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Episode page (includes audio version of the episode): https://smashingsuccessstories.com/episode-05-what-we-feed-grows/

What We Feed Grows - concepts we’re going to discuss in this episode:

• How this topic got on my radar
• Core concept
• The challenges we face
• Creating new patterns of thinking by breaking cycles and overcoming bias
• Action plan

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• A Native Woman's Near-Death Experience: Sent Back with a Purpose: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yqOmoXTJFM4 
• Atheist Dies & Finds There Is Life After Death: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5ZfaPCwjguk 
• Alcoholic Dies & Meets her Ancestors on the Other Side: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l15UGGvFsMA 
• This one’s from The Other Side NDE (https://www.youtube.com/@TheOtherSideNDEYT):  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z7vnMIgoWe0 

ALSO if you know of someone who has had a near-death experience, and/or a healthcare worker and/or caregiver that has a story to share about experiencing/witnessing this, I’d LOVE to speak with them and have them on the program! Go to https://smashingsuccessstories.com/Nominations/ and fill out the form, please and thank you 🙂

• Man’s Search for Meaning by  Viktor Frankl: https://bookshop.org/p/books/man-s-search-for-meaning-viktor-e-frankl/f040ee34581bdc92?ean=9780807014271&next=t 
• Tale of the Two Wolves: https://www.nanticokeindians.org/about/the-tale-of-two-wolves/ 
• The twin brothers - I think it’s Les Brown that shares this story, and I spent half a day trying to find where he shared it (either in a keynote speech, or in his audio compilations) and I didn’t find it, so if you know where it’s from please let me know 😀
• Parable of the Two Travelers: https://www.theheraldtimes.com/editors-column-the-parable-of-the-two-travelers/opinion/ 
• Eyesight vs mindsight from Les Brown - judging by appearance vs how you interpret what you see ~8 min in: https://youtu.be/W6nT2yFc5UA?si=mTQBoN8pxpMpLqdX 
• Trixie on the podcast Why Won’t You Date Me on being open when dating: https://youtu.be/cFKfXbGq47A?si=rHLreUceM2K449pi 
• Gabi Belle’s video titled “The Khia Asylum is thinly veiled misogyny”: https://youtu.be/y10y9c7fVnI?si=QhoOd8-o6ug1bAsa
• Mark Rober’s TED talk: https://youtu.be/RDFGkBE2O50?si=vanMH5SuHLAdUX6q
• How Hey Ya got super popular
  • A good synapsis of the chapter that discusses how Hey Ya got popular - the synopsis is about halfway down the page: https://www.litcharts.com/lit/the-power-of-habit/chapter-7-how-target-knows-what-you-want-before-you-do-when-companies-predict-and-manipulate-habits 
  • Book on bookshop.org: https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-power-of-habit-why-we-do-what-we-do-in-life-and-business-charles-duhigg/887dd5b06e09f78c?ean=9780812981605&next=t 
  • Chase Greene: “You can have something that is truly great, but if it is not familiar, people will not buy it, people will not take advantage of it, people will not enjoy it.”: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DQ47FdQiYL1/ 
• Busking
  • https://www.reddit.com/r/Busking/comments/azzgbr/looking_to_start_busking_soon_and_i_want_to_play/
  • https://www.facebook.com/groups/984716668226746/posts/25231369346468140/ 
• The Punk Rock MBA, particularly 8:03-12:55 where he talks about how the Internet helped the band Sleep Token go EXTREMELY viral: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iQGDyr7UUGU
• The Charismatic Voice (Elizabeth Zharoff) with Wil Ramos reacting to The Summoning by Sleep Token: https://youtu.be/u2PKkmWmif8?si=Ud6Nt7BdpAgD8ysP 
• The Summoning compilation reaction, which has over 300k views: https://youtu.be/4KSiD-0w7cE?si=2LINPWI08bSaEHy5
• (Healthy fandom groups) Buffering the Vampire Slayer: https://www.bufferingcast.com/ 
• Know myself - personal inventory from the Judgment episode:
  • Link to the episode/episode page on my website
  • Personal Inventory guide: https://docs.google.com/document/d/12AZlSNEBwXiNvQx8TogT4ljFyGkA5eGP4vLF3H59yr4/edit?usp=sharing 

I created a guide to compliment this episode - Exercises for developing a LEGENDARY mindset. Open the document and go to the upper left and select File, then Make a copy so you can leave notes and have your own copy of the guide 🙂

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Episode page (includes audio version of the episode): https://smashingsuccessstories.com/let-your-light-shine

This quick burst of motivation is our kick-off for the Mindset series!

