The Love You More Strategy: The Counterintuitive Truth | Toye Penny #social333podcast #155
In this episode of the Social 333 Podcast, host Chris D. Bentley sits down with Toye Penny to discuss the counterintuitive idea behind the Love You More Strategy—why taking better care of yourself can actually make you a stronger leader, parent, entrepreneur, and partner.
Toye is the creator of The Love You More Method™ and founder of Love You More International™, where her work centers on helping high-performing mothers and leaders move away from overwhelm, silent pressure, and constant self-sacrifice toward greater self-mastery, well-being, and sustainable leadership.
The conversation explores why constantly putting everyone else first can eventually damage your own performance and the people who depend on you. Instead of viewing self-care as selfish, Toye explains why protecting your mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being creates the capacity to lead and support others more effectively.
They also explore burnout, identity, motherhood, leadership pressure, emotional resilience, healthy boundaries, and why looking successful on the outside does not necessarily mean someone is doing well internally.
Whether you are an entrepreneur, executive, parent, or leader carrying more responsibility than most people realize, this conversation challenges the belief that sacrificing yourself is the price of success.
✅ Why loving yourself more is not selfish
✅ The hidden cost of constantly putting others first
✅ How self-sacrifice eventually leads to burnout
✅ Why successful leaders can still struggle internally
✅ Creating boundaries without feeling guilty
✅ Self-mastery as a foundation for stronger leadership
✅ Balancing leadership, family, and personal well-being
✅ Why your behavior becomes a blueprint for others
✅ Building emotional resilience under pressure
✅ Creating success that is actually sustainable
📌 CHAPTERS
00:00 – Intro
00:06 – Meet Toye Penny
00:54 – Women, leadership, and funding challenges
02:30 – Adversity and finding answers within
04:46 – Learning resilience through failure
09:18 – Trauma, motivation, and leadership
15:58 – Leading by example
19:30 – Why leaders need real presence
22:36 – The hidden weight of leadership
24:31 – Focus, distraction, and loneliness
29:02 – Public success, private struggles
35:03 – Healing trauma and breaking patterns
35:35 – Rooted in the Kitchen
37:12 – Community, vulnerability, and shared experiences
41:38 – Final thoughts and where to connect with Toye
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