In this episode of the I Have ADHD podcast, I had the absolute pleasure of sitting down with Dr. Ari Tuckman to talk about one of the most layered and misunderstood topics in the ADHD world: productivity—and how it's tangled up in our relationships, our childhoods, and the expectations we carry from society.

We dove deep into how our early experiences shape the way we function (or struggle to function) as adults with ADHD. So many of us grew up feeling like we were “too much” or “not enough,” and those messages often turn into people-pleasing patterns and unrealistic productivity standards that are so hard to shake.

Ari and I explored what it really means to be productive—not based on hustle culture or external pressure—but in a way that feels aligned with our personal values, goals, and life circumstances. We also talked about how this plays out in relationships, and how important it is to communicate openly with our partners about what’s going on beneath the surface.

We touched on the emotional labor of living with ADHD, the frustration of not meeting expectations (especially our own), and the real need for self-compassion as we navigate personal growth. Because here’s the truth: being in relationship with yourself—and with others—requires space for change, grace for the messiness, and a deep understanding that we’re always evolving.

This episode is for anyone who’s ever felt like they’re not measuring up, who’s navigating the push-pull of productivity and self-worth, or who’s simply trying to do the best they can with the brain they have. I hope it helps you feel seen, understood, and a little less alone in the process.

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If you’ve ever felt like your struggles with ADHD make you "less than"—this one’s a must-listen.

We’re diving deep into Shame Resilience Theory (thanks, Brené Brown!) and unpacking why ADHDers are especially vulnerable to toxic shame. Spoiler: It’s NOT because you’re lazy or broken (even if you’ve been made to feel that way).

✨ We’re covering:

1. Why shame thrives in secrecy—and how to stop feeding it.
2. The real reason ADHD tasks feel SO loaded with guilt and moral judgment.
3. How shame travels in families (👋 hi, generational shame).
4. The antidotes: empathy, self-compassion, and speaking your shame OUT LOUD.

We’re done letting shame run the show. Join me and learn how to break the cycle and build real shame resilience 💥. Hit play now—you do not want to miss this one!

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Today we're talking emotional flexibility, why black-and-white thinking is holding you back, and how one tiny phrase (borrowed from parenting wisdom!) can radically change how you relate to yourself and others: “Two things can be true.”

You’ll also get:

1. A cheat-code app for building emotional intelligence (perfect for ADHD brains)
2. My spicy take on that viral New York Times ADHD article 
3. A heartfelt message for anyone struggling with a late diagnosis 
4. And yes… the spicy podcast review that called me racist and sexist against white men 

It’s messy, it’s honest, it’s full of laughs and truth bombs. Basically, it’s classic ADHD.

Hit play now—because this episode might just change how you see yourself (and the world)

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Rejection hurts—especially when you have ADHD. For years, the term Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) has helped many of us put language to that experience. But in this episode, I explain why I’m no longer using that term—and what I’m saying instead.

We’ll cover:

1. What rejection sensitivity actually is
2. Why it makes total sense (and it's not a disorder)
3. What’s problematic about the term RSD...in my opinion
4. What the research really says about rejection and ADHD
5. How trauma, therapy, coaching, and yes—medication—can all help

This episode is validating, spicy, and rooted in both lived experience and science. Let’s talk about rejection sensitivity in a way that empowers us to heal.

Resources Mentioned:

1. Journal of Pediatric Psychology study on ADHD and peer rejection
2. Dr. Dodson’s updated Additude article on RSD

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In this episode of the I Have ADHD podcast, I have the absolute pleasure of sitting down with autism expert and clinician Dr. Robert Naseef to explore the deeply personal and complex relationship between autism and ADHD. Together, we reflect on the key differences between these two neurodivergent identities while celebrating the importance of self-acceptance and understanding.

We also touch on AuDHD, the experience of having both ADHD and autism—a dual diagnosis that is more common than many people realize. We explore what it looks like in real life, how it can be misunderstood, and why recognition of this intersection is so important.

Dr. Naseef shares his powerful journey as a father of a child with autism, and we talk about what it really means to support parents who are walking a similar path.

Our conversation touches on the primary traits of autism, the unique social experiences of autistic adults, and why embracing neurodiversity is so essential.

This episode is heartfelt, hopeful, and full of validation. Whether you're parenting a neurodivergent child or navigating your own neurodivergence, I hope you walk away feeling more connected, more informed, and more empowered.

