What exactly should you say when someone crosses a line? In today's episode, Jen shares what you need to know about people pleasing, how to stop if you are a people pleaser, and what exactly to say to someone to set good boundaries. 

(1:03) Getting to the root of people pleasing, the nature of it, and the harm it does for others and you

(3:03) Reframing confrontation in a relationship

(13:13) How to start setting boundaries & understanding your trauma response

(18:16) Problem Solving vs. Fixing

(22:15) Scripts for boundary setting

(23:10) What to say to someone asking for free products, discounts, or labor/services

(28:14) What to say to someone always giving you advice you don't want

(29:00) What to say to someone who is overly concerned about your job/ health/ relationships

(31:40) What to say to someone who is always late or cancels last minute

(34:54) What to say if someone breaks a boundary you already discussed

(36:26) What to say to the person who doesn't have boundaries, but you want them to respect yours

Download all these prompts and more tips in this free resource: "Setting Boundaries: Tips & Prompts"

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In this special 10th episode of the Find Your Freedom podcast, Jen give you some insight into how she uses meditation in her life as well as in her life coaching practice. Then, Jen guides you through one of her favorite meditations that's perfect for when you're feeling drained or anxious and just want to reset. 

Use this for intention setting the morning, a refresh in the middle of the day, or to unwind for the night.

(3:07) meditation starts

Looking to deepen your meditation practice and rewire your mind to be calm? Book a 30 minute coaching consult with Jen to see how you can go from stressed to zen in 6 months.

Music used from https://www.FesliyanStudios.com

If you're constantly stressed, feel like you need to do more, or can't relax because you feel like resting is being lazy, this one is for you.

In today's episode, Jen explains when productivity turns toxic, how your thoughts are creating your stress and anxiety, and how to create a healthy relationship with productivity by being kind to yourself.

(01:14) what is toxic productivity and burnout & how the body and mind responds

(06:00) Jen's experiences with burnout and neglecting self-care that landed her in the hospital

(07:40) how you're running to your death

(9:06) an eyeopening conversation and powerful mental reframes to shift OUT of toxic productivity so you can enjoy your life, be present in your rest, and be stronger and more productive in a joyful meaningful way.

(13:24) the best analogy for when you realize sh*t needs to change & the case for self-compassion in productivity

(16:59) when the discomfort of staying where you are is greater than the discomfort of changing

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Get ready to download some new brain programing today:

(1:10) what is mental reframing?

(1:59) my thoughts on complaining and when it can be helpful

(3:52) victim mentality and how it can come through in your life

(6:09) the karpman drama triangle & how drama is created

(13:18) the antithesis of the karpman drama triangle & how to stop the drama

(17:30) mental reframe for victim mentality

(19:37) "The Model" & how to use it (examples used: if you're really busy and tired all the time & if you want to lose weight and it's not working)

(31:50) using "The Model" to reverse engineer success

Book your 30 minute clarity call with Jen to get start creating new solutions to your challenges ASAP!

Here's what happens in today's episode:

- define and compare pity and compassion

Stay tuned for the next episode, coming out later this week, that's going to be all about how to stop complaining and create solutions instead. I'll be covering resiliency and victimhood, and how to stop the drama in your life using my favorite mental reframe tool- the Model. You don't want to miss out, so subscribe to this podcast, turn on notifications, and follow me on Instagram (@jencuihealth) for more helpful content.

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TW: diet culture, disordered eating

Today, Jen dives deep into a conversation on body image, a woman's experience in a female body, why praising or shaming bodies based on their size is always inappropriate, and Jen's past challenges with negative body image, disordered eating, body dysmorphia, and women-dominated trauma.

At the end, Jen shares a few questions to help you move away from needing validation from others, especially when it deals with your body's appearance.

If you want to stop obsessing over your weight, and instead, have a peaceful relationship with food and your body, then visit jencui.com/work-with-me to book a free 30-minute coaching consultation with Jen and see if coaching is right for you.

This is part 2 of the 2 part series on how to make good decisions quickly and without regret. If you haven't heard part 1 yet, do that first and come back to this so you can integrate the mental frameworks you need to successfully make quick decisions.

Download and save this episode so you can come back to it when you're in analysis paralysis. 

👉If you want more questions like these and want to become a decision making MACHINE, then make the decision to be a 1:1 coaching client of mine. Visit jencui.com/work-with-me to book your 30 minute clarity call and get the ball rolling toward the next level of your life.

This is the first part of a 2 part series to help you stop being so indecisive and wasting a shit ton of time on every little thing. Lol. I'm sharing with you 2 mental frameworks to making decisions quickly, effectively, and without regret. I'll also be touching upon some key concepts in self-trust, intuition, and what makes a good or bad decision so you can start moving forward with your life.

In part 2, I'll reveal the top 7 questions to ask yourself when you're stuck trying to make a decision to instantly get clarity.

If you want to stop overcomplicating your life and learn the tools to do so, then make the decision to start 1:1 coaching with me. Visit my site jencui.com/work-with-me  to book your 30 minute clarity call to change your life ASAP.

Can't wait to see what transformation is possible for you? Book your clarity call for 1:1 coaching with me at https://jencui.com/work-with-me

Today we're joined with yet another incredible client of mine, Sahar, who is sharing her coaching journey on managing disordered eating, breaking unhealthy diet and lifestyle habits, and creating confidence in her ability to control her future health and happiness.  We dive deep into what called her to coaching, her experiences with coaching and therapy, as well as the mindset shifts that ultimately led to her behavior changes.

(02:15) Sahar's challenges and unhelpful habits that she wanted to work through in coaching.

(04:19) Her process and result difference between coaching and therapy

(06:57) The most rewarding result in Sahar's coaching journey

(10:45) How to forgive yourself for making "bad" food choices and how Sahar shifted her behavior and thinking to go from having streaks "bad days" with negative thoughts and unhealthy habits to bouncing back from bad moments and create compassion for herself 

(15:07) The most valuable mindset shift/ tool/ resource Sahar gained from 1:1 coaching with me

(17:00) How to use the future self exercise

(19:09) How to let go of people pleasing and what it allows you to do afterwards

(26:00) Final thoughts on coaching from Sahar & what's next for her

Big thank you to Sahar for sharing her journey to wellness through coaching! It was such a pleasure working with her and I'm excited to see where she continues to go from here.  If you're ready to create explosive growth in your health, relationships, and career 

Get on my calendar for a free 30-minute clarity call now: https://jencui.com/work-with-me 

In this episode, Jen gets real about her experience with depression and anxiety as well as what she sees as the truth to healing from it.

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