Most of us have been modeled scapegoating as a way of navigating the world, usually from a very early age. This is the process of taking something that may present a legitimate issue, then using that thing as THE reason that our pain exists.
It’s so tempting, due to its simplicity. The thought is if we could just remove the scapegoat from our lives—through control, manipulation, running away—then we’d be fine. We wouldn’t hurt anymore.
The problem is, when one scapegoat leaves, another one pops up in its place, because the underlying wound hasn’t been healed. Now, on top of the wound, and the current scapegoat, you add on the shame of whatever methods were used to get rid of the last scapegoat.
It’s a cycle that, ultimately, buries you under victimhood, shame, and unhealed pain. But it’s not a life sentence. There is a way to move out the scapegoat cycle, and into a life of love and personal accountability.
You are stronger than you think.
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