Welcome back to Snafu w/ Robin Zander.
In this episode, I’m joined by Brian Elliott, former Slack executive and co-founder of Future Forum.
We discuss the common mistakes leaders make about AI and why trust and transparency are more crucial than ever. Brian shares lessons from building high-performing teams, what makes good leadership, and how to foster real collaboration. He also reflects on raising values-driven kids, the breakdown of institutional trust, and why purpose matters. We touch on the early research behind Future Forum and what he’d do differently today.
Brian will also be joining us live at Responsive Conference 2025, and I’m excited to continue the conversation there. If you haven’t gotten your tickets yet, get them here.
What Do Most People Get Wrong About AI? (1:53)
“Senior leaders sit on polar ends of the spectrum on this stuff. Very, very infrequently, sit in the middle, which is kind of where I find myself too often.”
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Robin notes Brian will be co-leading an active session on AI at Responsive Conference with longtime collaborator Helen Kupp.
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He tees up the conversation by saying Brian holds “a lot of controversial opinions” on AI, not that it’s insignificant, but that there’s a lot of “idealization.”
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Brian says most senior leaders fall into one of two camps:
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Camp A: “Oh my God, this changes everything.” These are the fear-mongers shouting: “If you don’t adopt now, your career is over.”
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Camp B: “This will blow over.” They treat AI as just another productivity fad, like others before it.
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Brian positions himself somewhere in the middle but is frustrated by both ends of the spectrum.
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He points out that the loudest voices (Mark Benioff, Andy Jassy, Zuckerberg, Sam Altman) are “arms merchants” – they’re pushing AI tools because they’ve invested billions.
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These tools are massively expensive to build and run, and unless they displace labor, it’s unclear how they generate ROI.
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But “nothing ever changes that fast,” and both the hype and the dismissal are off-base.
Why Playing with AI Matters More Than Training (3:29)
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AI is materially different from past tech, but what’s missing is attention to how adoption happens.
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Adoption depends on whether people respond with fear or aspiration, not whether they have the software.
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Frontline managers are key: it’s their job to create the time and space for teams to experiment with AI.
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Brian credits Helen Kupp for being great at facilitating this kind of low-stakes experimentation.
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Suggests teams should “play with AI tools” in a way totally unrelated to their actual job.
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Example: take a look at your fridge, list the ingredients you have, and have AI suggest a recipe. “Well, that’s a sucky recipe, but it could do that, right?”
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The point isn’t utility, it’s comfort and conversation:
The Purpose of Doing the Thing (5:30)
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Robin brings up Ezra Klein’s podcast in The New York Times, where Ezra asks: “What’s the purpose of writing an essay in college?”
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AI can now do better research than a student, faster and maybe more accurately.
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But Robin argues that the act of writing is what matters, not just the output.
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All the writing he’s done over the past two years prepared him to write that one letter better.
Learning How to Learn (6:35)
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Robin’s fascinated by “skills that train skills” – a lifelong theme in both work and athletics.
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He brings up Josh Waitzkin (from Searching for Bobby Fischer), who went from chess prodigy to big wave surfer to foil board rider.
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Robin is drawn to that kind of transfer learning and “meta-learning” – especially since it’s so hard to measure or study.
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We don’t yet know the cognitive effects of using generative AI daily, but we should be asking.
Cognitive Risk vs. Capability Boost (8:00)
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Brian brings up early research suggesting AI could make us “dumber.”
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But also: the “10,000 repetitions” idea still holds weight – doing the thing builds skill.
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There’s a tension between “performance mode” (getting the thing done) and “growth mode” (learning).
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He relates it to writing:
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Says he’s a decent writer, not a great one, but wants to keep getting better.
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Has a “quad project” with an editor who helps refine tone and clarity but doesn’t do the writing.
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The setup: he provides 80% drafts, guidelines, tone notes, and past writing samples.
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The AI/editor cleans things up, but Brian still reviews:
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“I want that colloquialism back in.”
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“I want that specific example back in.”
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“That’s clunky, I don’t want to keep it.”
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Writing is iterative, and tools can help, but shouldn’t replace his voice.
On Em Dashes & Detecting Human Writing (9:30)
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Robin shares a trick: he used em dashes long before ChatGPT and does them with a space on either side. He says that ChatGPT’s em dashes are double-length and don’t have spaces.
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Brian agrees and jokes that his editors often remove the spaces, but he puts them back in.
Closing the Gap Takes More Than Practice (10:31)
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Robin references The Gap by Ira Glass, a 2014 video that explores the disconnect between a creator’s vision and their current ability to execute on that vision.
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Brian agrees, noting that putting in the reps is exactly what creators must do, even when their output doesn’t yet meet their standards.
