk about two important aspects to consider to master the art of asking great questions. Find out how your questions determine an answer spectrum in which the answers will most probably be and how the concepts that you introduce in your questions co-construct the conversation as much as the answers you get. Therefore it's important to choose both wisely and observe the answers you get. Practice this with our challenge of the week: Observe the questions you ask and the answers you get. Take a few minutes every day to reflect on that. Check the answer spectrum your questions implied and what concepts you introduced in your questions. Additionaly you can go through the questions in our free giveaway "21 Solution Focused Questions to Enhance Your Daily Life" and explore the concepts and answer spectrums there. Go for it and you will benefit!

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Your focus matters. And you can choose it. In this episode of our SIMPLY FOCUS podcast, we talk about the differences a Solution Focus makes in daily life. Find out how we dealt with our oil leak and how Solution Focused questions made a great weekend possible. Experience yourself the differences Solution Focused questions make compared to problem oriented questions and get started with our free giveaway: "21 Solution Focused questions to enhance your daily life". In the theory part we discuss that problem analysis doesn’t make sense in an reciprocal ever changing world and how we perceive things better when we have words for them. And check out our challenge of the week: Observe your focuses - When are you in a problem focus, when in a Solution Focus? Observe what you do differently when you are in a Solution Focus and how you manage to switch from problem to Solution Focus? Enjoy!

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Change is happening all the time. Make use of it. In this episode we talk about the assumption of "Change is happening all the time" and its implications. Let yourself inspire by the 3 Solution Focused focuses:

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Welcome to our weekly podcast for a little extra Solution Focus for your daily life! In this episode we talk about what fascinates us with the Solution Focused approach and what the podcast is about. Let yourself inspire and change your focus with our challenge of the week.

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