For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon Our listener this week was constantly put in the impossible position of having to choose between which parent to take sides with to keep her safe. We look at the behaviour then and now, and how being raised by these parents is jeopardising her emotional safety and relationships now.  This week's episode is sponsored by Libsyn! The podcast host we use to publish. They're brilliant! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon

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You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Desperate for closure after a string of abusive relationships throughout her life, our listener can't help but cling on to rage and even hatred towards those who wronged her. As acknowledgment and atonement grow ever more unlikely, she asks how to deal with the hurt and anger. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

117. How Do I Deal With The Anger?

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) After a nasty outburst on a family holiday, our listener this week is struggling with words from her mother that can’t be unsaid. As the insults chip away at her self-esteem, examples of toxic behaviour in childhood bubble to the surface and she’s questioning everything she thought she knew about her role in the family. But is she really unlovable, a bad mother, and ‘broken’? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. TW: This episode talks about sexual abuse. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

116. Why Can’t I Cry?

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Our listener this week recalls a family conversation about her grandmother’s toxic behaviour. However, her mother is oblivious to how she displayed the same behaviour, and the lasting effects it had on our listener. Despite her mother’s difficult relationship with alcohol and emotional manipulation, our listener doesn’t want to rock the boat by saying how she’s feeling and asks, can there ever be healing in confrontation? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

115. Should I Confront Her?

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Growing up in the shadow of her siblings, our listener has recognised the toxic traits that were always excused and enabled. Despite going low contact, she's struggling with the idea of giving up on her siblings when she's been taught that "family is everything". Can a relationship with her siblings be salvaged, and should it? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

114. Can I Protect Myself & Keep My Siblings?

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Our listener this week shares how her kind and generous mother-in-law is "the nicest person you could ever wish to meet", with an enticing ability to keep the peace. But digging deeper, it appears there's so much more to her fawning and people-pleasing behaviour. As worry and exhaustion bubble to the surface, our listener asks how she can protect someone that doesn't believe they deserve protecting? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

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