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If you've ever waited years for something to happen — the relationship, the breakthrough, the dream — and then found yourself unable to celebrate when it finally did, this episode is for you. It's time to understand what's really going on.

In today's episode, Yolanda breaks down why we pull away from the very things we've worked so hard to achieve — and it has nothing to do with laziness, bad timing, or being too busy. It's about your capacity for closeness. The same drive that got you to the finish line can be the thing that makes you step back the moment you cross it. Through a powerful reframe and a single question, Yolanda shows you how to spot the pattern, understand what's actually underneath it, and begin expanding your capacity to hold the good things you've been chasing.

By the end of this episode, you'll know:
- Why "I'll celebrate later" is a form of self-sabotage disguised as being practical
- How your capacity for closeness determines whether you can actually receive what you've built
- The difference between effort and capacity — and why effort alone won't fix this
- Why we sabotage the things we want most right when they come close
- The one question that reveals your pattern: *What do I step back from every time it comes close?*

If you've ever watched yourself pull away from the thing you wanted most, this episode will help you see exactly what's been standing in your way — and what it takes to finally hold it.

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Connect with Yolanda:
Grab Yolanda's NEW book: Untangled: How families stop walking on eggshells and start rebuilding closeness

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Thank you for tuning in to Softspaces Podcast with Yolanda Lewis!
If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe and leave a review to help others find their soft space too.

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Join the Conversation:

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Want more?

• Join the Unmuted Community for exclusive updates, member-only content, and tools for healing and personal growth. www.healwithyolanda.com 
• Explore more of my work and services: www.extremeoverflow.com
• Interested in learning about somatic breathwork and healing? Visit: www.healwithyolanda.com 

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Season 4 is 10 episodes on closeness as a capacity: trauma bonds, overreacting, the reassurance loop, keeping score, and the family doors that quietly closed. New season premieres Tuesday, October 6.

Thank you for tuning in to Softspaces Podcast with Yolanda Lewis!
If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe and leave a review to help others find their soft space too.

Stay Connected:

• Instagram: @softspacespod
• Facebook: /softspacespodcast
• YouTube: @softspacespodcast

Join the Conversation:

• Tag me on social media with your thoughts or takeaways from today’s episode using #SoftspacesPodcast.

Want more?

• Join the Unmuted Community for exclusive updates, member-only content, and tools for healing and personal growth. www.healwithyolanda.com 
• Explore more of my work and services: www.extremeoverflow.com
• Interested in learning about somatic breathwork and healing? Visit: www.healwithyolanda.com 

Are you wondering, “Why do I feel so depressed?” or searching for real answers about how to cope with depression? 

In this episode of Soft Spaces, we break down what depression really is, why it can feel so overwhelming, and—most importantly—what you can do about it.

You’ll learn:

• Why depression feels so heavy
• How to recognize the signs and symptoms of depression
• Practical, evidence-based tools to help you manage depression in the moment
• How to create supportive spaces for healing and connection
• Why seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness

Whether you’re struggling with depression yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode offers clarity, hope, and actionable strategies to help you move forward. 

If you’ve ever asked, “Will I always feel this way?” or “How can I start to feel better?”—this conversation is for you.

👇 Drop your questions or experiences in the comments and join our community of healing and support.

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🔗 Resources & Contact:
• For booking and inquiries: www.embodiedlifewell.com/contact
• For workbooks and classes: www.embodiedlifewell.com
• For the Reset Experience: www.embodiedlifewell.com/reset

#Depression #MentalHealth #CopingWithDepression #DepressionHelp #SoftSpacesPodcast #YolandaLewis

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Thank you for tuning in to Softspaces Podcast with Yolanda Lewis!
If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe and leave a review to help others find their soft space too.

Stay Connected:

• Instagram: @softspacespod
• Facebook: /softspacespodcast
• YouTube: @softspacespodcast

Join the Conversation:

• Tag me on social media with your thoughts or takeaways from today’s episode using #SoftspacesPodcast.

Want more?

