This week one of my spiritual heroes passed away Jean Vanier was the founder of communities where people with and without disabilities lived as peers. It became an international movement, with communities around the world. His whole presence embodied what living a holy ordinary life could look like. It looked like humility, simplicity, and living in service to others. Love, Jean Vanier said, looks like doing ordinary things with intentional tenderness. It looks like eating together, helping one another to dress and go to work, to clean and to do chores, to laugh and to cry with one another. It’s about relationships where we willingly give up power and embrace humility. It’s as simple and as hard as that.
I’ve been thinking about living this love that is intentional tenderness, because it seems to me a roadmap for our time. It seems like the Good News of Jesus that the hurting scared people I know long for.
And in our lesson today from Acts we have a small window into what this love of intentional tenderness looks like for a few of the early disciples.
We meet the disciple of Jesus named Dorcas, Tabitha. And we meet her in a moment when she’s passed on from this life. In the everyday moments of her life, being a part of Jesus’ flock was about ordinary faithfulness.
Dorcas was probably a seamstress all along, using her hands and her eyes and her imagination to craft useful and beautiful clothes. So when she became a disciple I can imagine her hearing Jesus teach “Lord, when did we see you naked and clothe you? I tell you, Jesus said, what you do for the least of these you do unto me.” I can see her bent over her loom, weaving cloth and taking up needle and thread to clothe those widows and their children as she would have clothed Jesus. I see her offering what ordinary skills she already knows with intentional tenderness. I see the way that the Love of God flowed through her to her community.
As we listen for the voice of Jesus the Good Shepherd, we live more like Dorcas. We embody the Good news with the wholeness of our lives. We make our lives holy by faithfully doing everyday things with profound tenderness. We let Jesus reshape our lives.
Where to begin? Our lives can seem so hurried, so painful, so tiring. This isn’t about one more thing to do. But about slowing down to recognize God when he shows up in our life. We might begin with three simple questions.
Who is God giving me to love?
What resource or gifts have been given me to share?
What Good News do I know that I can offer?
Steven Tomlinson at the Seminary of the Southwest offers these three questions for discernment. And just as we might ask them in prayer as we discern our own purpose in the flock of God, we can ask them together as a church.
Who are the people around us, already alongside us God is calling us to love?
These might be neighbors. These might be vulnerable groups of people. As we pray about mission, and where the Good Shepherd is guiding us, these are probably people beyond our own sheepfold out there in the word. For Jean Vanier, God was giving him people with disabilities to love and be in relationship with. Who is vulnerable, or hurting, or in need?
Next, what has God given us to share? This is a question of stewardship. It’s a question that builds our capacity for gratitude. We might even identify things we have taken for granted as a gift to be shared. For Dorcas, God had given her a skill as a seamstress to offer as a blessing to others. For our community, I think we can identify a lot that we have been given. Our land is a source of beauty and refreshment for our neighbors at the apartment complex next door. Our community cultivates a sense of hospitality that offers belonging to those who feel lonely or isolated. Think through what we already have been given. Let a sense of gratitude for those gifts well up within you.
The truth is that gratitude sends us out to share what we’ve been given. And