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Spirit of Wiedergutmachung -Why many have difficulty apologizing and asking for absolution-and why others find it impossible to accept and forgive
Spirit of Wiedergutmachung -Why many have difficulty apologizing and asking for absolution-and why others find it impossible to accept and forgive
Prof. Juni argues that apologizing is an elusive social phenomenon. Unless one was not aware of certain facts or consequences, it is likely that they would repeat the offensive behavior under similar circumstances. Thus, apologies typically indicate -- at most – sorrow that the victim suffered, but not regret about the offensive act. Reluctance to apologize is therefore quite truthful. R. Kivelevitz points out that there is a religious component to apology – namely a request that the victim absolve the perpetrator of divine punishment, but this, too, is not an apology per se. The discussants also explore the psychological impediments to apologizing and examine issues of dependency or being at the mercy of the victim. From the perspective of the victim, it is appropriate to view a refusal to accept an apology as a manifestation of retributive power over the aggressor. Here, too, Dr. Juni sees the acceptance of an apology as often entailing disingenuousness, since it would be untruthful for most victims to proclaim that they are no longer hurt by significant offenses – though, from a religious perspective, they can truly agree to exempt a perpetrator from divine retribution. It does seem ,opines the doctor,that the entire social phenomenon of apologizing is rather unelaborated, and represents a perfunctory rather than meaningful social transaction.
Doctor Samuel Juni is one of the foremost research psychologists in the world today. He has published groundbreaking original research in seventy different peer reviewed journals, and is cited continuously with respect by colleagues and experts in the field who have built on his theories and observations. Samuel Juni studied in Yeshivas Chaim Berlin under Rav Yitzchack Hutner, and in Yeshiva University as a Talmid of Rav Joseph Dov Soloveitchick. Professor Juni is a prominent member of the Association of Orthodox Jewish Scientists, and has regularly presented addresses to captivated audiences. Associated with NYU since 1979, Juni has served as Director of MA and PhD programs, all the while heading teams engaged in important research. Professor Juni's scholarship on aberrant behavior across the cultural, ethnic, and religious spectrum is founded on psychometric methodology and based on a psycho-dynamic psychopathology perspective. He is arguably the preeminent expert in Differential Diagnostics, with each of his myriad studies entailing parallel efforts in theory construction and empirical data collection from normative and clinical populations. Professor Juni created and directed NYU's Graduate Program in Tel Aviv titled Cross-Cultural Group Dynamics in Stressful Environments. Based in Yerushalayim, he collaborates with Israeli academic and mental health specialists in the study of dissonant factors and tensions in the Arab-Israeli conflict and those within the Orthodox Jewish community, while exploring personality challenges of second-generation Holocaust survivors. Below is a partial list of the journals to which Professor Juni has contributed over 120 articles. Many are available on line Journal of Forensic Psychology Journal of Aggression, Maltreatment, and Trauma. International Review of Victimology The Journal of Nervous and Mental Disease International Forum of Psychoanalysis Journal of Personality Assessment Journal of Abnormal Psychology Journal of Psychoanalytic Anthropology Psychophysiology Psychology and Human Development Journal of Sex Research Journal of Psychology and Judaism Contemporary Family Therapy American Journal on Addictions Journal of Criminal Psychology Mental Health, Religion & Culture As Rosh Beis Medrash, Rabbi Avraham Kivelevitz serves as Rav and Posek for the morning minyan at IDT. Hundreds of listeners around the globe look forward to his weekly Shiur in Tshuvos and Poskim. Rav Kivelevitz is a Maggid Shiur for Dirshu International in Talmud and Halacha as well as a Dayan with the Beth Din of America. Please leave us a review or email us at [email protected]
This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate
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Spirit of Wiedergutmachung -Why many have difficulty apologizing and asking for absolution-and why others find it impossible to accept and forgive
Prof. Juni argues that apologizing is an elusive social phenomenon. Unless one was not aware of certain facts or consequences, it is likely that they would repeat the offensive behavior under similar circumstances. Thus, apologies typically indicate -- at most – sorrow that the victim suffered, but not regret about the offensive act. Reluctance to apologize is therefore quite truthful. R. Kivelevitz points out that there is a religious component to apology – namely a request that the victim absolve the perpetrator of divine punishment, but this, too, is not an apology per se. The discussants also explore the psychological impediments to apologizing and examine issues of dependency or being at the mercy of the victim. From the perspective of the victim, it is appropriate to view a refusal to accept an apology as a manifestation of retributive power over the aggressor. Here, too, Dr. Juni sees the acceptance of an apology as often entailing disingenuousness, since it would be untruthful for most victims to proclaim that they are no longer hurt by significant offenses – though, from a religious perspective, they can truly agree to exempt a perpetrator from divine retribution. It does seem ,opines the doctor,that the entire social phenomenon of apologizing is rather unelaborated, and represents a perfunctory rather than meaningful social transaction.
Doctor Samuel Juni is one of the foremost research psychologists in the world today. He has published groundbreaking original research in seventy different peer reviewed journals, and is cited continuously with respect by colleagues and experts in the field who have built on his theories and observations. Samuel Juni studied in Yeshivas Chaim Berlin under Rav Yitzchack Hutner, and in Yeshiva University as a Talmid of Rav Joseph Dov Soloveitchick. Professor Juni is a prominent member of the Association of Orthodox Jewish Scientists, and has regularly presented addresses to captivated audiences. Associated with NYU since 1979, Juni has served as Director of MA and PhD programs, all the while heading teams engaged in important research. Professor Juni's scholarship on aberrant behavior across the cultural, ethnic, and religious spectrum is founded on psychometric methodology and based on a psycho-dynamic psychopathology perspective. He is arguably the preeminent expert in Differential Diagnostics, with each of his myriad studies entailing parallel efforts in theory construction and empirical data collection from normative and clinical populations. Professor Juni created and directed NYU's Graduate Program in Tel Aviv titled Cross-Cultural Group Dynamics in Stressful Environments. Based in Yerushalayim, he collaborates with Israeli academic and mental health specialists in the study of dissonant factors and tensions in the Arab-Israeli conflict and those within the Orthodox Jewish community, while exploring personality challenges of second-generation Holocaust survivors. Below is a partial list of the journals to which Professor Juni has contributed over 120 articles. Many are available on line Journal of Forensic Psychology Journal of Aggression, Maltreatment, and Trauma. International Review of Victimology The Journal of Nervous and Mental Disease International Forum of Psychoanalysis Journal of Personality Assessment Journal of Abnormal Psychology Journal of Psychoanalytic Anthropology Psychophysiology Psychology and Human Development Journal of Sex Research Journal of Psychology and Judaism Contemporary Family Therapy American Journal on Addictions Journal of Criminal Psychology Mental Health, Religion & Culture As Rosh Beis Medrash, Rabbi Avraham Kivelevitz serves as Rav and Posek for the morning minyan at IDT. Hundreds of listeners around the globe look forward to his weekly Shiur in Tshuvos and Poskim. Rav Kivelevitz is a Maggid Shiur for Dirshu International in Talmud and Halacha as well as a Dayan with the Beth Din of America. Please leave us a review or email us at [email protected]
This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate