While what I teach is the same for all our kids, HOW I teach it is different! I approach, respond to, and manipulate situations differently. I ask different questions. I phrase things differently. I reframe certain ideas or concepts. I create scenarios accordingly. It's all part of the magic around here!

I’m going to challenge us to analyze our thoughts and beliefs about our autistic/ADHD kids, and see if there are some beliefs that need to go the way of the leaves this fall. 

I’m going to be a bit cliché and share my ‘how it started/how it’s going’ journey with you. Where I am in Starfish Social Club today is absolutely not where I was many years ago when I started my special education journey. I bet my ‘how it started’ story will be very relatable!

For a while now (probably over a year) I’ve been feeling like what we do at Starfish Social Club isn’t enough. If you don’t know, I teach autistic and ADHD kids and teens how to make friends.  That part of it is AMAZING. I’m so proud and excited for my students and the progress and growth they make, the connections they make with other kids, the challenges we work through on a weekly basis… That part of it is, hands down, AMAZING!  

What I don’t do very well is teach other adults how to best support our kids. Which means the skills and strategies my students are learning probably don’t make it too far past our parking lot.  

I have a new plan, and a personal reason why it's so important to me.

www.StarfishSocialClub.org/empoweredadvocate

Does your child struggle with time management? Do they get overwhelmed when things need to get done? Do they spend more time resisting or refusing than actually doing the thing? Do they have a reputation for procrastinating, or for never being on time?

If your child is autistic or has ADHD, you probably relate to at least one of these. Time management is one of the big challenges for people with executive functioning deficits, which is a core part of autism and ADHD.

Today we’re talking about why time management is a struggle for so many of our autistic and ADHD kids, and how we can help them develop this skill.

What happens when we teach neurodivergent kids social rules? They are likely to become the kids who either get ignored by other kids, or who have a reputation for being annoying. Why is that? How come when we try so hard to help our kids make friends, we sometimes end up sabotaging them instead?

  There really is no such thing as a social rule. There are no black and white situations when it comes to interacting with other people. When we pretend like there are, we do our kids a major disservice. We create social robots who ask rote questions on autopilot, like ‘What’s your name?’ and ‘What are you doing?’ and ‘How are you?’. Let’s talk about how to move away from social rules, especially for our autistic and ADHD kids who tend to be very rule-focused.

Does your kiddo refuse to apologize for things, even when there is evidence of the crime? Or do they apologize for everything?? Why is the concept of apologizing difficult for autistic and ADHD kids? I'm going to share some of the reasons, as well as some ways we may be making it worse, and how to focus on what really matters! August 25th is 'Kiss and Make Up Day!' What a great time to talk about apologizing! 

August 16 is 'Tell a Joke Day'! In this episode, I'm talking all about how our neurodivergent kiddos who struggle with social awareness may struggle with humor. Humor can be challenging for them to understand, and challenging for them to share. Let's talk about why, and how we can help!

This episode is a follow-up to episode 6. In episode 6, I talked about how the way we have learned to praise our neurodivergent kids is actually pretty flawed. It can have long-lasting consequences in terms of their self-esteem, relationships, employment, general happiness... even though we're doing what we think is best. 

In this episode, I'm sharing the ways to praise our kids that actually provide them with healthy self-esteem, boundaries, self awareness... all the things we really want for our kids so they can have happy, bright futures!

Welcome to episode six of Social Skills is Canceled. This episode is all about how we praise and reinforce our neurodivergent kids. It lays the foundation for the challenges that may arise with the way we praise our kids, and episode seven will be about what to focus on instead.