Pain has a way of bringing everything to the surface — fear, resistance, grief, and truth. But when we stop running from it and start listening to it, it becomes one of our greatest teachers.

In this episode, I share how I move through life’s hardest seasons while staying sober, grounded, and present — and how pain can become a portal into deeper self-awareness and trust.

We’ll talk about:

• Facing your emotions without numbing or escaping.

• Choosing movement and mindfulness over avoidance.

• How pain brings you back into your body and your truth.

• The difference between control and real inner strength.

• Rebuilding self-trust through small, intentional choices.

  
  

Pain is an initiation. It's the call to surrender to the knowing that you are always exactly where you are supposed to be.

Everyone talks about the breakthroughs — the light, the clarity, the glow-up.
But what about the parts of healing that feel heavy, slow, or uncertain?
The seasons where you can’t tell if you’re growing or just tired.

Healing isn’t linear, and it’s not always obvious while it’s happening.
Sometimes it looks like standing still. Sometimes it feels like losing yourself.
Sometimes it’s the quiet dismantling of everything you thought was keeping you safe.

In this episode, I open up about the real process of becoming — the messy middle between breakdown and breakthrough.

You’ll hear her talk about:

• The phases of healing that don’t look like progress (but are).

• How growth can disguise itself as apathy, confusion, or fatigue.

• The identity shifts that come with sobriety and self-awareness.

• Why integration feels slower than transformation.

• How to recognize that your softness, patience, and stillness are strength.

If your healing feels invisible right now — this is your reminder that it’s working.
You’re just becoming someone your past self couldn’t have imagined.

No one talks about how weird peace can feel when you’ve lived most of your life in chaos.

If you grew up in instability or spent years chasing stimulation through alcohol, drama, or distraction — peace doesn’t feel safe at first. It feels flat. Empty. Like something’s missing. But that’s just your nervous system recalibrating to a new normal.

In this episode, I get deeply personal about:

• How chaos can feel safer than calm when it’s what you grew up with.

• The addiction to intensity — and why “excitement” was really overstimulation.

• The empty space that shows up after you stop running on adrenaline.

• What it really means to build a new baseline of safety and self-trust.

• How sobriety changes your relationship with peace, pleasure, and self-worth.

She also shares how childhood patterns, neurodivergence, and internalized shame can wire us to seek chaos — and how meditation, awareness, and emotional regulation can rewire that need.

Peace might feel boring at first, but it’s not emptiness — it’s alignment. It’s where your creativity, intuition, and magnetism finally have space to land.

Ever notice how easy it is to reach for the “easy button” when life feels heavy? A glass of wine after a long day. A joint to take the edge off. Scrolling until you forget what you were even stressed about.

But what happens when those escape routes are gone? When you’ve outgrown them, when they no longer work, and you’re left face-to-face with yourself?

In today’s episode, I’m talking about:

• What it really feels like to sit with the weight of life without numbing it.

• Why removing escape routes is actually a form of deep self-trust.

• The tools and practices I reach for when things get hard.

• How presence — not perfection — is where the real power lives.

This isn’t about glamorizing struggle. It’s about owning the truth: the sexiest thing you can do is stop abandoning yourself.

If you’ve built a good life but alcohol (or any other crutch) still pulls you out of alignment, this conversation will hit home.

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Sobriety isn’t the fairy tale ending or the instant glow-up people imagine — it’s the beginning of facing what’s really underneath. In this episode, I talk about why alcohol was never the real issue, why quitting doesn’t magically fix everything, and how the real freedom starts once the numbing is gone.

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Welcome to Sober Is Sexy. This podcast is where I share the unfiltered truth about how I stopped drinking and never looked back —the shifts, the lessons, and the freedom that comes with living in alignment. No sugar-coating, and no pretending sobriety has to suck. Just real talk on freedom, power, and what it takes to build a life you actually want to be present for.

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