Since Right Now

UPDATE / 10.19.15 / You can now hear Paul on his own podcast: https://soundcloud.com/buzzkill-pod

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Paul is many things in this fourth year of his recovery. We talk about a few of them.

REFERENCED

How Alcohol Saved My Life / Paul / http://messageinabottleblog.wordpress.com/2014/10/11/how-alcohol-saved-my-life/

The 3rd & 7th Steps

3rd: Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God. / http://12step.org/the-12-steps/step-3.html

7th: Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings. / http://12step.org/the-12-steps/step-7.html

The Power of Now / A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment / Eckhart Tolle / http://www.eckharttolle.com/books/now/

B.S. / Jeff & Chris / http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSis1Kp2YaMG1R7VAFAimA9lkmsq3w2pP

MUSIC

DJ FM / https://soundcloud.com/djfmdotcom

Chris goes to his second, Jeff takes someone else to their first and the 12th Step seems to have been the one that in one way or another got us each to our destinations.

Referenced

The 12th Step

Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other addicts, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

http://12step.org/the-12-steps/step-12.html

Headspace / Meditation App

https://www.headspace.com

Centering Prayer

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Centering_prayer

Please visit: http://sincerightnow.com/pdcst for full show notes.

SOMETIMES YOU DO GET A SECOND CHANCE TO MAKE A FIRST IMPRESSION.

In which the S.O.S meeting Jeff and Chris set out to attend is not the S.O.S. meeting they find. Which then leads Jeff to facilitate Chris’ second attempt at attending an A.A. meeting.

Will he go in?

Will he stay?

Do they cast him out as an imposter?

Do they welcome him as a brother?

Is there coffee?

Find out in this week’s episode…

We also talk through Step 11. http://12step.org/the-12-steps/step-11.html

REFERENCED

Secular Organizations for Sobriety (S.O.S) / http://www.sossobriety.org/

Sisters of Sobriety (S.o.S) / How some women-only Alcoholics Anonymous meetings identify themselves. / https://www.google.com/#q=sisters+of+sobriety

Headspace / Meditation app / https://www.headspace.com/headspace-meditation-app

Andrew Kukes Foundation for Social Anxiety / We didn’t actually mention this organization but it has a lot of good info / http://akfsa.org

IMAGE

Southington, Connecticut. A meeting / Charles Fenno Jacobs / 1942 / public domain via Library of Congress / http://loc.gov

MUSIC

https://soundcloud.com/djfmdotcom

One of Those Three Is Not A River In Egypt.

We talk about all three.

Also, the question is raised as to whether Chris may be a narcissist.

REFERRENCED

• Denial In Addicted Family Systems / HuffPo / http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-tian-dayton/alcoholism-family_b_2610766.html

• Addiction Denial and Cognitive Disfunction: A Preliminary Investigation / The Journal of Neuropsychiatry and Clinical Neurosciences / journals.psychiatryonline.org/article.aspx?articleid=101600

• Quiz: Are You A Narcissist? / TIME / http://time.com/3136687/narcissist-quiz/

IMAGE

A typical Egyptian village in the Nile Valley [detail, colorized by K+S] / ca. 1911 / Underwood & Underwood / public domain via Library of Congress / http://loc.gov

MUSIC

https://soundcloud.com/djfmdotcom

Sober Dates, Slips, Relapse, Second Stage Recovery & Step 9

The second episode to solicit topics via Twitter is the first to be informed almost entirely by a Twitter Topic. Chris and Jeff do their best to explore a two-part suggestion by @BeckyGetsSober.

Twitter Topic

BeckyGetsSober https://twitter.com/BeckyGetsSober/status/511678004708130817

Referrenced

Stage II Recovery: Life Beyond Addiction / Earnie Larson

http://www.amazon.com/Stage-II-Recovery-Beyond-Addiction/dp/0866834605

Whatever Happened to the Circle and Triangle? (pdf) / reproduced from Grapevine ca. 1993

http://silkworth.net/pdfGSC/Around-AA-Dec-1993.pdf

Recovery Ink: Chris https://app.box.com/s/z2sg0pr8keod5f66q0aj and Jeff https://app.box.com/s/nqp6ng99k1ieye0a77kn

Since Right Now Studios Coffee Table feat.

