After we covered the importance of starting with a strong sexual vibe in part one, in part two we discuss the right and wrong ways to verbally express your deepest desires to another person, especially early in your relationship.

Tl; dl, If you think you're cute, clever, "flirtatious" line are sexy, you're wrong.

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HarveySpecter (a community member) and I lead episode 5 of the podcast, which focuses on Nick York‘s recent first date. 

Like so many other dates, it goes OK, but there’s no real “spark” because Nick focuses too much on the platonic connection (common interests, chatty banter) and not enough on the sexual connection - that raw, unspoken attraction that happens when two people allow themselves to get lost in their desire. 

Spoiler alert: sexual connection is NOT developed by saying outrageous shit or aggressive touching. Overall, this episode is a must-listen for anyone who’s gone on a first date and walked away unsure if there was mutual attraction.

We discuss an issue that's debated now more than ever -- how to ask a coworker on a date.

We hit on two main things:

First, we discuss what to consider BEFORE you do it.

Second, if you're going to do it, we discuss how to do it the right way.

We cover every side of this topic and the ultimate conclusion isn't one that gets mentioned very often.

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Christian answers the following:

- How he juggles so many aspects of his life so well

- How much having a fantastic partner can help with that, and his four-step process for finding and optimizing that relationship

- How to know when a partner is worth being patient for, vs when you should walk away

- How to turn your talents into success

- When is the right time to settle down?

- What can a 34 year old virgin do to finally become confident in his sexuality

Enjoy!

The guys try to talk me into all the different reasons they might want to settle for someone less than their ideal partner:

- "We get along like no one ever!"

- "I'm getting older and want a family."

- "The sex is the best."

And we discuss why you still shouldn't settle if it's not perfect.

A problem for a lot of guys (or for women who put job/status on a pedestal.) 

We tell you the things you should focus on instead, so you don't look desperate or worse, get taken advantage of.

The Cast: (In order of appearance)

- Nick Sparks

- Sid (featured)

- Nick Y

- Captain Picard

- HarveySpecter

Bios can be found at sparksofattraction.com/podcast