Soul Game

In this episode, we explore one of the most charged and misunderstood dynamics in relationships — when one person is fully ready for commitment and the other is not there yet.

We share the real story of a season in our relationship when Britta was a wholehearted yes to marriage and Kevin was not ready. Instead of treating this as a “problem,” we talk about the shift that changed everything: not knowing is not a problem.

We look at why so much mainstream relationship advice pathologizes this moment, how that reinforces insecurity, and what becomes possible when you step out of adversarial narratives like “he has commitment issues” and into curiosity, truth, and personal responsibility.

Inside the episode, we explore:

• the hidden advantage in seasons of unequal commitment

• how to reveal what you want without agenda or attachment

• why being a “yes” to your partner’s “no” creates safety instead of pressure

• bringing clean fire when fear (not wisdom) is running the show

• the three-question framework that opens a deeper intelligence

• a simple experiment that shows how you generate your own internal experience — and the physics of relating from awe, appreciation, and curiosity

This one is a recalibration of how we see commitment, desire, timing, and truth in relationships — and an invitation to live from the deeper well of your own wellbeing rather than outsourcing your okayness to your partner.

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Britta: ⁠⁠⁠brittakristin.com⁠⁠⁠

Kevin: ⁠kevinlawrence.org⁠

What if the most transformative practice you could start wasn’t something you learned from a book or a coach — but something you invented yourself?

In this mini episode, Britta and Kevin explore the power of designing your own experiments: simple, intentional practices that shift you out of old patterns, accelerate insight, and reconnect you with your own authority.

Inspired by a real 30-day experiment Britta created for herself, we talk about:

• why every “official” practice was originally made up by someone

• how waiting for the right exercise keeps you stuck

• why all data is good data (even the so-called failures)

• the freedom and fun that come with being an experimenter

• how starting laughably small can change everything

If you have been trying to get it right, this is your reminder to make things up, try things out, and let life show you what works.

Creating your own experiments is how you accelerate your growth — and reclaim your authority.

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Britta: ⁠⁠brittakristin.com⁠⁠

Kevin: ⁠kevinlawrence.org⁠

In this episode, Kevin is joined by returning guest Brendan Lea for a deep, candid exploration of agendas, intuition, and the integrity of teaching. Together they look at what becomes possible when you stop trying to be helpful and start working without an agenda — and how dropping that hidden impulse changes the entire texture of a conversation.

They talk about the strange art of teaching, the challenge of meeting people exactly where they are, and the way intuition shows up as an undistorted knowing beneath all of our habits of thought. Kevin shares how he uncovered an unconscious agenda to be helpful, the helplessness sitting underneath it, and the freedom that opened up once he stopped running from that feeling.

The conversation moves into vulnerability as a practice, the difference between being vulnerable and feeling vulnerable, and why telling the truth you’re most afraid to say often shifts everything. They also explore shame as a view, the “yeah, but” dynamic, and the wisdom inside patterns we’re quick to judge or eliminate.

They close with personal reflections on authority, empowerment, and what it takes to dissolve old internal structures at the root.

About Brendan:

Inviting You To Consciousness and Skill Worldwide. Brendan’s commitment to study and training has led to great awareness and understanding of the dynamics of mind and body as they apply to interaction and skill. Through years of intense contemplation he has also developed a deep understanding of his own condition and had a deep enlightenment experience at twenty-seven. This allows him to powerfully facilitate others in having the breakthroughs and insights necessary to expand their own consciousness. Brendan Lea first met Peter Ralston, the founder of Consciousness and Skill Worldwide, when he was seventeen. Within days of meeting him, Brendan committed himself to a life of study and moved to Texas to be at the Cheng Hsin Center. From the age of eighteen Brendan has been in attendance to every apprentice program that has been offered at the Cheng Hsin center in Pipe Creek, TX.