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Think you know ADHD? Think again.

In this solo episode, I’m breaking down 10 surprising truths about ADHD that most people (even professionals!) get wrong. From misunderstood symptoms to powerful treatment outcomes, we’re going deep—but keeping it real, relatable, and research-backed.

You’ll learn:

1. Why ADHD is one of the most treatable mental health conditions
2. The truth about calling ADHD a “superpower”
3. How support systems make all the difference
4. What messed-up sleep has to do with your symptoms
5.  Why rejection hits SO hard (and what to do about it)
6. Why “just get organized” is the worst advice ever
7. And yes, the A-list celebrities who have ADHD too

Whether you’re diagnosed, self-diagnosed, or ADHD-curious, this episode is packed with the insight, validation, and clarity you’ve been craving.

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Making and keeping friends as an adult with ADHD can be really hard. We tend to move fast—bonding quickly, oversharing early, and sometimes getting burned. In this episode, I’m sharing two powerful (and practical!) skills that can help you build friendships that feel safer, steadier, and more fulfilling: going slow and listening better.

If you’ve ever felt like friendship is either all in or all out, this episode is your gentle reminder that connection doesn’t have to be chaotic. You can take your time. You can build trust. You can listen—and be heard.

💡 What We Cover:

1. Why people with ADHD often “speedrun” friendships
2. A mindset shift to help you slow down and stay grounded
3. A gut check to use before oversharing
4. Simple tools to help you stay present while listening
5. How going slow can actually deepen your relationships

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Friendship as an adult is hard—and when you have ADHD, it can feel almost impossible. The impulsivity, the overthinking, the struggle to set boundaries or trust your gut... it’s a lot. But you can build strong, supportive friendships—and it starts with knowing what to look for (and what to avoid).

In Part 1 of this two-part series, we’re breaking down:

1. Why friendships can be uniquely challenging for ADHDers
2. How to recognize red flags before you waste time on the wrong people
3. What green flags to look for in a healthy, balanced friendship
4. How to make new friends as an adult (without it feeling totally overwhelming)
5. Why it’s important to go slow and avoid the overshare/overinvest spiral

You’ll walk away with a better understanding of what makes relationships feel safe and energizing—and how to stop settling for less than you deserve.

💛 Don’t miss Part 2 next week, where we’ll dive into how to actually GO OUT AND FIND FRIENDS!

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If you’re parenting with ADHD, you already know—it’s a lot. The meltdowns (sometimes yours), the forgotten school forms, the overstimulation, the guilt spiral after snapping at your kid… and then the vow to do better next time.

In today’s episode, we’re talking about how to be a good enough parent, even when ADHD makes it hard. You’ll learn the 5 essential building blocks every ADHD parent needs (hint: perfection is not one of them), and how to model one of the most powerful relationship skills there is: repair.

Because here’s the thing: ADHD brains mess up sometimes. We say the wrong thing, lose our cool, or zone out when our kid really needs us. That doesn’t make you a bad parent. What matters most is what you do next—and this episode will show you how to turn those moments into meaningful connection.

We’ll also talk about:

1. The heritability of ADHD (and what that means for your family)
2. Why understanding your own ADHD is key to raising resilient kids
3. How to ditch the guilt and embrace accountability
4. What “good enough” parenting actually looks like
5. The 5 R’s that help ADHD parents build trust, connection, and confidence

You don’t need to be perfect—you just need to show up, own your mistakes, and keep trying. And guess what? That’s exactly what your kid needs to see.

Want more support on your parenting journey? Join the FOCUSED coaching membership—doors are open! 

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Following through is hard enough when everything goes right—but what about when life happens? When motivation was there, the plan was solid, and then… BAM. A curveball knocks you off track. If you have ADHD, you know how hard it is to re-engage after a disruption. So how do you recover without spiraling into guilt and frustration?

In this episode, I’m sharing practical strategies for getting back on track when life throws you off course—plus, what to do when you are the reason you didn’t follow through. We’ll also dig into fascinating research on why working out is literally harder for ADHDers (yep, science backs us up!) and answer a listener’s question about emotional regulation. And don’t miss it—I’m also giving you an amazing resource that will make follow-through so much easier.

🎧 Press play now and let’s figure out how to make follow-through work for your ADHD brain, not against it!

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