Simply Scrupulosity

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is really good at making a person question everything about who they are.

For example, Scrupulosity OCD may heavily impact a person's religious identity by making them unsure of what they believe or what mistakes they may have made. Relationship OCD can blur the lines of what a person's thoughts and actions mean and how others might perceive them – and that's only scratching the surface.

If you've asked yourself, "Who am I without OCD?" then this podcast episode is for you. We'll discuss: 

• How to come back home to yourself when you have OCD
• Strategies for deciphering your values
• Creating an anchor you can turn to when you OCD tries to pull you away from reality
• How you can do all of this without letting OCD over-complicate the process

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Living with OCD is incredibly exhausting. So how do you find the energy to apply the skills and tools to recover from the very mental illness that is creating mental and emotional exhaustion?

In this episode, we discuss the small steps you can take towards recovery, even when you are mentally and emotionally exhausted. In addition, we'll cover: 
- How OCD recovery doesn't always have to be hard work
- How to cope when you are struggling and overwhelmed with OCD
- Strategies for starting small
- How it's as exhausting to get beaten down by OCD as it is to stand up to it

For more information on this topic, check out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/how-to-recover-from-ocd-when-you-re-mentally-and-emotionally-exhausted

Check out the YouTube video I mentioned in this episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ifCkgl6E98Y 

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I don't know anyone who struggles with their mental health that doesn't suffer a mental health relapse from time to time. And perhaps one of the most difficult parts of those relapses is the fact that it can be extremely difficult to have self compassion. 

In this episode, we'll discuss 5 ways you can show yourself some compassion, even when it feels impossible. In addition, you'll learn:

• What a mental health relapse can look like
• What to do when you start to winder if you even deserve to feel better
• How to take the first step to recovering from a mental health relapse
• The value of mindfulness and values-based living 

For more information, check out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/how-to-have-self-compassion-when-it-feels-impossible

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Mental illness can take so much from you – relationships, self-esteem, experiences – even simply the ability to feel joy, or feel anything at all. That's why it's no wonder that people who suffer from OCD (or anxiety, or depression, or anything in between) may sometimes think to themselves, "If I just didn't have anxiety, I could be happy." Or, "If I just didn't have OCD, my life would be incredibly different."

These feelings are VALID and INCREDIBLY real, but what do you do with them once you've felt them? How do you move forward?

In this episode, we'll dive into a different perspective that can help those who struggle with mental health difficulties find hope and fall in love with being who they are again. We'll also discuss:

• How mental health changes your life
• How to stop yourself from getting into the "what ifs" 
• The freedom that comes from believing things couldn't have, or should have, been any different
• Allowing yourself to mourn and grieve 
• Moving towards acceptance

For more information on the information discussed in this episode, check out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/your-life-might-not-be-better-without-mental-illness

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When you get anxious, you have two options: resist it, or lean into vulnerability. 

In this episode, we'll discuss how rather than letting anxiety harden you into resistance, you can let it soften you. You can stop fearing anxiety. In addition, we'll discuss:

• Resisting anxiety is natural because you are trying to protect yourself
• Although anxiety is extremely uncomfortable, it cannot hurt you
• You can learn how to embrace all human emotion through mindfulness

For more information on how you can apply mindfulness for anxiety, check out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/overcoming-the-fear-of-feeling-anxious 

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Do you ever feel like your emotions take over, clouding your judgement and making it hard for you make decisions?

If so, this week's episode is for you! We're going to be discussing the Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) concept of Wise Mind, which details how you can find the right balance between rational mind and emotional mind to healthily regulate your emotions. 

Plus, we'll discuss:

• How hormone fluctuations can affect mental health
•  The difference between rational and emotional reasoning
• How you can live a more emotionally balanced life, even when emotions are high

For more information on Wise Mind, see this blog: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/utilizing-wise-mind-for-emotional-regulation

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After an individual is diagnosed with Scrupulosity OCD, they may question EVERYTHING about their past religious beliefs because they realize many of the times they thought they were experiencing God's love was just the reduction in anxiety that comes from participating in the OCD cycle. 

That's why I said in Episode 2 of The Enough Effect that as a Scrupulosity OCD sufferer, it felt like my entire religious past was a phony and I didn't know where to go from there. 

I've been thinking a lot about that, and I realized that was just another way OCD was trapping me: I either had all the faith, or I had none. 

In this episode, we'll discuss how to overcome black and white thinking when it comes to Scrupulosity OCD, including:

• Honoring and validating your past positive experiences with religion
• Giving yourself permission to live in a grey area
• Not getting sucked into trying to figure out what was real and what was not (yes, that's another one of OCD's tricks)

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I'm not sure I've met someone who struggles with mental health who doesn't feel shame about it from time to time. But why is that the case?

Whether you're worried about being a burden on people you love or struggle giving yourself permission to slow down and feel your emotions, you're not alone. 

In today's episode, we're discussing how you can overcome the shame that often surrounds mental health difficulties and learn to give yourself compassion in any scenario - because you are worthy of love and acceptance, no matter your past or present struggles.

Tune in to discover:

- How shame shows up in many different mental health difficulties

- A story that could change your perspective on unconditional love and acceptance through mental health struggles

- How to live with greater compassion for yourself and others

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If you are a person with anxiety, then you've definitely heard someone say something like, "Resisting anxiety only strengthens it. You just have to accept your anxiety and then things will get better." But so often, those people don't explain what accepting anxiety actually means!

In this episode, we'll dive into everything you need to know about how to accept anxiety's presence in your life WITHOUT submitting yourself to a bleak, anxiety-filled future. 

In addition, we'll cover:

• What it really means to accept anxiety
• How to be more open and flexible with your emotions
• How to change your relationship with anxiety (and all of your emotions)
• How to let go of fear and resistance to anxiety

For more information, check out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/what-it-means-to-accept-anxiety

The book mentioned in this episode is "Everyday Mindfulness for OCD" by Jon Hershfield and Shala Nicely.

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Today we're discussing a bit of a harsh truth for those of us who have mental heath difficulties: eventually, we have to take responsibility for what goes on in our minds.

This is especially true for those of us who deal with intrusive thoughts. Although we can't control what thoughts we get, we can control what we do with those thoughts and how those thoughts affect us. 

In this episode, I share an analogy to help you feel empowered to take on your intrusive thoughts in a way that makes you feel empowered, rather than victimized. Other talking points include: 

• How I went from struggling deeply with intrusive thoughts to feeling like life was light again
• How the idea of taking responsibility for my own mental health empowered me
• How sitting with the discomfort of change can lead to your thoughts not having power over you anymore
• How you have a greater choice than you think you do when it comes to interacting with your intrusive thoughts

For more information about what was discussed in this episode, check out this blog post: https://www.abbietabbilos.com/post/managing-ocd-thought-loops-with-responsibility 

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