Websites: thebrendanlea.com and peterralston.com

Skool Community: skool.com/the-consciousness-path

Youtube: www.youtube.com/@TheBrendanLea

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Britta: ⁠⁠brittakristin.com⁠⁠

Kevin: ⁠kevinlawrence.org⁠

In this episode, Kevin and Britta share the story of their magical first date and the early stages of their relationship. Not as a formula to copy, but as a lived illustration of the most powerful leverage point in relationships: who you are being.

They explore the shift from looking for the “right person” to choosing a way of being that feels aligned, embodied, open-hearted, and enjoyable, and how that choice transforms every relationship in your life.

Britta shares the intentional way she dated during that season: loving the person in front of her fully, savoring her own feminine essence, staying rooted in pleasure, keeping a low filter for first dates and a very high filter for second ones. She loved who she was being, and she met so many incredible men — a reminder that our way of being shapes our reality.

Kevin reflects on the leadership and vulnerability he brought from the very first date, including the moment he shared, “I’m going to love whoever I’m on a date with fully,” and how clear context and boundaries created safety, containment, and deep attraction.

Together, they explore:

• choosing your way of being as a moment-to-moment practice

• why vulnerability is the pathway to intimacy

• how “givers with boundaries” thrive in love and business

• why leadership begins in the body, not the mind

• experimenting with loving whatever is right in front of you

• how shared context can create instant chemistry

This episode is an invitation to remember your agency and ask, in any moment:

Who do I want to be right now?

And what becomes possible when that answer leads?

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Britta: ⁠⁠brittakristin.com⁠⁠

Kevin: ⁠kevinlawrence.org⁠

You can choose who you’re being — in any moment.

This short episode explores one of the simplest, most overlooked truths: that being is a choice, and it’s the highest leverage point we have. We talk about how the left brain forgets this power, how shame can distort it, and what becomes possible when you remember that being directs doing.

An invitation to pause, remember, and play with the question:

Who would I like to be next?

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Britta: ⁠⁠brittakristin.com⁠⁠

Kevin: ⁠kevinlawrence.org⁠

What if the “how” mattered more than the “what”?

In this continuation of our conversation with Fawn Miller, we explore the essential question that follows the recognition of our culture’s left-brain dominance: now what?

Together, we unpack why trying to “fix” the problem with left-brain solutions only deepens the divide — and how true change begins in our orientation. From shame-based fixing to loving witness. From procedure to presence. From control to groove.

Through stories, science, and lived wisdom, we explore what it means to return to harmony between the hemispheres — and why thriving, in life or leadership, is less about finding the right answers and more about finding the right way of being.

Listen to our first episode with Fawn — Designed to Thrive on ⁠Apple⁠ and ⁠Spotify⁠.

About Fawn:

Fawn Miller helps brilliant humans embrace their calling and bring their Thrive Mode to life. She's a master-level coach with over 7,000 hours of experience guiding highly ambitious humans ready to create the thriving experience they truly desire. Fawn is the founder of the acclaimed Life. Fun. Purpose.™ program and framework, and brings over 20 years of study in coaching, human potential, neuroscience, and consciousness studies to her work. She specializes in life design, personal freedom, and helping people align with their authentic purpose. When she's not activating Thrive Mode in others, Fawn lives in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico with her life partner, two dogs, two cats, and their rescue possum named Possibility.

Website: ⁠fawnmiller.com⁠

Resources: 

“⁠The Divided Brain⁠” documentary based on Iain’s first book and foundational research

“⁠Intro to Iain McGilchrist⁠” Youtube playlist of Fawn’s recommended intro interviews

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Britta: ⁠⁠⁠brittakristin.com⁠⁠⁠

Kevin: ⁠kevinlawrence.org⁠

Unscripted. Unfiltered. Unexpectedly tender.

In this next installment of our ongoing conversation with Fawn Miller, Britta and Kevin explore what it means to live from right-brain awareness — not as a concept, but as a way of being. The conversation unfolds in real time, with moments of laughter, tears, and raw honesty as they follow the thread from control to flow, grief to freedom, structure to spontaneity.

