Is it our fault, that we don’t say enough, or is it others’ fault, that they never ask? Do we expect ourselves to have clear cut boundaries, for every situation, about our preferences, no-gos, and to be able to effectively communicate that with people? Do we expect ourselves to be perfect, to be better than others, once we pick up something for the first time? Do we have to point fingers and fault others, just to feel better about ourselves?