If I reflect on when I was growing up ... my ideology on love was that I would meet someone and have 4 kids ... I was looking forward to the role of wife and mother ... and living happily ever after

When I was young I believed in the one ... I think it was watching movies, watching romcoms - and my parents have been together since they were 15, which played into that too

The first lockdown was horrendous for me. Sort of living alone in a one bedroom apartment with no family around, not even a pet ... being alone 24/7 was really, really challenging. A few weeks in that, I wasn't in a good headspace ... and I fired up Tinder.

I feel like online there is so much more room for things to go wrong ... it becomes mentally exhausting.

I decided that if this was how dating was going to make me feel ... I didn't want to date anymore. I went back to Tinder and changed my whole profile - it was basically, here for a good time not a long time.

Ruth and Lisa discuss Slow Love to present their vision and insight.