Hey Readers!

Have you ever felt like life is just passing you by, day in and day out, without truly connecting with yourself or others? Have you been yearning for a deeper sense of authenticity, vulnerability, and excitement in your life? If so, then you're in for a treat!

If you are a cisgender man OR regardless of your biological body, lean mostly into your masculine gender, I want to invite you to join us and apply for a spot in a transformative journey through my next men’s group. As a certified coach, I've witnessed the incredible power of men coming together in a supportive group setting to explore our inner worlds, uncover our truths, and unleash our potential. In this blog post, I want to share with you my personal story of how doing men’s work as an individual and in groups has changed my life, and why I'm so passionate about inviting you to join us.

Authenticity: Unleashing Your True Self

For many years, I struggled with feeling like I had to wear a mask and conform to societal and patriarchal expectations. My mask was the “Nice Guy Syndrome” - it was this people pleasing version of me that always had to keep things light and quickly reframe any negative scenario to a positive one, because I was afraid to admit that I was hurt. I was afraid to show my true self to others, fearing rejection or judgment. But deep down, I knew that I was not living authentically, and it was taking a toll on my mental, emotional, and physical well-being.

When I joined a group coaching program, I was blown away by the safe space that was created for me to be completely myself. I was able to explore my thoughts, feelings, and beliefs without fear of judgment. I was encouraged to express my true desires, values, and dreams. Through the guidance of our skilled coach and the support of my fellow group members, I began to peel off the layers of the mask I was wearing and step into my true self.

One example of this is my relationship with my body. As men, the only things that society allows us to feel in our bodies are anger and aggression. This was okay and even encouraged. However, we didn’t have the awareness, the tools or the space to allow sadness, fear, scarcity, grief, sorrow, pleasure, excitement and ecstasy to be honored in our bodies. We are taught that the body is a utility, not something to be friends with.

It was liberating and empowering to finally embrace my body and my authenticity. I discovered that I didn't have to pretend or conform to be accepted or loved. I learned to value and honor my own uniqueness, and to express myself authentically in all areas of my life. As a result, my relationships became deeper and more meaningful, my self-confidence skyrocketed, and I started attracting opportunities that aligned with my true self. I want to share this incredible gift of authenticity with you, as I believe that everyone deserves to be loved and accepted for who they truly are.

Vulnerability: Embracing Your Imperfections

One of the most powerful aspects of stepping into this kind of work is the opportunity to be vulnerable in a safe and supportive environment. As men, we are taught that gaining power and respect is how we move through the world. If you feel vulnerable, run away or ignore it and posture strength. Vulnerability is a weakness, something to be avoided at all costs. Although I read in lots of books that vulnerability is a strength, it wasn’t until I started doing men’s work that I felt and truly experienced vulnerability as a superpower. I became more deeply in touch with desire. I was able to touch the place in me that’s hurt and still be okay to want what I want. And more importantly, I can still be creative if I don’t get what I want.

As I opened up and shared my own vulnerabilities with the group, I was met with empathy, understanding, and unconditional support. I realized that I was not alone in my struggles, and that we all have our own unique challenges and imperfections. I learned to embrace my vulnerabilities as part of my human experience, and to see them as opportunities for growth and connection.

Through the men’s work, I learned to let go of the belief that if I have more stuff, more things, more experiences, more of everything - then I will be free. I let go of the need to have it all planned out to perfection. This other part of me came through that was truly free. Free to explore, free to play, free to make mistakes, to be uncertain, to ask for help and free to be exposed to getting hurt, but trust that I will be okay again.

I learned to be more compassionate and accepting towards myself and others. This newfound sense of vulnerability has allowed me to form deeper connections and relationships, and to experience a level of intimacy and authenticity that I never thought possible. I invite you to join this men’s group and experience the power of vulnerability for yourself.

Excitement: Igniting your Aliveness

Do you remember the last time you felt truly excited about life? The kind of excitement that makes your heart skip a beat, your eyes light up, and puts butterflies in your stomach?

I’m not talking about the short-term dopamine hit that many high-performers get after they achieve some new milestone to put on their award shelf.

I’m speaking about deep joy.

Aliveness.

Ecstasy.

No, not the drug. I’m talking about living this life wide awake, filled with awe and wonder. Living it with immense gratitude at all the possibilities you could create.

I remember when the people-pleasing program started to dysfunction within me. I had worn-out that mask that it started to not have impact and meaning anymore. I felt empty. The mask had gotten too comfortable and I stopped taking risks.

Through the work I did in group coaching, I was able to identify new risks I wanted to take and receive supportive accountability. I found my inner spark again. What was even more powerful was that I didn’t need to completely torch my old life and career. I thought I did, but the coaching helped me realize that the current lifestyle I had achieved can be a platform for the next thing I want to create. It empowered me to be even more of a CREATOR of the next stage of my development.

Through the support and accountability of the group, I stepped into tiny risks every week in my business, my marriage, and in my parenting - through all the various shapes that I was moving in the world. With each risk, I felt more and more alive. I felt more and more like myself again!

In this new way of being, I was able to BRING aliveness to my everyday. I learned that I don’t have to wait for circumstances to be perfect so that I can feel the spark. I found that inner child in me that was free to begin with. Letting that inner child come out to play has me feeling more and more like myself again, and creating success from that place has felt really, really good.

Apply for this men’s group and ignite the aliveness in your life again.

***DEADLINE TO APPLY IS MAY 23RD!***

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👉🏼 If you feel a deeper curiosity or a HELL YES, then apply through the link in that landing page.

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Reminder: ***DEADLINE TO APPLY IS MAY 23RD!***

With great love.

Jomar

Here’s the last men’s group at the Wolf Connection just outside of Los Angeles.

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