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Brian also brings up his recent conversation with Nick Petrie, whose work focuses not only on what causes burnout but also on what actually resolves it.
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Brian recommends mixing in growth opportunities alongside mastery work.
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He adds that this applies just as much to personal growth, especially when people begin to question their deeper purpose and ask hard questions like, “Is this all there is to my life or career?
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He suggests that sustainable performance requires not just consistency but also intentional space for growth, purpose, and honest self-evaluation.
Why Taste And Soft Skills Now Matter More Than Ever (12:30)
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On AI, Brian argues that most people get it wrong.
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Brian stresses that EQ is becoming more important than IQ.
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Companies still need people with developer mindsets – hypothesis-driven, structured thinkers.
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But now, communication, empathy, and adaptability are no longer optional; they are critical.
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As AI takes over more specialist tasks, the value of generalists is rising.
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People who can generate ideas, anticipate consequences, and rally others around a vision will be most valuable.
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“Tools can handle the specialized knowledge – but only humans can connect it to purpose.”
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Brian warns that traditional job descriptions and org charts are becoming obsolete.
Vision Is Not a Strategy (15:56)
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Robin reflects on durable human traits through Steve Jobs' bio by Isaac Walterson.
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Jobs succeeded not just with tech, but with taste, persuasion, charisma, and vision.
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They discuss Sam Altman, the subject of Empire of AI. Whether or not the book is fully accurate, Robin argues that Altman’s defining trait is deal-making.
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Robin shares his experience using ChatGPT in real estate.
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Despite the tech, both agree that human connection is more important than ever.
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Brian references data from Kelly Monahan showing AI power users are highly productive but deeply burned out.
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Many don’t believe their company’s AI strategy, even while using the tools daily.
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There's a growing disconnect between executive AI hype and on-the-ground experience.
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He warns against blindly accepting optimistic vendor promises or trends.
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Leaders pushing AI without firsthand experience risk overburdening their teams.
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This results in burnout, not productivity.
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“You're cranking up the demands. You're cranking up the burnout, too.”
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“That’s not going to lead to what you want either.”
If You Want Control, Just Say That (20:47)
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Robin raises the topic of returning to the office, which has been a long-standing area of interest for him.
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He’s tracked distributed work since Responsive 2016.
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Also mentions Shelby Wolpa (ex-Envision), who scaled thousands remotely.
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Robin notes the shift post-COVID: companies are mandating returns without adjusting for today’s realities.”
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He acknowledges the benefits of in-person collaboration, especially in creative or physical industries.
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“There is an undeniable utility.”, especially as they met in Robin’s Cafe to talk about Responsive, despite a commute, because it was worth it.
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But he challenges blanket return-to-office mandates, especially when the rationale is unclear.
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According to Brian, any company uses RTO as a veiled soft layoff tactic.
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Robin notes that the Responsive Manifesto isn’t about providing answers but outlining tensions to balance.
Before You Mandate, Check the Data (24:50)
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Performance data should guide decisions, not executive assumptions.
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For instance, junior salespeople may benefit from in-person mentorship, but… That may only apply to certain teams, and doesn’t justify full mandates.
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The decision-making process should be decentralized and nuanced.
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Brian offers a two-part test for leaders to assess their RTO logic:
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If the answer to #1 is yes:
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People will be less engaged, not more.
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High performers will quietly leave or disengage while staying.
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If the answer to #2 is “distributed”:
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RTO makes even less sense.
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His team spanned time zones and offices, forcing them into daily hurt collaboration.
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He argues most RTO mandates are driven by fear and a desire for control.
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More important than office days are questions like:
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What hours are we available for meetings?
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What tools do we use and why?
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How do we make decisions?
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Who owns which roles and responsibilities?
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The Bottom Line:
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The policy must match the structure.
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If teams are remote by design, dragging them into an office is counterproductive.
How to Be a Leader in Chaotic Times (28:34)
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“We’re living in a more chaotic time than any in my lifetime.”
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Robin asks how leaders should guide their organizations through uncertainty.
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He reflects on his early work years during the 2008 crash and the unpredictability he’s seen since.
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Observes current instability like the UCSF and NIH funding and hiring freezes disrupting universities, rising political violence, and murders of public officials from the McKnight Foundation, and more may persist for years without relief.
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Brian says what’s needed now is:
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Resilience – a mindset of positive realism: acknowledging the issues, while focusing on agency and possibility, and supporting one another.
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Trust – not just psychological safety, but deep belief in leadership clarity and honesty.
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His definition of resilience includes:
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“What options do we have?”
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“What can we do as a team?”
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“What’s the opportunity in this?”
What Builds Trust (and What Breaks It) (31:00)
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Brian recalls laying off more people than he hired during the dot-com bust – and what helped his team endure:
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He believes trust is built when:
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Leaders communicate clearly and early.
