Burnout - it's a phrase that so many of us have heard, but what does it mean, especially for those with a history of trauma? Listen as Dr. Claire Plumbly explains why burnout can be so difficult to recognise, and why it's something that everyone should be aware of.

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•⁠  ⁠Do you hate saying no? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help… •⁠  ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries? 

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Our listener this week shares how she felt manipulated and silenced by her adoptive mother, describing how even her father's death was weaponised against her. Now she's no contact and struggling to speak up in her current relationships, she asks how she can begin to repair the lingering wounds of her childhood.  

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links)

•⁠  ⁠Do you hate saying no? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help… •⁠  ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries? 

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As a psychotherapist and counselling psychologist within the NHS, our guest Dr. Natalie Cawley is no stranger to both sides of the therapy chair. Listen as she shares an invaluable look into how her own past has shaped her practice, and the lessons she's learned from 'failed' relationships and working with vulnerable and inspiring people.

TW: self-harm, suicide

Find out more about Dr. Natalie and 'Just About Coping' at https://www.nataliecawley.com/ and on Instagram at @nataliecawleypsych

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links)

•⁠  ⁠Do you hate saying no? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help… •⁠  ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries? 

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Going no contact with a narcissist is never a decision that's made lightly. Our listener describes being called stubborn, selfish and difficult and takes full responsibility for the breakdown of the relationship with her parents. Listen as Helen challenges the narrative of blame and shame that's surrounded her since childhood.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links)

•⁠  ⁠Do you hate saying no? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help… •⁠  ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries? 

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Driven by a fierce desire to protect her brother from her mother's 'poison', our listener yearns for a relationship with the sibling she tried desperately to protect. But as Katie and Helen peel back the layers of her complicated family dynamics, our listener learns there's so much more to her story than she first thought.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links)

•⁠  ⁠Do you hate saying no? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help… •⁠  ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries? 

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Describing her childhood as growing up in a cult, without access to basic necessities and education, our listener this week struggles to come to terms with the declining health of her parents. Listen to Helen and Katie help Emi tap into her healthy anger about being denied the childhood she deserved.

TW: religious cult, discussion of death

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•⁠  ⁠Do you hate saying no? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help… •⁠  ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries? 

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If you don't cry or dislike when someone around you cries, does that make you cold hearted? That's just one of the concerns that our listener wanted to tackle this week, as Helen and Katie explore her past childhood experiences and the lasting impact it's had on her ability to express her emotions.

TW: Physical abuse of a child

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links)

•⁠  ⁠Do you hate saying no? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help… •⁠  ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries? 

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You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links)

Our guest this weeks describes being 'obsessed' with her mother as a child, seeking her adoration and love above all else. She asks for help drawing a line under the past to be able to move forward with her own family, but is this possible if her mother is still the centre of her world?

Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.

•⁠  ⁠Do you hate saying no? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help… •⁠  ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries? 

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You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links)

TW: Suicide

Our guest this week shares how she's been living with her husband's mood swings and silent treatment, but now she's tired of feeling responsible for her family's emotions as well as her own. As the self-described "CEO of the household", she fears that if she steps back, the spinning plates she's been carrying for so long will come crashing down.

Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.

•⁠  ⁠Do you hate saying no? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help… •⁠  ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries? 

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You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links)

Former "good kid" turned trauma therapist, Maggie Nick joins us this week to talk about trauma and the impact her own childhood has on her parenting, including how she was feeling triggered by her children in ways she never expected. Listen as Helen and Katie unpick the relational trauma and shame that needed to be shed before Maggie could silence her inner critic and become the parent she wished she had.

•⁠  ⁠Do you hate saying no? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help… •⁠  ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries? 

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