I Have ADHD Podcast

MY HERO Dr. Tamara Rosier is here to discuss her new book, 'You, Me, and Our ADHD Family.'

The conversation delves into the complexities of relationships within ADHD families, the challenges of rejection sensitivity, and the importance of understanding oneself to foster healthier connections.

Dr. Rosier shares her insights on navigating family dynamics, the significance of cycle-breaking, and the distinction between safe and toxic relationships.

The episode emphasizes the need for emotional regulation and transformational thinking in overcoming the struggles associated with ADHD. In this conversation, Kristen Carder explores the themes of survival versus transformational thinking, the importance of witnessing others' experiences, and the processes of reaching, repairing, and reconnecting within family dynamics, especially in the context of ADHD.

She emphasizes the significance of understanding emotional boundaries and the journey of parenting, highlighting that it's never too late to make amends and grow from past experiences.

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Self-awareness is one of our deficient executive functioning skills and it can REALLY hold us ADHDers back if we're not careful.

Feel like you make the same mistakes over and over? That's in part because of lack of self-awareness. Feel like you don't know yourself, who you are, and what you want? Yeah, that's because your self-awareness isn't great.

In this episode, my client Joe Corpus is here to discuss his path to self-awareness and the crucial role that acceptance played in the process.

Joe was diagnosed with ADHD as a child but told by his mother that he was "fine" and "didn't need medication." What ensued was decades of feeling disconnected from others, but mostly disconnected from himself.

Joe shares his journey of developing self-awareness and how this can only be done with a hefty dose of self-acceptance. And the pathway? Well, you may not like it (I sure don't!): GRIEF.

We talk about it all...you're going to feel so nurtured by this episode, I just know it.

Joe Corpus is from Houston Texas. He owns a small, full-service gardening company dedicated to the stewardship of a limited number of high-end residential properties. Joe has been a part of FOCUSED for  10 months. He was diagnosed with ADHD approximately two years before the pandemic.

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Liz Poggi went from what her doctor labeled as "the worst case of undiagnosed ADHD I've ever seen" to someone who helps people with ADHD achieve to their goals on a daily basis.

Our discussion will address societal skepticism about ADHD and the clarity that a diagnosis brings.

Together, Liz and I explore the role of medication, community support, and structured routines that incorporate mindfulness and movement to boost motivation.

We’ll tackle misconceptions linking ADHD with laziness and address the stigma of feeling unlovable due to past experiences.

You're not going to want to miss this heartfelt episode!

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I've got another solo show for you this week and as always you're going to need to strap in for the ride!

First: I'll explain the concept of living in survival mode and help you to work your way out of the dumpster fire that is your ADHD life.

Then, I answer YOUR questions! We discuss how to transition smoothly between tasks and how to advocate for yourself.

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I AM SUPER EXCITED ABOUT THE RESOURCE OF THE WEEK - so make sure to tune into that around minute 38:00.

We discuss this research on sunlight helping us sleep better, and lastly, I share what triggered me (hint: my Instagram comments). We end on a spicy note, as usual.

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I've got a solo show for you today and you know what that means - buckle up because it's a rollercoaster of ADHD madness!

In this episode, I explore how ADHD impacts long-term goal setting due to prioritization issues and working memory deficits. I share personal strategies that have worked for me, such as creating urgency and seeking external motivation. A recent change in Apple’s download metrics inspired me to explore new avenues for my own long-term goals like YouTube and in-person episodes.

Then we answer some of your call-in questions, I share some resources with you, and of course, we wrap it up with what triggered me this week.

If you have ADHD or you think you might, join me for this action-packed show. And if you want my help with your ADHD, join FOCUSED!

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*Friendly Disclaimer: The views expressed in this podcast are not necessarily those of the host, I Have ADHD podcast, or FOCUSED.

In case you are wondering: I do not agree with all of Dr. Mellilo's takes on ADHD. However, I think he makes some interesting points and brings up aspects of the conversation that I've never heard before. As someone who's had a lot of repetitive conversations about ADHD and ADHD treatment, this was very interesting to me.

My intention during this interview was to ask good questions so that you could hear a different perspective on ADHD and decide for yourself.

Dr. Robert Melillo is a clinician, professor, brain researcher, and best-selling author of the book Disconnected Kids. I think you'll find this conversation fascinating. Dr. Melillo challenges the conventional view of ADHD, presenting it not just as a biochemical imbalance, genetic, or underdeveloped prefrontal cortex, but as a developmental imbalance between the two hemispheres of the brain.

