This week, I had the privilege of sitting down with Avery Grace. The tagline on their website is: Daringly Tender. Vulnerably Raw. Cuttingly Honest. This couldn’t be more spot on.
Avery Grace (they/she) is a queer/trans self-taught poet-playwright. They have been an NGO worker in refugee camps, a an educator for ESL kids in LA, and taught traditional Chinese medicine to master students. They are also an integrative Chinese Medicine doctor and an herbalist.
Toward the end of the show, Avery said, "it’s not about changing people's minds, it's about making people feel things." 🤯 This concept holds untold power: as our world faces so much division and focus on our different beliefs, it seems clear as day that the antidote to coming back together as humans is to unite on the feeling level.
Avery also unpacked the idea of “radical presence…the enduring ability to show up and to stay.” Wow. Let that one land. So much of what we struggle with (individually and as a collective) is the inability to be present to our present. Instead, we use the phone or food or substances or social media to escape. Turns out, the key to getting over is going through. Powerful stuff.
Avery and their partner Mati are pursuing fertility in order to have their first child together. I am including their invitation to support them, including a link to their fundraising page.
The Invitation From Avery & Mati
We would like to invite you with our full hearts and bodies to be a part of our fertility community.
We are two queer, gender-expansive humans with deep roots in social justice and service to our communities in Central Oregon and beyond. One of us is BIPOC, multiracial, and non-binary. Another is transfemme and white. We are both neurodiverse. We are survivors of many stripes, and actively promote the well-being and safety of the most marginalized and in-need of our communities.
We each have led lives committed to the well-being and growth of children and young people—from teaching, mentoring, facilitating youth creative communities, and serving as a youth and adolescent family therapist, to previous co-parenting experiences in non-traditional, non-monogamous, and non-nuclear family formats. We both have manifested our commitment to the future in the form of youth for some time, and now feel called to do so in the form of a biological child, together.
We are asking for your support.
Our goal is to raise $7,000