Somebody's Son

Hi everybody, it’s Daylen from the Somebody’s Son Podcast and I want to send a special thank you to Mr. Andre for the kind review on Apple Podcast. Keep subscribing, keep leaving reviews and we’ll be sure to send you a thank you in the episodes ahead.

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On this episode the guys tackle the importance of being the real you. Now I know what you’re thinking, why should men care about self care. Look, my dad tells me all the time that if I take care of me I’ll be better positioned to take care of others. Give us five stars and sit back and Enjoy.

SHOW NOTES

Does your environment influence which version of you shows up? [1:12]

Russell explains what professional traits he wants to show up in the workplace.  [2:22]

Are minorities who successfully navigate America socially bilingual? [10:10]

How would your colleagues evaluate your PIE? [12:41]

Lang expresses the beauty of being his authentic self to work. [14:42]

QUOTES

Even though I’m in a room full of people that look like me I feel more judgement. [8:48]

I’m not here because I was an affirmative action pick. I’m here because of my work product across the board. [14:16]

CIRCLE CHALLENGE

How do you contribute to professional and social environments where others can feel comfortable being their most authentic self?

Say thank you to those that have given you exposure. Their efforts are often underappreciated but they shouldn't go unnoticed.

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Hi, everyone. It’s G from the Somebody’s Son Podcast and I want to send a special thank you to Tiara and Andre for the kind reviews on Apple Podcast. Our team appreciates feedback, so hit that subscribe button, leave us a 5 star rating and give us review. Who knows, shout you out on the next one. On this episode we explore how living a productive and meaningful life is a balancing act. With the pressures of today’s demanding and high paced world, most people struggle to find a reasonable balance. We can easily be drawn away from our priorities when one aspect of our life consumes the bulk of our time. To a large extent, it is much like walking a tightrope. When we drift too much in one direction or the other, we become unbalanced.  The guys share a few tools on how to sustain what we value most in our lives. We want you to find your balance in order achieve your purpose and goals. Enjoy.

SHOW NOTES

Russ goes all in on transparency by highlighting how he maintains distant relationships. [1:46]

Who and what would you say is in your social diet? [2:22]

Lang challenges the guys on how to balance work and everything else. [3:24]

Family, friends, and frolleagues? [3:59]

In a work setting, Russ shares what drivers allow you to connect with colleagues at a deeper level. [5:51]

Navigating politics even when the landscape is usual? [9:02]

Russ poses a question, does our community look for ways to create wedges in healthy relationships? [18:06]

QUOTES

Sometimes people remind you why you haven’t seen them in a while. [1:47]

I have learned how to love people from afar and accept them for who they are, and I don’t have to critique or judge them for where they are, I can just appreciate them from far away. [2:05]

Sometimes you feel like the odd man out or the stranger in a room full of people you’ve known for 10 years. [3:02]

Is it ok that we spend most of our time away from the people who we are committed to doing life with? [3:37]

My 5 to midnight is more important than my 9 to 5. [5:45]

CIRCLE CHALLENGE

How can you encourage men in your life to seek self-development?

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So often, having a mentor can help you navigate this life journey better, but not all mentors are good for you. Our conversation today focuses on how growth often leads to a shift in who you listen and look up to. We have found that if you open a door for someone, they’ll often walk out on their own.

SHOW NOTES

Russ shares what happens when you experience the wrong mentor. [0:58]

Lang poses the question, can informal mentorship have the same impact on people the way formal mentorship does? [4:04]

Knight salutes Dre for being a guide that gives him advice both formally and informally. [6:04]

The guys talk about how informal mentorship can be powerful and how being intrinsically motivated influences one's actions. [8:30]

QUOTES

I have benefited from being in certain rooms that my performance, work ethic and last name did not earn. It’s simply been based on the fact that someone thought enough about me to want to pour into my life.  [3:13]

If they were a great mentor, you’d look for opportunities to sing their praises. [3:54]

One of the things that I’m realizing is that you can’t necessarily go to the internet and find wisdom. I prefer to learn from tried, tested and true wisdom from someone who's experienced it especially if they’ve gone through this journey in a body or form similar to mine.  [8:51]

I’ve gone through some things because I’ve let go of some relationships that got me to where I was. [9:22]

There’s invaluable information and knowledge that you can gain from another person and it doesn’t have to be formal. [10:20]

The people I look up to the most are the people I cannot reach. [11:20]

CIRCLE CHALLENGE

How can you encourage men in your life to seek self-development?

In what ways can we create more opportunities for women leaders in business?

If you have a mentor, cherish them. If you don’t, try to find one, but always remember, the lack of formal mentorship does not have to prevent you from reaching your destination.

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Hi everybody, it’s Daylen

When I think about mentorship, I think of Dr. King and John Lewis, MJ and Kobe, Jay Z, and J. Cole. When older people give back to young people like me, it makes a BIG difference. In this episode the guys express the importance of mentoring. Sit back and listen to how you can make a difference. And don’t forget to give us 5 stars and hit that subscribe button!

