Skin and Soul™: Beyond the Pale with Gwenm A. Carsley

In this intimate conversation with depth psychology coach and author Deborah Lukovich, we dive into the lived story behind her memoir When Sex Meets God. We explore the midlife unraveling that cracks open desire, shadow, dreams, synchronicity, and the body’s long-silenced hunger.
Deborah shares how Jungian psychology shaped her awakening, how younger lovers appeared as catalysts, and how projection, archetype, and kundalini pulled her into a transformation she couldn’t think her way out of.
A conversation about becoming Forever Jung—alive, undone, curious, and willing to follow eros into the unknown.

In part 2 of our Embodying the Practice conversation, Andrew Marshall returns to talk about intimacy - with the medicine, and with the ones we love. We explore his experiences with Ayahuasca - the openings, the purges, the raw honesty of meeting himself and how that honesty now lives in his purpose and his relationships.
What do we keep from our partners in the name of love?
What truths sit unsaid in the body?
And what does it take to speak from that place - unarmored, alive, fully present.
This is a conversation about embodiment, truth, and the courage to see and face one's shadows when there’s nowhere left to hide.
 

In part 2 of our Embodying the Practice conversation, Andrew Marshall returns to talk about intimacy - with the medicine, and with the ones we love. We explore his experiences with Ayahuasca - the openings, the purges, the raw honesty of meeting himself and how that honesty now lives in his purpose and his relationships.
What do we keep from our partners in the name of love?
What truths sit unsaid in the body?
And what does it take to speak from that place - unarmored, alive, fully present.
This is a conversation about embodiment, truth, and the courage to see and face one's shadows when there’s nowhere left to hide.
 

In this episode of Skin & Soul: Beyond the Pale, I sit with Mark Steven Porro — actor, designer, accidental entrepreneur, and the son who walked straight into the chaos, comedy, and heartbreak of caring for his mother in her final years.
Mark’s award-winning memoir, A Cup of Tea on the Commode, captures the wild contradictions of eldercare:
how a parent becomes a child again,
how dignity hangs by a thread,
how humor saves you when nothing else can,
and how love gets louder as memory fades.
We talk about the small rebellions, the forgotten names, the guilt, the tenderness, the absurdity, the devotion, and the surprising joy that arrives when you’re forced to show up in ways you never imagined you could.
This is a conversation about the human comedy of decline — and the unexpected beauty in loving someone through their second childhood.

In this episode of Skin & Soul: Beyond the Pale, I sit with Mark Steven Porro — actor, designer, accidental entrepreneur, and the son who walked straight into the chaos, comedy, and heartbreak of caring for his mother in her final years.
Mark’s award-winning memoir, A Cup of Tea on the Commode, captures the wild contradictions of eldercare:
how a parent becomes a child again,
how dignity hangs by a thread,
how humor saves you when nothing else can,
and how love gets louder as memory fades.
We talk about the small rebellions, the forgotten names, the guilt, the tenderness, the absurdity, the devotion, and the surprising joy that arrives when you’re forced to show up in ways you never imagined you could.
This is a conversation about the human comedy of decline — and the unexpected beauty in loving someone through their second childhood.

What happens when you mix a sex-positive grandma, a childhood spent figure-skating on frozen lakes, and a lifetime of dismantling religious shame… with modern parenting, porn, and kids with iPads?
In this episode of Skin and Soul: Beyond the Pale, I sit with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers — therapist, educator, and author of Sex, God & the Conservative Church and Shameless Parenting — for a wildly honest, surprisingly funny conversation about raising shame-free kids in an over-sexualized world.
We talk about babies discovering their genitals in the bath, toddlers who just want to hug everyone, and why “hands in your pants at the dinner table” is not a crisis but an invitation to teach boundaries without shaming desire. Tina walks us through what real “family life education” looks like from 0–18, why one hundred tiny, awkward one-minute chats beat the one Big Talk, and how to start when you feel like you’re years too late.
We go there with porn, phones and tablets, patriarchy, boys’ right to say no too, and how to help our kids recognize exploitation instead of becoming numb to it. We also talk about re-parenting ourselves, healing the little one inside who never got these conversations, and the strange grace that can show up with aging parents and dementia.
This one is for the exhausted, tender, secretly terrified parents who still want their kids to know: your body is yours, your pleasure is good, and you never have to trade your soul to belong.

What happens when you mix a sex-positive grandma, a childhood spent figure-skating on frozen lakes, and a lifetime of dismantling religious shame… with modern parenting, porn, and kids with iPads?
In this episode of Skin and Soul: Beyond the Pale, I sit with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers — therapist, educator, and author of Sex, God & the Conservative Church and Shameless Parenting — for a wildly honest, surprisingly funny conversation about raising shame-free kids in an over-sexualized world.
We talk about babies discovering their genitals in the bath, toddlers who just want to hug everyone, and why “hands in your pants at the dinner table” is not a crisis but an invitation to teach boundaries without shaming desire. Tina walks us through what real “family life education” looks like from 0–18, why one hundred tiny, awkward one-minute chats beat the one Big Talk, and how to start when you feel like you’re years too late.
We go there with porn, phones and tablets, patriarchy, boys’ right to say no too, and how to help our kids recognize exploitation instead of becoming numb to it. We also talk about re-parenting ourselves, healing the little one inside who never got these conversations, and the strange grace that can show up with aging parents and dementia.
This one is for the exhausted, tender, secretly terrified parents who still want their kids to know: your body is yours, your pleasure is good, and you never have to trade your soul to belong.

Poet, author, and sound artist Tawhida Tanya Evanson joins Gwenm to explore eros, death, mysticism, lucid dreaming, and the divine in Book of Wings.

Poet, author, and sound artist Tawhida Tanya Evanson joins Gwenm to explore eros, death, mysticism, lucid dreaming, and the divine in Book of Wings.

What happens when becoming yourself collides with a world obsessed with identity — when truth, politics, and love all live in the same body?
Teegan Toftley transitioned in her late forties — not to prove a point, but to stop living divided. Now in her fifties, she’s still married to the same woman, still “Dad” to her kids, and still disarmingly real about what it means to belong to your own skin.
In this episode, we tackle conversations about gender, belonging, and authenticity. Teegan speaks openly about body dysmorphia, love that lasts through change, and the current cultural noise surrounding what it means to be trans.
It’s about what happens when the stories we tell about identity meet the deeper story of being human.