Introduction:
Ephesians 4:25-32, Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of youspeak the truth with his neighbor, forwe are members one of another.Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger,andgive no opportunity to the devil.Let the thief no longer steal, but ratherlet him labor,doing honest work with his own hands, sothat he may have something to share with anyone in need.Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may givegrace to those who hear.Anddo not grieve the Holy Spirit of God,by whom you were sealed for the day ofredemption.Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.Be kind to one another, tenderhearted,forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
Now, before getting to the text itself we must answer the question, why is this a tough text? On the surface of things it seems fairly straightforward, but is it? In v26 we find the first mention of anger in this passage, where were told to be angry and dont sin. So it seems anger and sin are two separate categories. But then in the rest of v26 we read the sun isnt supposed to go down on our anger, so does that mean anger is sin, or that were never to let anger be stirred up in us for very long? And more so, in v27 what does the devil have to do with our anger? Are we giving him an opportunity in our anger to hurt us or trip us up in someway? And then in v29 we see the only kind of talk were to allow out of our mouths is talk that builds up and doesnt corrupt or hurt others. Does that necessarily mean anger and angry talk is out of bounds for Christians? v30 then provides what might be the key to this whole section, when it says were not to do or say anything that would grieve the Holy Spirit, what does that have to do with this anger? And finally in v31 we find Paul instructing us to put away all bitterness and wrath and anger.
All in all this text is a tough text, because of its seeming contradictory teaching on the place of anger in the life of the Christian. The big questions is this? Whats does Paul teach on anger here? Is there good anger? Or is all anger inherently sinful?
My argument will be as follows. If we were honest, wed all admit that we know anger far too well. That fiery emotion that flares up when we feel wronged, frustrated, disrespected, or hurt. But I do not think anger is always bad. I think theres a good anger and a bad anger, and understanding the difference is essential for the Christian life. Tonight, Id like to show you that very thing. That anger, in its purest form, is not inherently sinful. The problem isn't anger itself, but how our fallen sinful nature distorts anger. We often find ourselves angry about the wrong things, and perhaps even more dangerously, were often not angry enough about the things that truly grieve Gods heart. So when your heart starts to heat up, Scripture doesnt just say dont feel that. It says, Be angryand dont sin. Tonight well learn how grace can train our anger to honor and not grieve the Holy Spirit.
Tonight, we'll explore what Paul teaches on anger, and from his teaching I think well be able to: 1) understand the biblical definition of anger, 2) be able to diagnose our own anger, and 3) discover a path towards redeeming our anger, transforming it from a destructive force into a tool for righteousness.
Lets begin working through the text.
v30 provides a framework from which we can interpret the whole passage. There Paul tells us of the reality that we can grieve the Holy Spirit. Think on that. At our conversion it was the Holy Spirit who applied the saving work of the Son to us. It was the Spirit who awoke us from our graves of sin. It was the Spirit who baptized us and brought us into union with Christ. It was the Spirit who indwelt us. It was the Spirit who sealed us in Christ. And now it is the same Spirit who continues to apply the saving work of Christ to us. The Spirit still revives us, keeps us, grows us, teaches us, sanctifies us, and even prays for us. If we obey the Lord and live in light of His commands, we honor the Spirit who resides in us. But v30 is sobering. If we disobey the commands of Christ we will grieve the Spirit. We could interpret this as grieving in the sense of injuring or harming, but I think its better to speak of our grieving the Spirit in the sense of causing the Spirit to be burdened or pained by our sin, just as a parent grieves when their beloved children stray.
This reality in v30, as I said, provides a framework for our whole passage. There are four arenas in which we can honor or grieve the Spirit: truth-telling (v25), labor and generosity (v28), kindness and forgiveness (v32), and then anger (v2627, v29, v31). Ill cover the first three quickly and then well camp out on anger the rest of our time.
Truth Telling (v25)
In v25 Paul provides the initial command. Because we are members of one another, all being united to Christ our Head, we must always do two things. First we must put away what is false, and second we must only speak what is true to one another. If we do this, well honor the Spirit, and if we dont do this well grieve the Spirit.
Labor and Generosity (v28)
Next, in v28 Paul instructs us against theft, saying honest work should occupy our hands, so that we have something to share with one another, instead of stealing from one another. Again, if we do this, well honor the Spirit, and if we dont do this well grieve the Spirit.
Kindness and Forgiveness (v32)
In v32 were given the command to be kind, tender-hearted, and forgiving toward one another, because God in Christ has forgiven us. If we do this, well honor the Spirit, and if we dont do this well grieve the Spirit.
Anger (v26-27, v29, v31)
Now come back to v26-27. There we read much. First we receive a command Be angry and do not sin Here Paul is not being innovative, hes quoting Psalm 4:4. There are various ways to translate this phrase, but note that in the top 17 English translations of the Bible, only 1 removes the form of command. The ESV, the NIV, the KJV, the NKJV, the CSB and others all translate this in the form of command Be angry Only the NLT removes the form of command and says Dont sin by letting anger control you In this we see how important it is to translate things properly. Here the NLT leads one away from the meaning and intent of Paul while the other translations keep us on the right track. But to be more generous to those who do read this translation we could simply say the NLT captures the warning while the other translations preserve the imperative.