Beyond Belief: Agnostic Musings for 12 Step Life / Joe C. https://twitter.com/Rebellion_Dogs, Rebellion Dogs Publishing

The First 30 Days to Serenity / Super Star https://twitter.com/sobersuperstar

And

The Guide to Drinking (2014) / Sauce Magazine (St. Louis) http://issuu.com/saucemag/docs/drinkingguide2014lr?e=0

Image

Prohibition (Jefferson Liquor Company storefront with customers) / ca. 1918 / Photographer unidentified / Maryland Historical Society

http://mdhsphotographs.tumblr.com/post/12250017834/prohibition-jefferson-liquor-company-storefront

Music

https://soundcloud.com/djfmdotcom

Anonymity. Shame. Stigma. Ain't nobody got time for that. Chris and Jeff talk about it.

Referenced:

How Addiction Really Affects The Family / AddictionBlog.org

http://alcohol.addictionblog.org/how-addiction-really-affects-the-family/

Allen Carr's Easyway To Stop Smoking / Allen Carr

http://www.allencarr.com

Chantix / "A non-nicotine prescription medicine specifically developed to help adults 18 and over quit smoking."

https://www.chantix.com

Thanks for the Twitter Questions:

http://twitter.com/mssginbottle

http://twitter.com/DMBismysanity

Music:

DJ FM / soundcloud.com/djfmdotcom

After a brief "celebration" of Chris' Sober Birthday (9.1.97) Chris and Jeff talk about the challenge of a family get together when there's an alcoholic elephant in the room wearing the addict Emperor's new clothes.

Then Jeff explains Step 7 to Chris and tries to get him to admit to a P H'er than himself.

Referenced

International Overdose Awareness Day / August 31 / http://overdoseday.com

Recovery Month / September / http://recoverymonth.gov

Al-Anon / Strenght and hope for friends and family of problem drinkers. / http://al-anon.alateen.org

Music

Intro: Cradle, Outro: Memory / DJ FM / https://soundcloud.com/djfmdotcom

Image

Destruction $150,000 of Whiskey, Girard, Ala. / Bain News Service / ca. 1915-1920 / Public domain via Library of Congress, http://loc.gov

We briefly consider how we, as addicts, feel about the terms used to describe us. By others? By ourselves? Then we consider—at length!—what's up with addicts so often being plagued by depression and creativity.

Referenced in this episode

How Language Can Undermine Addiction Recovery / Melissa Dahl, New York Magazine http://nymag.com/scienceofus/2014/08/how-language-can-undermine-addiction-recovery.html

We Are Having the Wrong Conversation About Robin Williams / Richard Taite, Huffington Post http://www.huffingtonpost.com/richard-taite/robin-williams-we-are-hav_b_5697796.html

Gifted, Talented, Addicted / Douglas Eby, Talent Development Resources http://talentdevelop.com/articles/GTA.html

The 27 Club / Wikipedia http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/27_Club

Jeff and Chris chat—and laugh—about getting to the truth in recovery (both in general and in the context of the 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous,) the shame we accumulate during our active addiction, and how it all sort of ties into our big, messy addicts' egos.

REFERENCED

Thirteen Truths and A Lie — An Annotated List / Chris, 2008

https://SinceRightNow.com/insights/2014/8/13/thirteen-truths-and-a-lie-an-annotated-list

Radical Honesty / Wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Radical_Honesty

Robin Williams’ divine madness will no longer disrupt the sadness of the world / Russell Brand, The Guardian: http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/aug/12/russell-brand-robin-williams-divine-madness-broken-world

PostSecret: http://postsecret.com

So let me tell you about the time I ended up knee deep… / Waking Up the Ghost: http://www.wakinguptheghost.com/blog/so-let-me-tell-you-about-the-time-i-ended-up-knee-deep

MUSIC

Intro: Cradle / Outro: Memory

https://soundcloud.com/djfmdotcom

What a week.

Referenced in this episode:

Robin Williams

Norm Macdonald's Twitter tribute

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/08/12/norm-macdonald-robin-williams-twitter-tribute_n_5672465.html

Rob Delaney: On Depression & Getting Help

http://robdelaney.tumblr.com/post/414007899/on-depression-getting-help

The Fix: Can an AA Critic and a 12-Step Advocate Get Along?

http://www.thefix.com/content/can-aa-critic-and-12-step-advocate-get-along

And Everything Afterwards: Robin Williams found dead at home — suspected suicide by asphyxiation

http://lifeafteralcohol.com/2014/08/12/robin-williams-found-dead-at-home-suspected-suicide-by-asphyxiation/

Though it was published after we had recorded this post—specifically it's comments—illustrate well some of the issues surrounding how addiction and depression are perceived.

I almost forgot, from a now defunct blog of Chris':

Thirteen Truths and A Lie — An Annotated List

https://SinceRightNow.com/insights/2014/8/13/thirteen-truths-and-a-lie-an-annotated-list

Intro: Cradle — DJ FM

Outro: Memory — DJ FM

@djfmdotcom