• Join the Unmuted Community for exclusive updates, member-only content, and tools for healing and personal growth. www.healwithyolanda.com
• Explore more of my work and services: www.extremeoverflow.com
• Interested in learning about somatic breathwork and healing? Visit: www.healwithyolanda.com

Have you ever felt like you’re just waiting for the other shoe to drop, even when everything seems fine? 

In this episode, we discuss the hidden ways hypervigilance shows up in our lives—how our bodies can get stuck in a state of high alert, always bracing for the worst, even when we really just want peace.

We’ll talk about why calm can feel so unfamiliar, how childhood experiences shape our adult responses, and what it really takes to teach our bodies that safety is possible.We talk about the science behind trauma responses, and practical steps you can take to start feeling at home in your own skin.

Ready to move from survival mode to a life where you can truly thrive? 
Let’s do this together.

For workshop details or to book a session, visit www.embodiedlifewell.com/reset

For more information, visit www.embodiedlifewell.com

Support the show

Thank you for tuning in to Softspaces Podcast with Yolanda Lewis!
If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe and leave a review to help others find their soft space too.

Stay Connected:

• Instagram: @softspacespod
• Facebook: /softspacespodcast
• YouTube: @softspacespodcast

Join the Conversation:

• Tag me on social media with your thoughts or takeaways from today’s episode using #SoftspacesPodcast.

Want more?

• Join the Unmuted Community for exclusive updates, member-only content, and tools for healing and personal growth. www.healwithyolanda.com
• Explore more of my work and services: www.extremeoverflow.com
• Interested in learning about somatic breathwork and healing? Visit: www.healwithyolanda.com

This one’s for the Black women who’ve spent a lifetime feeling out of sync, only to discover—maybe much later than expected—that there’s a name for it. 

In this episode, join us for a powerful conversation with a guest who, after years of navigating life’s challenges, finally received an autism diagnosis as an adult Black woman. We dig into what it’s like to grow up feeling different, the relief and complexity of finally having answers, and the unique journey of unmasking in a world that often overlooks Black women’s experiences. Her story is honest, nuanced, and a reminder that it’s never too late to understand yourself more deeply.

If you’re ready to step into your truth and connect with a community that gets it, join us for Reset. Let’s rewrite the narrative together. 

Register here: www.embodiedlifewell.com/reset

Support the show

Thank you for tuning in to Softspaces Podcast with Yolanda Lewis!
If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe and leave a review to help others find their soft space too.

Stay Connected:

• Instagram: @softspacespod
• Facebook: /softspacespodcast
• YouTube: @softspacespodcast

Join the Conversation:

• Tag me on social media with your thoughts or takeaways from today’s episode using #SoftspacesPodcast.

Want more?

• Join the Unmuted Community for exclusive updates, member-only content, and tools for healing and personal growth. www.healwithyolanda.com
• Explore more of my work and services: www.extremeoverflow.com
• Interested in learning about somatic breathwork and healing? Visit: www.healwithyolanda.com

Have you ever caught yourself procrastinating, saying yes when you really mean no, or pulling away just when things start to feel good? If you’re nodding along, you’re not alone—and you’re definitely in the right place. 

In this episode, we’re getting real about self-sabotage and how it’s often a gentle signal from our nervous system, not a flaw in who we are.

Let’s sit together in this soft space and talk about what it looks like to lovingly interrupt those old patterns. I’ll share some of my own stories, walk with you through the signs of sabotage, and invite you to notice how your body responds—without any shame, just honest conversation and a lot of compassion.

We’ll even take a few deep breaths together, so you can feel what it’s like to create safety and healing in your own body, right here and now. 

And if you’re ready to go deeper, I’d love for you to join me at the next Embodied Life Reset class. It’s a one-day, in-person workshop where we get to breathe, connect, and reset together. 

You can save your spot at www.embodiedlifewell.com/reset.

Thank you for tuning in to Softspaces Podcast with Yolanda Lewis!
If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe and leave a review to help others find their soft space too.