They explore how the left brain’s grip on certainty and perfection can disconnect us from wisdom and wellbeing — and how everything changes when we let the right brain lead. This is a conversation about permission, integration, and remembering the innate intelligence that moves through us when we stop managing ourselves and simply let life move.

Listen to our first episode with Fawn — Designed to Thrive on Apple and Spotify.

About Fawn:

Fawn Miller helps brilliant humans embrace their calling and bring their Thrive Mode to life. She's a master-level coach with over 7,000 hours of experience guiding highly ambitious humans ready to create the thriving experience they truly desire. Fawn is the founder of the acclaimed Life. Fun. Purpose.™ program and framework, and brings over 20 years of study in coaching, human potential, neuroscience, and consciousness studies to her work. She specializes in life design, personal freedom, and helping people align with their authentic purpose. When she's not activating Thrive Mode in others, Fawn lives in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico with her life partner, two dogs, two cats, and their rescue possum named Possibility.

Website: fawnmiller.com

Resources: 

“The Divided Brain” documentary based on Iain’s first book and foundational research

“Intro to Iain McGilchrist” Youtube playlist of Fawn’s recommended intro interviews

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Britta: ⁠⁠brittakristin.com⁠⁠

Kevin: ⁠kevinlawrence.org⁠

What if the life you actually want is waiting on the other side of what feels hardest to say?

In this mini episode, we explore vulnerability as a living portal — a way of meeting the moment that opens deeper truth, intimacy, and alignment. 

When you’re willing to say what’s never been said, you step into the life that’s been trying to find you all along.

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Britta: ⁠⁠brittakristin.com⁠⁠

Kevin: ⁠kevinlawrence.org⁠

What if shame isn’t a feeling, but a lens — a habitual way of seeing yourself or life as wrong?

And what if recognizing that is the first essential step toward freedom?

In this episode, we explore shame as a view of resistance — the stance that something in you or your experience should be different. From the subtle language of “should” to the impulse to control or manage what feels uncomfortable, we look at how this view creates suffering and separates us from the natural intelligence of life.

Through the lens of Process Work, we explore a different possibility: that every state, from freeze to forgetting to anger, carries its own wisdom when met with curiosity instead of correction.

An invitation to trust what’s unfolding, soften resistance, and let life show you what it’s trying to reveal.

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Britta: ⁠⁠brittakristin.com⁠⁠

Kevin: ⁠kevinlawrence.org⁠

In this episode, we sit down with Randy Paris — playing the part of the thoughtful skeptic who has spent over a decade searching for peace, flow, and inner harmony. Together we explore what it means to live in a thought-created reality: how our experience is shaped not by circumstances themselves, but by the thinking we bring to them.

Randy voices the doubts many of us carry — “How does trusting yourself actually pay the bills?” — and we walk through real stories, including Britta’s two-day financial freakout in Berlin and the profound shift that came when she saw worry was optional. Along the way, we talk about the difference between left-brain anxiety and right-brain spaciousness, why panic narrows possibility while presence expands it, and how experimentation can help even the most skeptical mind find its own evidence.

The episode closes with a simple thought experiment you can try yourself: live for a time as if reality is 100% thought-created — and notice the space beyond thought.

About Randy:

Randy Paris is a serial founder. His work has raised $50M+, created hundreds of jobs, and reached millions of people. He started his career at The White House, working on science and technology policy for President Obama. He has served as a Senior Fellow at the Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania, an Advisor to Schmidt Futures, and a Mentor at Techstars. He received his B.A. from Wake Forest University and his MBA from the University of Chicago Booth School of Business, where he graduated with distinction. Randy is a work in progress.

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Britta: ⁠⁠brittakristin.com⁠⁠

Kevin: ⁠kevinlawrence.org⁠