The first full-length episode of the series airs on Thursday, July 2nd, 2026. 

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SOUND WARNING - I get pretty shouty in this episode, if you're wearing headphones and/or driving be mindful of these timestamps:

11:13
16:27-18:13
21:32-22:09
25:27-27:19
and pretty much through to the end lol

I'm passionate about this topic. I mean, this podcast is part inspiration, part passionate rants about systems of oppression :) 

Key points discussed in this episode:

• The importance of looking forward instead of living in the past
• The impact of nostalgia on our minds and emotions
• Reverence for the past can be a powerful tool as long as it isn’t holding us back, and we aren’t using it as an excuse to move forward
• There are plenty of applications where tried and true methods have worked and still work, but were abolished because of factors (such as greed)
• Progress 
  • Benefits
  • Where we run into issues
• THE SOLUTION

References:

• Midnight in Paris (film): https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1605783/ 
• Bag lady by Erykah Badu: https://youtu.be/OqN0jsSeqPo?si=5YkU9jM5Who914Ep
• Rafiki “it’s in the past” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dZfGTL2PY3E 
• PBS Terra and Floodlight News cover the surge in data centers and the harm they cause to communities:https://youtu.be/5p426fSlYH4?si=nzAEzxn0Gw7D5DFW
• Exploiting workers - slave labor used for Cobalt mining in the Republic of Congo for use in cell phones (especially newer devices) and electric vehicles: 
  • https://humantraffickingsearch.org/resource/modern-slavery-the-true-cost-of-cobalt-mining/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=%28ROI%29%20PMax%20-%20DSA%20xCO%20xAC%20xGT&utm_id=22450466552&utm_content=&utm_term=&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=23504083602&gbraid=0AAAAADq-eHw-uNzbdAvJ5VCwLsYOAfbCo&gclid=CjwKCAjwidXQBhAZEiwA4egw6N-OhxtMX7r4aZ8wel32dxcikjyWlUvgNUHl3V--9aM0Yl1WrfHFHBoCezIQAvD_BwE 
  • https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2023/02/01/1152893248/red-cobalt-congo-drc-mining-siddharth-kara 
  • Even the Department of Labor acknowledges this!! This is from 2024! https://www.dol.gov/sites/dolgov/files/ILAB/DRC-FL-Cobalt-Report-508.pdf
• Tuskegee Syphilis Study, a program that caused immense harm to the black community of Tuskegee. Later, President Clinton issued a public apology and The National Center for Bioethics in Research and Health Care at Tuskegee University was created. 
  • https://www.cdc.gov/tuskegee/about/index.html 
  • https://www.thehastingscenter.org/newly-released-documents-from-untreated-syphilis-study-ethical-just-and-respectful-use-of-archival-materials/?gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=16567452402&gbraid=0AAAAACdtXhhig6ZOOByZ8Z2zO0PFJRT8j&gclid=CjwKCAjwidXQBhAZEiwA4egw6BRpmSHLPKUTPCS8iXCv3B1SMCx94rXOUJUwKjrvoz6VOXhJfDxEPhoClwQQAvD_BwE 
• European settlers and the catastrophic effect on land that was well-maintained by First Nations’ civilizations - I thought of the Three Sisters planting method and how, over time, it became less of a common practice even though it was viable and sustainable 
  • With the loss of farmland and the introduction of European staples including sugar, flour and butter, this ancient diet was almost completely replaced. The results were catastrophic. (source: https://www.bbc.com/travel/article/20220801-the-sacred-sisters-of-ancient-america )
• Agricultural yields quote from PubMed Central® (PMC) - a free full-text archive of biomedical and life sciences journal literature at the U.S. National Institutes of Health's National Library of Medicine (NIH/NLM): https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9288846/ 

THE SOLUTION:

1. BE INVOLVED in groups and communities
2. Have a clearly defined goal
3. Innovate without causing harm
4. Considerations when working on a technology, solution, construction etc - is this project: 
   • Ethical
   • Collaborative
   • Beneficial to many
   • Shared
   • A win all around
   • Beneficial and not destructive
   • Inspiring
5. How to prepare for inevitable change: 
   • Acknowledge that we often push back on change BUT we also ultimately adapt
   • Understand that progress is gonna happen whether we like it or not
   • Recognize the role we play, fight against the things that harm us and embrace the things that benefit us
   • As always, with all things, stick tight to our communities, help where we can, lift each other up, and stay strong, stay together through life’s ups and downs

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This quick burst of motivation is focused on progress and the dangers of getting caught up in nostalgia.

