Benzi and Juno answer listener questions during this recording of the live q&a at the 2020 Relationship Anarchy Discussions (RAD) Unconference. They answer questions about their approach to anarchism, movement building and revolution, race, anarchist parenting, youth liberation, and more.

Benzi and Juno start this episode with a very emotional conversation about Juno's changing feelings around using the word "love," as well as their sadness and hurt over Benzi's social distancing practices. They go on to discuss their shared rejection and critiques of parenting as inherently oppressive and as a role that prioritizes the creation of new people over the care of already existing people.

What does it mean to be strong? How do we manage our sensitivities and navigate the world of discomfort differently? When do we speak up about what we want or don't want to change our environment and when do we use inner tools to tolerate dissatisfaction? Benzi and Juno discuss these questions in depth in this episode of Snake Oil.Announcement: On Saturday, May 23, at 7:30 pm, we are hosting a live Q&A episode during the Relationship Anarchy Discussions Virtual Unconference (2020) weekend. You can either call in or message us your questions during that time. We will update our Patreon page and our FB page with details about how to access the live stream.

Hypocrisy, contradiction, and change are the themes of the day in this episode of Snake Oil. Benzi and Juno discuss how they will be judged as hypocrites for the changing perspectives that they share on this podcast over time. They also discuss their different approaches to dealing with COVID19 and how that intersects with their relationship anarchy praxis and rejection or acceptance of relationship rules (policing, autonomy, consent), using “can’t” language vs. the language of agency, reliability and commitment (or lack thereof) in showing up for others, self-sacrifice and social justice, pandemic psychedelic trip experiences, their thoughts on a recent conflict fishbowl, and much much more.

This is a guest episode with our friends Clara and John that we recorded almost a year ago. We talk about our differing views on displaying intimacy and affection in public, the politics of relating, social justice, individualism, the limits of empathy, and lots more.Note that because this was recorded a year ago, some of our views on these things may have changed since then. Episodes from our podcast are not accurate representations of our opinions throughout time, because we change and grow. This episode is still very valuable to us in our exploration of these concepts.

We share our thoughts about the ethics of the sex trade and our intolerance for clients, as former sex workers ourselves who are critical of the commodification of sex under capitalism. This episode is prompted by a political and personal conflict with a sex trade client who has violated our anti-oppressive values and has been excluded from our community due to their toxic masculinity.”

We talk about the social construction of gender, the problems with gender identity theory, denaturalizing the category of sex, and feminism.

We discuss the limiting notion of sexual orientation, sex critical theory, and the politics of our sexual desires and fantasies.

Marriage is an oppressive system, and we talk about why in this episode. We also discuss how we would react to a social/political system like the one in Handmaid's Tale.

We talk about our experience at a Relationship Anarchy Discussions (RAD) Unconference that we both co-organized, as well as what relationship anarchy theory is.