When you receive a herpes diagnosis, it is incredibly common to let that one virus overwrite your entire sense of self—disregarding every other amazing aspect of your being. At SPFPP, we define this phenomenon as a "fragmentation of identity."

This week, Courtney Brame sits down with Sheikha Sakina to explore this fragmentation through a completely different lens: the metaphysics of identity. Anchoring their conversation in Erving Goffman's classic definition of stigma, Courtney and Sheikha simplify the mechanics of shame by looking at how all energy and matter comes into existence and maintains itself. Together, they discuss simple, physics-based applications to help you challenge your deeply ingrained beliefs and ultimately change your behaviors.

Disclaimer: This episode is highly geared toward our long-time listeners who are ready for deep, introspective work. It leans heavily into the spiritual, self-help, "have-you-tried-yoga" realm of healing. But if you have the willingness to explore your identity at an energetic level, this conversation will offer a profoundly liberating perspective on stigma.

Connect with Sheikha:

https://alsakina.xyz/
https://www.instagram.com/wearealsakina

https://substack.com/@wearealsakina

https://www.tiktok.com/@wearealsakina

Are you letting the pressure to say things "perfectly" stop you from experiencing the pleasure you deserve? This week on Something Positive for Positive People, Courtney Brame sits down with Lena Peak of Eros Insight, a queer-owned sexuality education resource.

Tying into the core SPFPP theme that "Safe Sex is Communicative Sex," Courtney and Lena explore how perfectionism can paralyze us from both discovering and expressing what we truly want in the bedroom. They unpack the common disconnects found in heterosexual, monogamous relationships, examining how the default "social scripts" we are handed often fail to serve all parties involved.

Drawing on valuable lessons from Queerness, Lena explains how we can expand beyond these limiting scripts to embrace authentic connection. They also discuss a powerful resource Lena created that centers self-inquiry and curiosity to help you pinpoint your exact desires and confidently bring them up to your partner(s).

Tune in to learn the essential questions you need to ask yourself to dive deeper into your own pleasure, and remember: saying the thing is always better than trying to say it perfectly.

Connect with Lena:

Instagram - @erosinsight

For the workbook we talked about in the episode -

https://erosinsight.com/store/holistic-sexual-wellness

About Lena:

Lena Peak, MSW, CSE (she/they) is an AASECT-certified sexuality educator and founder of Eros Insight, where she explores sexuality, gender, identity, and relationships through a justice-centered lens. Her work empowers people and organizations to question inherited narratives and imagine more authentic, expansive ways of being.Lena designs supportive educational experiences that inspire meaningful community, intellectual risk-taking, and radical dreaming. Their work centers erotic knowledge as a source of personal and collective power, inviting people to recognize and reclaim their capacity for aliveness, connection, and pleasure.Lena holds a Master of Social Work degree with a concentration in Sexual Health & Education from Washington University in St. Louis.

Are you letting the fear of rejection keep you from experiencing genuine connection? Broadcasting from the Black Yoga Teachers Alliance Conference, Courtney Brame takes a moment to celebrate a massive milestone: the 9-year anniversary of the Something Positive for Positive People podcast!

In this deeply reflective solo episode, Courtney tackles the intense anxiety surrounding herpes disclosures and dating initiation. We spend so much energy agonizing over the worst-case scenarios, but what if you flipped the script and asked yourself, "What's the best that can happen?" Courtney shares recent personal stories of pushing past his own fears of initiation to find profound connection, unexpected healing, and beautiful new friendships. He explains why our fear of disclosure is often a disguised fear of vulnerability, success, and true intimacy.

Plus, Courtney shares major organizational updates, including details on the final Herpes Stigma Expo in NYC, setting firm energetic and financial boundaries for support calls, and why he needs YOU to be the next guest on the podcast. Stop rejecting yourself, let people surprise you, and let the best happen.

Links & Resources Mentioned:

• Subscribe to the SPFPP Newsletter: spfpp.org/herpes-newsletter

• Get Tickets for the final NYC Expo (Aug 29): spfpp.org/expo

• Request a Support Call or Join a Group: spfpp.org/herpes-support-call

How does our understanding of "cleanliness" perpetuate STI stigma? This week on Something Positive for Positive People, Courtney Brame is joined by Australian sexologist Kiki Maree for a transparent conversation about neutralizing the shame surrounding sexual health.

Kiki opens up about her childhood experience of oral herpes being completely normalized within her family, contrasting it with the intense stigma society places on genital herpes. Together, Courtney and Kiki explore the confusing journey of being diagnosed with Ureaplasma and Bacterial Vaginosis (BV), and how hyper-vigilance around "smell" and "cleanliness" can destroy intimacy. Kiki also explains how physical setbacks—whether it's an STI diagnosis, erectile disappointment, or a boundary violation—can actually serve as powerful access points to a deeper, more authentic connection with your own sexuality.