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They acknowledge difficulty, without sugarcoating.
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They create clarity about what matters most right now.
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They involve their team in solutions.
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He critiques companies that delay communication until they’re in PR cleanup mode:
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Like Target’s CEO, who responded to backlash months too late – and with vague platitudes.
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“Of course, he got backlash,” Brian says. “He wasn’t present.”
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According to him, “Trust isn’t just psychological safety. It’s also honesty.”
Trust Makes Work Faster, Better, and More Fun (34:10)
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“When trust is there, the work is more fun, and the results are better.”
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Robin offers a Zander Media story:
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Longtime collaborator Jonathan Kofahl lives in Austin.
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Despite being remote, they prep for shoots with 3-minute calls instead of hour-long meetings.
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The relationship is fast, fluid, and joyful, and the end product reflects that.
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He explains the ripple effects of trust:
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He also likens it to acrobatics:
Seldom Wrong, Never in Doubt (35:45)
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“Seldom wrong, never in doubt – that bit me in the butt.”
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Brian reflects on a toxic early-career mantra:
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As a young consultant, he was taught to project confidence at all times.
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It was said that “if you show doubt, you lose credibility,” especially with older clients.
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Why that backfired:
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Brian critiques the startup world’s hero culture:
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Tech glorifies mavericks and contrarians, people who bet against the grain and win.
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But we rarely see the 95% who bet big and failed, and the survivors become models, often with toxic effects.
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The real danger:
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Now, he models something else:
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Leaders should admit they don’t have all the answers.
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Inviting the team to figure it out together builds alignment and ownership.
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That’s how you lead through uncertainty, by trusting your team to co-create.
Slack, Remote Work, and the Birth of Future Forum (37:40)
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Brian recalls the early days of Future Forum:
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Slack was deeply office-centric pre-pandemic.
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He worked 5 days a week in SF, and even interns were expected to show up regularly.
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Slack’s leadership, especially CTO Cal Henderson, was hesitant to go remote, not because they were anti-remote, but because they didn’t know how.
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But when COVID hit, Slack, like everyone else, had to figure out remote work in real time.
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Brian had long-standing relationships with Slack’s internal research team:
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He pitched Stewart Butterfield (Slack’s CEO) on the idea of a think tank, where he was then joined by Helen Kupp and Sheela Subramanian, who became his co-founders in the venture. Thus, Future Forum was born.
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Christina Janzer, Lucas Puente, and others.
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Their research was excellent, but mostly internal-facing, used for product and marketing.
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Brian, self-described as a “data geek,” saw an opportunity:
Remote Work Increased Belonging, But Not for Everyone (40:56)
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In mid-2020, Future Forum launched its first major study.
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Expected finding: employee belonging would drop due to isolation.
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Reality: it did, but not equally across all demographics.
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For Black office workers, a sense of belonging actually increased.
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Future Forum brought in Dr. Brian Lowery, a Black professor at Stanford, to help interpret the results.
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Lowery explained:
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“I’m a Black professor at Stanford. Whatever you think of it as a liberal school, if I have to walk on that campus five days a week and be on and not be Black five days a week, 9 to 5 – it’s taxing. It’s exhausting. If I can dial in and out of that situation, it’s a release.”
A Philosophy Disguised as a Playbook (42:00)
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Brian, Helen, and Sheela co-authored a book that distilled lessons from:
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One editor even commented on how the book is “more like a philosophy book disguised as a playbook.”
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The key principles are:
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Policies don’t work. Principles do.
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Norms > mandates. Team-level agreements matter more than companywide rules.
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Focus on outcomes, not activity.
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Train your managers. Clarity, trust, and support start there.
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Safe-to-try experiments. Iterate fast and test what works for your team.
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Co-create team norms. Define how decisions get made, what tools get used, and when people are available.
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What’s great with the book is that no matter where you are, this same set of rules still applies.
When Leadership Means Letting Go (43:54)
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Brian and Robin agree:
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Robin draws a link between strong workplace culture and…
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If trust makes Zander Media better, and helps VC-backed companies scale —
Populism, Charisma & Bullshit (45:20)
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According to Robin, “We’re in a world where trust is in very short supply.”
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Brian reflects on why authoritarianism is thriving globally:
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The media is fragmented. Everyone’s in different pocket universes.
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People now get news from YouTube or TikTok, not trusted institutions.
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Truth is no longer shared, and without shared truth, trust collapses.
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He references Andor, where the character, Mon Mothma, says:
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People no longer trust journalism, government, universities, science, or even business.
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Edelman’s Trust Barometer dipped for business leaders for the first time in 25 years.