Now, the English is good, but what does the Greek say here? Since the Greek is the original, seeing what it does here might settle this for us. And it does. In the Greek here Paul uses the imperative form, not the indicative form. Do you know the difference between those? Imperatives give authoritative command, while indicatives give facts or state opinions. One of my own Greek textbooks says There is no more forceful way in the Greek language to tell someone to do something than the simple imperative. Thus, we now know what v26 is. Its a command from God, Be angry and do not sin
This is further proved by the fact that in the Bible we see God Himself angered by sin. You dont have to look too far to find this: God is angered by Noahs generation, by Sodom and Gomorrah, by the actions of Egypt as they enslaved and oppressed His people, and by the other nations around Israel in their pagan idolatry. We see Jesus get angered in the gospels too: cursing the fig tree, flipping the tables, weeping in a rage outside Lazarus tomb, and more. And I think we also see the Holy Spirit get angered in a sense as we grieve Him in our disobedience, or as James 4:5 says the Spirit yearns in us jealously when we sin.
Now one could say here, Well ok. God is perfect, and God always does anger rightly. Because were sinners, shouldnt we always try to avoid anger? That is an understandable response to this. God is perfect and God does always do anger in the right way. We are sinners and almost always do anger in the wrong way. Yet, in the Bible we see godly men and women angered by sin. Moses in Exodus 32 throws down the tablets before the people at the golden calf incident. Phinehas gets angry enough in Numbers 25 to intervene and stops sin from spreading in the camp. Samuel is rightly angry at Saul many times, for not obeying God and taking matters into his own hand. David is angered as he hears Goliath blaspheme Gods name before Gods people, and David is angered when he sees no one standing up to do anything about it. More so, prophet after prophet is angry with either Israel or the nations around them for their various sins. Paul is angry at the Galatians for abandoning the gospel. Paul is angered by Peter when he avoids the Gentiles for fear of the Jews. And on and on.
Bottom line: godly anger is motivated by a deep concern for God's reputation and glory, rather than personal offense. Godly anger is directed at injustice, evil, and sin, seeking to uphold God's standards of righteousness. While anger can be a sin, godly anger is not, as it is motivated by love for God, others, and a desire to see things restored to God's will.
All of what I just said is true, but see more in v26. Im very glad for those final few words because it reminds us that anger, though not sinful in and of itselfcan easily lead to sin. This not only reminds us that godly anger is a true sign of spiritual health, it guards us from allowing anger to go too far in us.
How does this work? Anger typically begins with a godly anger at sin and its effects on ourselves, on others, or on the world. So we see the sin, we properly hate the sin, and we mourn over the wreckage that it has brought. That is what godly anger looks like. But if this anger is held onto, or nursed within us it will turn sinful, usually by becoming way too personal. So what began properly can truly become deeply sinful. The puritan Thomas Boston once said that when anger becomes this personal to us and turns foul, that this kind of anger is evil in itself, and dishonorable to God; being the vomit of a proud heart and un-meek spirit. Or as v30 reminds us, if we do this rightly, we honor the Spirit, but if we dont well grieve the Spirit.
v27 also guides this anger. Meaning, while anger can be true and godly, if held onto long enough it will become a snare for us. Lest the Devil take it and run with it, the day our anger is stirred up should also be the day we deal with our anger. Godly anger will happen in us, and in a sense the Christian is to always be angered by sin wherever we see it. But if we let it harbor inside of us, so that it grows into sinful anger, thats the kind of anger we must rid ourselves of lest we give opportunity to the Devil.
Now, what about v29? Does that contradict v26? No it does not. In v29 when Paul says let no corrupting talk come out of your mouth, he means it. Dont let anything that hurts or harms others leave your mouth. Does that include anger? Yes, if the anger is sinful and fueled by personal offense. But v29 does not include anger that is godly. That kind of anger, is actually helpful to hear.
But what about v31, where Paul says let all wrath and anger and malice be put away from you, does that contradict v26? Again, no it doesnt. We should put away every single ounce of ungodly anger in us, because it will only hurt others and ourselves. But, no Christian should ever put godly anger, for godly anger imitates God who does get angry at sin. In fact, I think too many Christians need to be more angry at what angers God, and that anger ought to stir us to love and good works of all kinds in the world.
Conclusion:
To end, here are some simple questions to aid you when youre angry
-Am I angry because Gods honor, truth, or a neighbors good has been harmedor because my ego or preferences were crossed?
-Is my anger proportionate to the offense? Does it stay tethered to love and justice, or does it escalate toward contempt or revenge?
-Am I dealing with it today, or nursing it into bitterness?
-Where will this angry energy lead? Toward a gospel response, prayer, or toward venting, attacking, and scorekeeping?
Church, while its good to ask these questions. More so, Id say in anger we need to remember the gospel. Only a forgiven heart can handle anger without being consumed by it. Anger usually leads us to explode or implode. Only the cross shows Gods holy anger against sin and His merciful love for sinners. As v32 says, Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.