Stay Connected:

• Instagram: @softspacespod
• Facebook: /softspacespodcast
• YouTube: @softspacespodcast

Join the Conversation:

• Tag me on social media with your thoughts or takeaways from today’s episode using #SoftspacesPodcast.

Want more?

• Join the Unmuted Community for exclusive updates, member-only content, and tools for healing and personal growth. www.healwithyolanda.com
• Explore more of my work and services: www.extremeoverflow.com
• Interested in learning about somatic breathwork and healing? Visit: www.healwithyolanda.com

In this episode, host Yolanda Lewis sits down with pelvic floor therapist Meghan Kasper for an honest conversation about trauma, healing, and reclaiming your body and identity as a woman.

We dive deep into:

What pelvic floor therapy really is (and why every woman should know about it)
The emotional and physical journey after trauma, surgery, or loss
How to reconnect with your body, honor your scars, and find wholeness again
Expert advice, practical tips, and the truth about what it means to heal

Episode Book References:

Wild Feminine by Tami Lynn Kent
Like A Mother by Angela Garbes

This episode is for every woman who’s ever felt disconnected, alone, or unsure about her body. You are not alone—and your story matters.

Content Warning:
This episode contains discussion about sexual abuse, trauma, and pelvic floor injury. Please listen in a safe space or with support if these topics may be activating.

If you or someone you know needs support:
National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673 (Available 24 hours)

Connect with Meghan Kasper:
Core Essence Pelvic Floor Therapy and Body Work
Website: www.coreessence.live
Facebook: Megan Casper

Connect with Yolanda:
Instagram: @Iamyolandalewis
Website: www.embodiedifewell.com 

Ready for your own reset?
Join the next Reset Experience: www.embodiedlifewell.com/reset

If this episode moved you, please like, comment, and share. 
Subscribe for more real conversations and healing journeys.

#SoftSpacesPodcast #HealingJourney #WomensHealth

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Thank you for tuning in to Softspaces Podcast with Yolanda Lewis!
If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe and leave a review to help others find their soft space too.

Stay Connected:

• Instagram: @softspacespod
• Facebook: /softspacespodcast
• YouTube: @softspacespodcast

Join the Conversation:

• Tag me on social media with your thoughts or takeaways from today’s episode using #SoftspacesPodcast.

Want more?

• Join the Unmuted Community for exclusive updates, member-only content, and tools for healing and personal growth. www.healwithyolanda.com
• Explore more of my work and services: www.extremeoverflow.com
• Interested in learning about somatic breathwork and healing? Visit: www.healwithyolanda.com

In this episode of Softspaces Podcast, we’re holding space for healing in real talk about art therapy—what it is, how it works, and why it might be the missing piece in your journey to wholeness. 

I’m joined by the amazing Karen Penn, Art Therapy Practitioner, who shares her wisdom on using creativity to process trauma, release what’s heavy, and reconnect with the woman in the mirror wanting to be seen.

If you’ve ever wondered, “Can art therapy really help me heal?” or “How do I start with art therapy?”—this conversation is for you. 

Get ready for real-life breakthroughs, simple art therapy exercises you can try at home, and how to make room for your own healing, no matter where you are on your journey.

✨ Timestamps:
00:00 - Welcome & Introduction
02:15 - What is Art Therapy?
05:30 - Karen’s Story: From Art to Healing
12:45 - How Art Therapy Helps with Trauma
18:00 - Easy Art Therapy Exercises
25:00 - Art Therapy for Adults & Kids
30:00 - How to Get Started

Sis, you don’t have to be an artist to heal. You just have to be willing to show up for yourself. So grab your favorite colors, Living Lighter Tea, breathe deep, and let’s heal together.

Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share this episode with someone who needs a little more softness and healing in their life.

Order your Living Lighter Tea at www.embodiedlifewell.com/shop

Book an Art Therapy Session with Karen Penn at:
www.authentic-views.com 

Like, Share with a friend and Subscribe to keep watching.


ArtTherapy #Healing #MentalHealth #TraumaRecovery #SoftSpacesPodcast #KarenPenn #SelfCare #TherapyTools #CreativeHealing

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Thank you for tuning in to Softspaces Podcast with Yolanda Lewis!
If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe and leave a review to help others find their soft space too.