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CEOs who once declared strong values are now going silent, which damages trust even more.
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Robin points out: Trump and Elon, both charismatic, populist figures, continue to gain power despite low trust.
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He also calls Trump a “marketing genius.”
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Brian’s frustration:
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He shares a recent example:
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Right-wing pundits (Pam Bondi, Dan Bongino) fanned Jeffrey Epstein conspiracies.
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But in power, they had to admit: “There’s no client list publicly.”
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Brian then suggests that trust should be rebuilt locally.
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He points to leaders like Zohran Mamdani (NY):
Where Are the Leaders? (51:19)
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Brian expresses frustration at the silence from people in power:
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He calls for a return to shared facts:
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He draws a line between public health and trust:
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Brian clarifies: this isn’t about wedge issues like guns or Roe v. Wade
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The problem is that scientists lack public authority, but CEOs don't
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CEOs of major institutions could shift the narrative, especially those with massive employee bases. And yet, most say nothing:
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He warns: ignoring this will hurt businesses, frontline workers, and society at large.
89 Seconds from Midnight (52:45)
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Robin brings up the Doomsday Clock:
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This was issued by the Bulletin of Atomic Scientists, a symbol of how close humanity is to destroying itself.
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Despite that, he remains hopeful:
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Robin shared that:
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He grew up in the wilderness, where ambulances don’t arrive, and CPR is a ritual of death.
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He frequently visits Vieques, an island off Puerto Rico with no hospital, where a car crash likely means you won’t survive. As there is a saying there that goes, ‘No Hay Hospital', meaning ‘there is no hospital’. If something serious happens, you’re likely a few hours’ drive or even a flight away from medical care.
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That shapes his worldview:
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Despite his joy and optimism, Robin is also:
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Deeply aware of fragility – of systems, bodies, institutions.
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Committed to preparation, not paranoia.
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Focused on teaching resilience, care, and responsibility.
How to Raise Men with Heart and Backbone (55:00)
Robin asks:
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“How do you counsel your boys to show up as protectors and earners, especially in a capitalist world, while also taking care of people, especially when we’re facing the potential end of humanity in our lifetimes?”
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Brian responds:
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His sons are now 25 and 23, and he’s incredibly proud of who they’re becoming.
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Credits both parenting and luck but he also acknowledges many friends who’ve had harder parenting experiences.
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His sons are:
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Educational path:
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Preschool at the Jewish Community Center
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Elementary at a Quaker school in San Francisco
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He jokes that they needed a Buddhist high school to complete the loop
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Not religious, but values-based, non-dogmatic education had a real impact
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That hands-on empathy helped them see systemic problems early on, especially in San Francisco, where it’s worse.
What Is Actually Enough? (56:54)
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“We were terrified our kids would take their comfort for granted.”
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Brian’s kids:
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Lived modestly, but comfortably in San Francisco.
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Took vacations, had more than he and his wife did growing up.
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Worried their sons would chase status over substance.
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But what he taught them instead:
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He also cautioned against:
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The “gold ring” mentality is like chasing elite schools, careers, and accolades.
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In sports and academics, he and his wife aimed for balance, not obsession.
Brian on Parenting, Purpose, and Perspective (59:15)
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Brian sees promise in his kids’ generation:
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Gen Z has been labeled just like every generation before:
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He believes the best thing we can do is:
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Model what matters
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Spend time reflecting: What really does matter?
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Help the next generation define enough for themselves, earlier than we did.
The Real Measure of Success (1:00:07)
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Brian references Clay Christensen, famed author of The Innovator’s Dilemma and How Will You Measure Your Life?
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Clay’s insight:
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Early reunions are full of bravado – titles, accomplishments, money.
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Later reunions reveal divorce, estrangement, and regret.
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The longer you go, the more you see:
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Brian’s takeaway:
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Even for Elon, it might be about Mars.
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But for most of us, it’s not about how many projects we shipped.
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It’s about:
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Family
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Friends
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Presence
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Meaning
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“If you can realize that earlier, you give yourself the chance to adjust – and find your way back.”
Where to Find Brian (01:02:05)
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“Some weeks it’s lame, some weeks it’s great. But there’s a lot of community and feedback.”
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And of course, join us at Responsive Conference this September 17-18, 2025.
Books Mentioned
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How Will You Measure Your Life? by Clayton Christensen
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The Innovator’s Dilemma by Clayton Christensen
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Responsive Manifesto
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Empire of AI by Karen Hao
Podcasts Mentioned
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The Gap by Ira Glass
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The Ezra Klein Show
Movies Mentioned
Organizations Mentioned:
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Bulletin of Atomic Scientists
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McKnight Foundation
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National Institutes of Health (NIH)
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Responsive.org
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University of California, San Francisco