This week we’re discussing the One Thing That Gets in the Way of Resilience
As single parents, survival mode can feel like our default setting. The constant responsibility, the weight of trauma, and the sheer demand of daily life often leave us operating in a state of heightened stress. But survival mode doesn’t just impact us, it impacts our kids, our decisions, and even our ability to feel joy.
Today, we cover three main points:
- What survival mode really is and how it affects our bodies
- How to recognize the signs that you’re in survival mode
- Steps to move beyond survival and into resilience
Survival mode happens when our nervous system is dysregulated. It’s not just “feeling stressed”—it’s our body locked into fight, flight, or freeze, whether the threat is real or simply triggered by past pain. This is why you may feel on edge, numb, or disconnected even when nothing obvious is happening.
The signs show up differently for each of us. Some notice brain fog, an inability to make decisions, or a constant sense of panic. Others shut down, feel unmotivated, or want to escape. Recognizing these signals matters because naming them helps remove the shame, we begin to see them as normal responses to abnormal situations.
The good news: resilience is possible. With self-awareness, grace, and support, we can rewire how we respond. Simple practices, like reminding ourselves, “I’m safe right now”, taking breaks without guilt, or reaching out to a safe person, help move us from merely surviving to actually adapting and growing stronger. And when we remember we don’t have to carry it all alone, we give ourselves permission to heal.
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