Our guest, Fran, lives in Australia and talks about sobriety after years of having her identity as a party girl. She got herpes 6 months into a health, monogamous relationship that ended after 2 years for none of the reasons you may be thinking. We talk about something big here, which was how Fran thought her purpose was to be a party girl, and how she just didn't know any different. We discuss the illusion of presence that can come from sex that just doesn't feel connective, and how we aren't looking for "attention" and "validation" necessarily, but we're seeking presence in our relationships. Join Patreon for our after show where we got deeper into some of Fran's self reflections that we uncovered during our episode. www.patreon.com/spfpp