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Content warning: This episode includes discussion of miscarriage, infertility and the emotional impact of not becoming a biological parent.

In this deeply moving conversation, Katie speaks with Jayne, a stepmum who has experienced stepfamily life not once, but twice — and whose story highlights a topic rarely discussed: what happens to your relationship with your stepchildren when the couple relationship ends?

Jayne was a dedicated stepmum for many years to two children who eventually became adults, and when her marriage broke down, her biggest fear wasn’t the separation itself — it was losing them.
 She shares openly how she worked to maintain those bonds, what helped, and how the relationship evolved over time.

Jayne also bravely talks about her journey of trying to become a biological mum, the heartbreak of miscarriage, and how those experiences intersected with her identity as a stepmum.

In this episode, Jayne and Katie explore:

• Being a stepmum for the second time
• How to maintain relationships with stepchildren after a breakup
• The grief of losing a stepfamily identity
• Miscarriage and infertility through the lens of stepmotherhood
• How stepmums carry complex, layered emotions that often go unseen
• What healing and reconnection can look like over time

This is a tender, compassionate conversation for anyone navigating loss, change or uncertainty in their stepfamily journey.

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