Still Figuring It Out

Remember when friendship was as simple as seeing each other at school every day?

No planning, no checking calendars, no wondering when you’d see each other again. You just knew you’d see them tomorrow.

But somewhere between graduating, starting work, moving abroad, and building our own lives, friendships started to feel a little different.

In this episode of Still Figuring It Out, I’m sharing how my friendships have changed throughout my twenties — from seeing my best friend five days a week to sometimes only a few days a year, and realising that some friendships can survive distance while others slowly drift apart.

I’m also talking about something I’ve struggled with since moving abroad: always feeling like I’m the one reaching out. When you only have a few weeks back home, making time for someone means a lot. But what happens when that effort doesn’t always feel mutual?

Over time, I’ve started to realise that friendship isn’t about how many people you have around you, or how often you talk. It’s about feeling comfortable being yourself, being genuinely heard, and knowing that the people who matter will be there when you need them. 🤎

Maybe not every friendship is meant to stay exactly the same. And maybe that’s okay.

So here’s a little question to leave you with: is there someone you haven’t spoken to in a while, but who still feels like home?

Maybe this is your reminder to send them a simple, “Hey, how have you been?”

— Queenie

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If you only knew me through Instagram, you might think I’m always out — travelling, going to cafés, meeting friends, and constantly surrounded by people.

But honestly, a lot of my life since moving abroad has actually been spent alone.

In this episode of Still Figuring It Out, I’m talking about how moving to Glasgow taught me something I never expected to learn: how to be alone without always feeling lonely.

From living by myself, watching friends slowly move away after our Master’s, and spending festivals far from home, to eventually going to cafés, exploring new places, and enjoying entire days by myself — my relationship with being alone has changed a lot over the past few years.

I also talk about learning to say no, protecting my own energy, and realising that sometimes choosing not to go out doesn’t mean I’m missing out. Sometimes, I genuinely just want to go home, cook something, watch a film, and have the evening to myself. 🤎

I still get lonely. I still need people. And there are definitely moments I’d rather share with someone else.

But I think I’ve finally learned that I can enjoy other people’s company without depending on it.

And maybe spending time alone isn’t just about becoming independent — maybe it’s also one of the ways we get to know ourselves.

So here’s a question to leave with you: when was the last time you did something just because you wanted to, without waiting for someone else to do it with you?

— Queenie

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What does being “successful” actually mean?

For a long time, I thought I knew the answer — a stable career, a good salary, promotions, and hopefully reaching a certain position by a certain age.

But after moving abroad and experiencing a different way of living and working, I’ve started questioning whether that’s really the kind of success I want.

In this episode of Still Figuring It Out, I’m talking about how my definition of success has changed — from career titles and salary to work-life balance, happiness, curiosity, freedom, and actually having the time to enjoy the life I’m building.

I also asked you what success means to you, and what matters most to you right now. And while career and money still matter (they definitely do to me too 😭), maybe success doesn’t have to be one big finish line we spend our whole lives chasing.

So here’s a question to leave with you: if nobody could see your job title, your salary, your house, or any of your achievements… what would make you feel like your life was successful?

— Queenie
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Have you ever looked around and felt like everyone else is moving ahead while you’re still trying to figure things out?

In the very first episode of Still Figuring It Out, I’m sharing my experience of leaving a stable career in Hong Kong, moving to the UK, learning to live independently, and dealing with the feeling that I was somehow falling behind.

I also asked you what you struggle with most in your 20s — and the top answers were career & direction and feeling lost. Turns out, maybe more of us are figuring things out than we realise.

There isn’t one “right” timeline for life. We’re all taking different paths, at different speeds, and learning along the way. 🤎

So here’s a question to leave with you: if you stopped comparing your timeline to everyone else’s, would you still think you’re behind?

— Queenie

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