Stay Connected:

• Instagram: @softspacespod
• Facebook: /softspacespodcast
• YouTube: @softspacespodcast

Join the Conversation:

• Tag me on social media with your thoughts or takeaways from today’s episode using #SoftspacesPodcast.

Want more?

• Join the Unmuted Community for exclusive updates, member-only content, and tools for healing and personal growth. www.healwithyolanda.com
• Explore more of my work and services: www.extremeoverflow.com
• Interested in learning about somatic breathwork and healing? Visit: www.healwithyolanda.com

Are you the one everyone counts on—the “strong one” who holds it all together, even when you’re falling apart inside? 

In this powerful episode of the Soft Spaces Podcast, host Yolanda Lewis dives deep into the hidden costs of emotional burnout and the survival roles we adopt: the Fixer, the Achiever, and the Nurturer. Discover how to reclaim your energy, set healthy boundaries, and finally put yourself first—without guilt.

Yolanda shares practical tools for healing, self-care, and breaking free from the cycle of overgiving. Whether you’re struggling with exhaustion, people-pleasing, or feeling unseen, this episode will help you reconnect with your authentic self and start living lighter.

Ready to transform your life and stop pouring from an empty cup? Tune in now and join a community of women choosing wholeness over hustle.

✨ For more resources and upcoming events, visit www.embodiedlifewell.com
✨ Follow Yolanda on Instagram: @Iamyolandalewis

EmotionalBurnout #SelfCare #StrongWomen #Podcast #PersonalGrowth #MentalHealth #SoftSpacesPodcast

Support the show

Thank you for tuning in to Softspaces Podcast with Yolanda Lewis!
If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe and leave a review to help others find their soft space too.

Stay Connected:

• Instagram: @softspacespod
• Facebook: /softspacespodcast
• YouTube: @softspacespodcast

Join the Conversation:

• Tag me on social media with your thoughts or takeaways from today’s episode using #SoftspacesPodcast.

Want more?

• Join the Unmuted Community for exclusive updates, member-only content, and tools for healing and personal growth. www.healwithyolanda.com
• Explore more of my work and services: www.extremeoverflow.com
• Interested in learning about somatic breathwork and healing? Visit: www.healwithyolanda.com

Are your daily habits helping you reach your full potential, or are they holding you back? In this inspiring episode of the Soft Spaces Podcast, host Yolanda Lewis sits down with the dynamic T. Nicole Allen—entrepreneur, real estate leader, and minister—to explore how faith, discipline, and intentional routines can transform your life and business.

We dive deep into:

The real impact of daily habits on your success
How to lead with authenticity and grace in male-dominated industries
The intersection of faith, business, and personal growth
Building “soft spaces” for healing, honesty, and thriving relationships
Practical strategies for women to show up powerfully in every area of life
Whether you’re looking for motivation, actionable tips, or a fresh perspective on leadership and self-improvement, this episode is packed with wisdom and real talk.

Connect with our guest, T. Nicole Allen:

Website: www.tnicoleallen.org
Email: [email protected]
Ministry Email: [email protected]
Facebook: Nicole Allen / Evangelist Tina Nicole Allen
Instagram: @evangelistnicole / @NicoleAllenRealEstate
Let us know your favorite takeaway in the comments, and don’t forget to subscribe for more empowering conversations!

Support the show

Thank you for tuning in to Softspaces Podcast with Yolanda Lewis!
If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe and leave a review to help others find their soft space too.

Stay Connected:

• Instagram: @softspacespod
• Facebook: /softspacespodcast
• YouTube: @softspacespodcast

Join the Conversation:

• Tag me on social media with your thoughts or takeaways from today’s episode using #SoftspacesPodcast.

Want more?

• Join the Unmuted Community for exclusive updates, member-only content, and tools for healing and personal growth. www.healwithyolanda.com
• Explore more of my work and services: www.extremeoverflow.com
• Interested in learning about somatic breathwork and healing? Visit: www.healwithyolanda.com