Links & Resources Mentioned:

• Follow Kiki Maree on Instagram: @yoniclicious or @kiki.maree

• Visit Kiki’s Website for Free Resources: yoniclicious.com.au

• Get Tickets for the NYC Expo (Aug 29): spfpp.org/expo

SPFPP 410: The Undercurrent of Communication - No Means No

Are you telling yourself "no" before giving anyone else the chance to say yes? This week on Something Positive for Positive People, Courtney Brame is talking about dating, initiation, and overcoming the fear of success.

After being called out by the women's support group for avoiding dating initiation, Courtney realized his lack of confidence wasn't a fear of rejection—it was a fear of getting exactly what he wanted. Drawing powerful parallels from Brazilian Zouk dancing, Courtney breaks down the importance of congruent communication, how to read subtle hints, and why we need to stop attaching our identities to a "no." Tune in to learn how to view dating as an invitation to "play," the importance of aligning your beliefs with your behaviors, and major updates on the upcoming NYC Herpes Stigma Expo.

Links & Resources Mentioned:

• Subscribe to the SPFPP Newsletter: spfpp.org/herpes-newsletter

• Get Tickets for the NYC Expo (Aug 29): spfpp.org/expo

• Request a Donation-Based Support Call: spfpp.org

If you don't metabolize your trauma, it will metastasize into your life. This week on Something Positive for Positive People, Courtney Brame returns for a deeply personal, unapologetic solo episode. Reflecting on his own year-and-a-half journey of suppressed grief following the end of a relationship, Courtney explains how the emotions we refuse to process—whether it's heartbreak or the trauma of an STI diagnosis—operate just like a cancer, spreading into our confidence, our communication, and our identity.

In this episode, Courtney explores the "suicide of self-identification" that happens when we let stigma invalidate who we are. Using powerful analogies—from somatic release in deep tissue massages to the conversation of Brazilian Zouk dancing—Courtney breaks down why pure, unfiltered authenticity is the ultimate "chemo" for internalized stigma. Tune in to learn why your environment dictates your healing, why it's time to stop dimming your light, and how to consciously channel your energy to attract the connections you actually deserve.

Links & Resources Mentioned:

• Take the Herpes Stigma Survey: spfpp.org/herpes-survey

• Get Tickets for the NYC Expo (Aug 29): spfpp.org/expo

• Learn more about "Letting Go" of Herpes Stigma: spfpp.org/yoga

SPFPP 408: Safe Sex is Communicative Sex - with Tamar Weir

What happens when you find out you've been exposed to an STI you've never even heard of? This week on Something Positive for Positive People, Courtney Brame sits down with Tamar Weir (founder of Pomegranate Pleasure) to unpack a real-life scenario: Tamar's recent Ureaplasma diagnosis and how she communicated the exposure to Courtney.

Courtney and Tamar explore the nuances of Ureaplasma as a commensal bacteria, the intense frustration of navigating confusing and unhelpful medical providers, and how the stigma surrounding "cleanliness" makes these infections harder to talk about. Tamar also shares her tips for building your own personalized sexual health "script," while Courtney breaks down why it's time to shift from a high-pressure "confession" to a co-created "discussion." Tune in to learn why having conversations about sexual health doesn't have to ruin the mood—it can actually make intimacy sexier.

Links & Resources Mentioned:

• Follow Tamar Weir on Instagram: @pomegranatepleasure

• Read Tamar's Blog: Everything Juicy (Link via IG)

• Subscribe to the SPFPP Newsletter: spfpp.org/herpes-newsletter

• Get Tickets for the NYC Expo (Aug 29): spfpp.org/expo

I had a support call go sideways and was hung up on for the first time since I started doing this work in 2017 supporting people living with herpes. I had to learn for myself real quick that my authenticity is more important than anybody else's discomfort. I can't coddle folks into healing.

Are you bleeding energy into things that don't serve your highest self? This week, Courtney is back with a massive life update and a profound shift in the podcast's direction. Transitioning to a once-a-month format, Courtney dives deep into the yogic principle of Brahmacharya—the right use of energy.

Listen in as I share how removing social media distractions and enforcing strict personal boundaries led to necessary changes. From transmuting unspent sexual energy into writing the first draft of the SPFPP book, to transforming my physical health through Ayurveda, to processing relationship trauma on the Zouk dance floor, this episode is about vertical growth over horizontal distraction. I also also break down the main differences between the men's and women's support groups, share my upcoming travel itinerary, and explains why true authenticity is the ultimate friction-remover.

Links & Resources Mentioned:

• Subscribe to the SPFPP Newsletter: spfpp.org/herpes-newsletter

• Read the SPFPP Blog: spfpp.org/herpes-blog

• Request a Donation-Based Support Call: spfpp.org/herpes-support-call

A herpes diagnosis can make you feel taken from, or like God took away your ability to have sex. What exactly was taken from you? Reality is that you are still capable of sex, and nothing was 'taken' necessarily except for the identification we had with ourselves leading up to the diagnosis. If in fact God did take away your ability to have sex, then by God's Law of compensation, you're entitled to something of equal or greater value in return. I speak about the laws of Thermodynamics to hopefully give an idea of the energetics/physics of what to do with a herpes diagnosis.