SHOW NOTES

Lang shares how he sought to find mentors and how finding Ken Anmpy became a catalyst for his business and beyond. [1:12]

The guys highlight how Carlton Goode has influenced generations of men from VCU including Ali, Lang and Knight. [2:34]

Ali tackles the differences between mentors you can call or meet with rather than those you learn and connect with from a distance. [6:13]

The guys share how to find the mentors you want and need. [10:48]

The tables turn and the fellas outline the importance of not wasting the time of those who choose to mentor you. [14:01]

The guys discuss how all leaders can close the gap between those who aspire to reach where you are but think it’s unattainable? [18:40]

Ali shares an aha moment where he realized his life has actually changed because of mentorship. [21:42]

QUOTES

I have benefited so much from mentors and leaders that have pulled me to the side and help cultivate certain skill sets I have.  [0:42]

Finding a mentor is so important because you will find yourself growing in areas you either neglected or didn't even know was there. [5:38]

The connection makes a difference, it makes it special. [6:50]

I could’ve been able to navigate the valleys a little bit more efficiently and effectively if i would've had that person who was able to grow with me during this stage in life. [9:29]

You know the areas in which you want to be mentored, you can be mentored in various areas of life, spiritual mentor - business mentor, identify potential mentors in closer proximity and reach out.[11:19]

When we say being worth time, this is something anyone can change in a matter of seconds. Just being committed to your goals is being worth time. [17:32]

You can sense the level of hunger some people have. [17:48]

Make it meaningful... and you have to be willing to meet people where they are. [18:40]

Constantly be observing especially if somebody is going to pour into you their time, talent, and treasure. [23:51]

CIRCLE CHALLENGE

Do you have mentors? If not, what are you doing to build that type of relationship?

How can you give back to those younger than you?

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Greetings, SS family! We’ve decided to release episode 5, a conversation on being still, with audio only. We graciously encourage you to actively listen with empathy, openness, and curiosity. This is an opportunity to practice mindfulness - paying attention to the present moment, on purpose, and without judgement. Mindfulness has proven to enhance our communication skills, overall performance, and satisfaction across every area of life. After listening, please let us know how this format affected your ability to connect with the content.

SHOW NOTES

Knight thanks Lang for helping him deal with stress in the midst of the storm even when he didn’t want to. [1:03]

Ali talks about adjusting to college life and how meditation helped him prepare for the distractions that come along with being a freshman. [3:20]

The fellas share that if you take a pause and be still, you're allowing yourself to react differently to negative situations whenever they occur. [5:21]

Ali shares how the breathing exercise they practiced before the episode helped him in more ways than one. [9:15]

Have you heard of Yogaville? [11:32]

The guys share what they breathed in and what they released out during their deep breathing exercises. [15:31]

How do we navigate a society that tells us we’re not worthy? [18:15]

Don’t allow anyone to put you into a box. [20:53]

The guys share what happens when you “Be Still” to become the best version of you. [25:16]

QUOTES

Just because the tool is there doesn’t mean in the right place to use it. [2:45]

I’m not saying that you’re going to have a problem, meditate and immediately your problems will be solved. But, you will gain clarity. [6:09]

Creating that break between what I feel and how I respond will completely change how you start to respond to the emotions you feel. [8:47]

Formal education is important. Mentorship, guidance, coaching, teaching is important. There’s somebody who has figured this out already at least this little piece you’re going through. [12:09]

Ego hides humility. [14:57]

I know who I am, and I know who I belong to, and that's enough. If you give me the title, that's cool, but it's not required anymore. [17:10]

You’re here to serve other people but you can’t serve their expectations. [19:54]

Part of my mindfulness journey was learning perspective, getting out from within myself. [21:58]

CIRCLE CHALLENGE

Try a guided meditation using Headspace or Calm. Tell us, how did it go?

What’s going on everybody, it’s Garrett Drake, better known as G from the Somebody’s Son podcast. As a producer, I consider it a blessing to capture so many untold stories on film. Sitting behind the lens on this episode allowed me to learn so much about how I can better deal with the stress and pressure that comes along with life. I’m confident the tools these guys give you will help you better navigate this pandemic, and the pressure of life. Hit that subscribe button, share with a friend, and give us a five star review if you enjoy this episode!

SHOW NOTES

Lang poses a powerful set of questions he used to shift his attention to living a healthy lifestyle including  who are you? What are you here for? What are you doing and are you directing the horse or is the horse guiding you? [1:22]

Knight praises Kevin Love for  inspiring his meditation and mindfulness journey. [1:31]

Ali says, reflecting helps him clear his head, and he uses the app Headspace to set time on his calendar daily. [3:44]

Lang expresses how he’d tell his younger self how to balance the climb and grind with being mindful. [8:56]

The fellas talk about how prayer and the act of releasing from the inside out can feel so therapeutic. [10:18]

Prayer writes your heart, prayer exacts your words in ways that you aren’t consciously doing every day, and that’s sometimes is the most beautiful space we can be in. [12:58]

Lang shares his personal journey which proves to be quite encouraging because of his transparency. [13:58]

Ali shares how a float tank helped him recalibrate stress through sensory deprivation. [24:29]

The guy's conversation reveals that men are taught to handle pressure but need help learning how to relieve it. Let us know you handle pressure.

QUOTES

In order to achieve the transformation we are all seeking, a constant go as you grow, you have to set time aside and apply consistent effort with a full heart. [4:17]

I had to get out of my own way… I had to look myself in the mirror and tell myself I can't hoop all my problems away. [8:20]

Do whatever you have to do to figure out how to center yourself, know who you are, and then let the best of you be reflected in this world. [9:46]

My mom was so focused on preparing me for the outside world that I don’t know if  I was prepared to win on the inside. [11:07]

I was prepared to face war on the outside, but I was not prepared to win the war with myself. [11:30]

You don’t know what you’re not prepared for until it’s time for you to face it. [13:50]

CIRCLE CHALLENGE

How has meditation helped you handle stress? If you haven’t tried meditation before, we encourage you to try it via Apple Itunes, Spotify, Headspace, or Calm.