One of the best parts of being single is having the opportunity to experience fun dating activities with a variety of people. One of the worst parts of being single is sitting home alone when you’d rather be out on a date because you either missed an opportunity to ask someone out or mishandled your opportunity to ask them out and got turned down. If you want to date more, try these things.

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Be Bold: Seize the Moment

In the course of your everyday life, opportunities will present themselves. What do you do in those pivotal moments? Do you hesitate or talk yourself out of taking a risk? Or, do you seize that moment?

You never know where seizing that moment could lead. It could lead to an embarrassing crash and burn. But, it could lead to a great date or even marriage. You’ll never know unless you step out and take action.

My best advice is to get out of your comfort zone and take a few risks. When you do, you’ll probably get a few rejections. That’s okay. After a few rejections, you come to realize that they aren’t fatal. In fact, they can be instructional. Learn from each encounter.

The more you do it, the less intimidating it is and the more natural it feels. The first time you do anything is the scariest. But, each time after that gets less and less scary.

And, I say this as a guy who was by no means a naturally outgoing person as a teenager or even as a young adult. In fact, that was one of the things I learned in my second singleness. It took a midlife divorce to teach me that. But, now it’s become my nature.

A while back I was walking down the hall at church. There was a rather attractive woman just ahead of me. Pastor stuck his head out of an office…Pastor: Hi Sam!Sam: Hi Ben!Pastor: Hi Todd!Me: Hi Ben!Then, without missing a beat…Me: Hi Sam!Sam: Hi Todd!

Then for the rest of the walk down the hall, Sam and I had a nice conversation. If I were still a single man, who knows where that conversation could have led?

If I were still my younger self, that conversation would never have taken place. My fear would have kept me from opening my mouth and I would have missed an opportunity to make a new friend and have a nice conversation. It would have been just another wasted opportunity, one of so many.

Be Confident: Not Arrogant, NotTimid

To step out and do things like that takes a little confidence. That’s another thing I lacked as a younger man. It’s also another thing I developed after my divorce – in my forties. So, no matter how old you are or what you’ve been through, you can still develop confidence. That’s doable. That’s something you can, with effort, change about yourself.

And, in the case of confidence, it’s okay to fake it till you make it. I know, people love to hate on that old saw. But, when it comes to confidence, it makes sense. In my case, I just started acting and reacting to things like I would if I had more confidence. After doing that consciously for a while, I started doing it without thinking about it. It became my default. It became my nature.

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But by confidence, I don’t mean arrogance. True confidence is very attractive. For most people, arrogance is a huge turnoff. If that’s you,