Inspired by the popular practice many have of making New Year’s Resolutions at the start of a New Year, we’ve been reflecting on habits this month. We know our world could be better. We know our lives could be better. We know we could be better. So, with hope that something, anything will be better by this time next year, many work to keep resolutions. The problem, however, is that resolutions are incredibly difficult to keep. It seems that free will is overrated, that there are limits for even the most strong-willed of us. So, we proposed that, instead of resolutions, one-off goals, it might be better to make new, good habits.
Habits are behaviours we do automatically; we don’t even have to think about them. Instead of being one-off goals with one-off rewards, habits are ongoing; they’re about continual, life-long improvement. Habits offer daily opportunity for success because they’re formed through a cycle. First, there’s a cue, something that triggers the habit. Then there’s the routine, the habitual action, followed by the reward, something that affirms the habit.
We observed how God can use even the smallest of habits to bring big changes. Because of their small habit of observing the stars of the night sky, the wise men were guided to Jesus and were among the first to honour him. If God can do that, he can use our small, good habits to guide us too.
We also reflected on how our habits ought to echo our call to holiness. The life of any holy person will always be marked by good habits. The Corinthians who lived in a Greek and hedonistic culture may never have developed the good habits needed to embrace the Good News on their own. But they weren’t on their own. The Christians of the city of Corinth accepted the strength offered by God present among them. God offers strength for his people and here, in the church, through the Eucharist, we accept his grace.
Last week, we explored how understanding our identity is extremely important when forming habits because our habits should reflect who we are. Those who don’t have a great grasp of who they are likely to develop unhealthy habits. But those who recognize how they are children of God invited to share in the joy, love, sacrifice and work of our Maker are likely to develop habits that reflect that truth. Andrew, Peter, James and John could only begin seeking holiness after Jesus reveled to them their true identity: They weren’t just fishermen, but his disciples.
Though habits may be easier to develop than resolutions, there’s still the challenge of motivation. In the beatitudes, Jesus announces blessings for those holding certain character traits. We know these are great traits to have and are happy to hold those who demonstrate these traits in high esteem. Often, we look for these traits when exploring the life of a saint.
But on self-reflection, while we find that each of us may demonstrate any of these traits at least a little bit, there’s always room for growth and some of the traits Jesus blesses we might truly struggle with. Now, when working to develop new habits, one approach might be to focus on building up traits you know you struggle with most, to work on eliminating the greatest shortfalls. But that can be hard. There’s a reason why some of those traits are difficult.
But, instead of beginning at where you’re lacking, another approach might be to start by looking at what you long for, what you hope for most. Each of the beatitudes come with a reward. Jesus promises mercy for those who are merciful, and consolation to those who mourn. Which reward would you like most? Remembering how rewards affirm habits, dwelling on the reward might give just the motivation needed to establish a new habit. For example those who wish to see God might develop habits that make for a pur...