This is a taste of the full-length episode Progress, which goes live on Thursday, June 25th, 2026.

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Conversation with Courtney Bowman AKA Raleigh Cheesy on going viral #BroCruise, authenticity both online and offline, being vulnerable, and what her definition of success is for her business and her daughters

Raleigh Cheesy can be found on:

• https://www.raleighcheesy.com/ 
• https://www.threads.com/@raleighcheesy 
• Information about #BroCruise
  • Bless ThreadsReporter for this incredible chronological documentation of the saga! https://www.threads.com/@threadsreporter/post/DWfyYRNlam3 
  • BurbNBougie also did a chronological breakdown on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4ontJpkOz_U 

Courtney and I also discussed a conversation from Nicole Byer’s podcast Why Won’t You Date Me episode with Esther Perel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lPuYv9qpSZI&t=3946s

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This quick burst of motivation is all about authentic, and the concept itself is simple yet so many folks struggle with this. Just be yourself. Like, for real. It's honestly that straightforward. Just be yourself.

Thursday's episode - going live on Thursday, June 18th - will be our first conversation with a guest! Looking forward to sharing this one with you :)

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Main concepts covered in this episode:

• What is Judgment? 
• Contributing Factors
• Staying In The Solution

Resources discussed in this episode:

• TED Talk: Could Heavy Metal Music Help Maintain Your Mental Health? Mark Deeks: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rDL3rnGgi8s 
• Bonus additional resource – Beth Roars did a video called Metal Music Makes You Calmer? Your Brain on Metal: https://youtu.be/fPL6SxdgYEs?si=BakQ67wZQ8sVgpXB 
• The Man In The Arena: https://www.worldfuturefund.org/Documents/maninarena.htm
• Our Flag Means Death – I was not able to find the scene referenced in this episode on YouTube, but it’s from Season 1, Episode 5: “The Best Revenge Is Dressing Well” - in brief, Stede and Ed are in a room full of aristocrats and Stede tells Ed that this is a fickle crowd.
• Juicy by Biggie music video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_JZom_gVfuw
  • Correction 12:53 from “some days” to birthdays. The full lyric is:
    Birthdays was the worst days
    Now we sip Champagne when we thirsty
• Joshua Bell experiment: https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/magazine/pearls-before-breakfast-can-one-of-the-nations-great-musicians-cut-through-the-fog-of-a-dc-rush-hour-lets-find-out/2014/09/23/8a6d46da-4331-11e4-b47c-f5889e061e5f_story.html?utm_term=.751bc9d3d16f 
• Eartha Kitt interview: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rlUjHu3H_L4 
• Tracee Ellis Ross:
  • https://www.essence.com/lifestyle/tracee-ellis-ross-gets-candid-about-dating/ 
  • Interview with Oprah: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2vMCUv2DihY 
• Stanzi’s video The Trial of Chappell Roan: https://youtu.be/QpteSrUNjpo?si=IyEVd1wXt0_uWwIv 
• Think and Grow Rich – borrow from a library/Libby, or buy from Bookshop.org, who funnels sales to independent bookstores: https://bookshop.org/p/books/think-and-grow-rich-napoleon-hill/d6ed9b9530e2600b?ean=9781585424337&next=t 
• Skin horse quote: https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/304174-the-skin-horse-had-lived-longer-in-the-nursery-than 
• The Power of Vulnerability TED Talk by Brené Brown: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o 
• Hayao Miyazaki’s founder of Studio Ghibli thoughts on artificial intelligence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ngZ0K3lWKRc 

PERSONAL INVENTORY GUIDE: https://docs.google.com/document/d/12AZlSNEBwXiNvQx8TogT4ljFyGkA5eGP4vLF3H59yr4/edit?usp=sharing

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This quick burst of motivation is focused on facing judgment, which can often be a barrier between us and what’s meant for us.

This is a taste of the full-length episode Judgment, which goes live to the public on Thursday, June 11th. 

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This episode addresses a simple concept that often can be difficult to execute – HOW TO GET STARTED.

The key concept is simple: DONE IS BETTER THAN PERFECT

High-level overview:

• Just get started
• Know that there will be barriers to face
• Mistakes will be made
• Excuses and insecurities are loud

We are going to tackle this with a three step process:

1. Acknowledge
2. Accept
3. ACTION

This quick burst of motivation is focused on getting started – every great journey starts with the first step!

This is a taste of the full-length episode Just Get Started 

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