For a long time, I felt like I had to choose between being playful and being taken seriously.
Between being light, expressive, joyful — and being seen as credible.
That tension followed me for years. In school, at work, and again now, as I’m stepping into something new. Every time I start something unfamiliar, the same questions resurface: am I serious enough? am I legitimate enough? am I allowed to be both?
In this episode of Becoming Everything, I sit with that duality — the quiet pressure to tone yourself down, and the way lightness is often mistaken for incompetence. I explore how impostor syndrome can live in identity rather than ability, and why this conflict has very little to do with intelligence or rigor.
I talk about what happens in the brain and the body when we try to control how we’re perceived. How play and joy are not distractions, but signals of regulation. And why reclaiming expressiveness isn’t about being less serious — it’s about being more grounded.
This episode weaves together personal experience, neuroscience, mindset, and movement — including how dance became a way back to parts of myself I had learned to shrink.
Topics Covered:
✅ Why playfulness is often confused with a lack of credibility✅ How impostor syndrome attaches to identity, not competence✅ What neuroscience says about play, learning, and focus✅ Why control doesn’t stay in the mind — it shows up in the body✅ Letting seriousness and lightness coexist
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Part of the Becoming Everything series