During our conversation, Dr. Melillo breaks down the three subtypes of ADHD—inattentive, hyperactive-impulsive, and combined—linking them to different brain regions. We explore how the right hemisphere plays a crucial role in attention, while the left is more associated with hyperactivity and impulsivity.

Our discussion touches on the intricate interplay within brain regions like the basal ganglia and prefrontal cortex, with a nod to the influence of environmental factors and epigenetics. We emphasize the importance of early childhood development and how retained primitive reflexes can impact neurodevelopment. Movement, as Dr. Melillo points out, is vital for brain growth.

As we wrap up, Dr. Melillo highlights the importance of a comprehensive, personalized approach to enhancing brain function in adults with ADHD. By focusing on exercises and sensory activities, we can improve communication between brain hemispheres and address imbalances. This episode is one that might make you go, "HMMMMMM" - and I'm all for that. Enjoy!

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Psychologist, author, and ADHD expert Dr. Ari Tuckman is here to talk about the unique productivity challenges faced by adults with ADHD.

Dr. Tuckman and I discuss how ADHD-related productivity issues go beyond typical procrastination and time management struggles.

We cover effective management strategies like proper diagnosis, medication, education, coaching, therapy, and foundational self-care practices including sleep, diet, and exercise. Establishing routines and prioritizing tasks can significantly enhance productivity and reduce overwhelm.

This episode is a treasure trove of knowledge for anyone navigating life with ADHD!

Want more from Dr. Ari Tuckman? Check out his website!

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I'm trying out a new solo show style this week, and I hope you love it! I've got a bunch of fun segments for you:

First, I tell you all about my trip to Oxford University for a conference on Trauma with some of the biggest names in the industry (Gabor Mate, Bessel van der Kolk, Richard Schwartz, etc). Traveling is always a mixed bag for me - exciting and exhausting, and we dive into it all

Next, I share the resource of the week: The Brick 

Then I answer listener questions! We cover these 3 topics: 

1. How do I pack for travel as an ADHDer?
2. Should I go to my estranged family's birthday party?
3. How do I easily manage evening time with kids? (LOL)

We dive into this research study about Adverse Childhood Experiences and ADHD. 

And lastly, I go on a spicy rant about how Dr. John Delony says that ADHD is "JUST" the body's response to chaos. Excuse me no. Get outta here with that. 

It's a wild ride today, I hope you enjoy! 

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Psychotherapist Whitney Goodman is here today to talk about a crucial topic for many of us: navigating family-of-origin relationships as an adult with ADHD. We dive deep into the challenges and complexities neurodivergent individuals face within their families, especially during significant life transitions.

Whitney and I discussed how poor communication skills can create friction within families, especially when parents are skeptical about ADHD diagnoses. We emphasized the importance of supportive parental responses and self-awareness for strengthening family bonds. Generational differences in emotional health awareness were another focal point, with older generations often suppressing feelings while younger ones advocate for open expression.

The message is hopeful: personal growth can be a pathway to healing relationships.

Whitney Goodman - Calling Home

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This episode is personal for me. Over the past six months, I’ve explored the ADHDer's inner critic intensively, drawing insights from influential books like “Healing the Shame That Binds You,” “Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving,” and “Rethinking Adult ADHD.” While the inner critic isn’t a formal symptom of ADHD, it profoundly impacts those of us with the disorder.

In this episode, we start by examining how negative self-talk, often rooted in childhood criticism and toxic relationships, affects adults with ADHD. This inner critic can lead to self-hate and hypervigilance, causing toxic shame and hindering personal growth. I share my own struggles with shame rumination and the challenge of cultivating a positive inner voice, emphasizing the importance of self-compassion.

To combat negative self-talk, I suggest strategies like journaling, verbalizing criticisms, and using thought-stopping techniques. Recognizing and documenting positive aspects of life can foster a healthier self-perception. Additionally, support systems like trauma-informed therapy and specialized coaching programs play a vital role in managing the inner critic and associated shame.

Managing the inner critic is challenging but achievable with the right strategies and support systems. Want my help? Join FOCUSED for an entire course with a step-by-step process on how ADHDers can quiet their inner critic. 

Here are the 2 studies I mention In the episode:
Peer Functioning in Children with ADHD
Peer victimization in children with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder

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