Have you been single longer than you hoped? Are you doing all the right things: growing as a person, becoming more physically, emotionally, and spiritually attractive, staying pure, and dating the right way, but you feel like you are no closer to finding a spouse than you were years ago? I know it’s discouraging, but don’t get tired of doing the right things.

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In Due Time

Let me be clear, there’s no guarantee you will end up married. But, if you’ll allow me to me get preachy for a few moments, The Bible has a lot to say about this.

For instance, the title of this post references a scripture, Galatians 6:9, which, in the English Standard Version reads, “And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.” And, in the King James Version, it reads, “And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.”

So, don’t give up. It could be that it’s just not your time yet. Maybe you just need to, as they say, keep sawing wood, keep on doing the right things and in due time, if you don’t give up, your time will come around. Who knows what tomorrow holds? Who knows who will walk into your church, your favorite coffee shop, or the produce section of your favorite market?

I know when Anita walked into my life, I was glad I was ready and doing the right things. If I had not been doing those things, she would never have been attracted to me. And vice versa, if she had not been doing the right things, I would never have been attracted to her. We met at a time when we were both ready and in position to meet and be happily married to someone.

So, what I can tell you is this: when someone does come along that you’re interested in, you’ll be glad you didn’t get tired doing the right things. You’ll be glad you took time to heal and grow as a person, stayed pure, and maximized your attractiveness.

The Desires of Your Heart

There is a point at which you tend to want to give up. During my second singleness, honestly, there were several times I started to doubt God’s goodness and wonder if He gave me the desire to get married as some kind of cruel joke. It seemed like my desire for companionship and affection only served to make life miserable in their absence. And, my healthy sex drive seemed especially burdensome.

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And yet, in Psalms 37:4 it says that if I delight myself in God, He will give me the desires of my heart. I have to tell you, I had my share of doubts. But, in the end, He did grant me that desire. Did He do it on the time table I would have chosen? No! But, can I look back and see His grace and wisdom in the timing? Yes!

Can I guarantee it will work that way for you? No. But, do I think there is a good chance it will? Yes. If the desire in your heart is a desire He placed there, He didn’t put it there to torture and frustrate you. Trust God’s goodness.

Keep Doing the Right Things

Even when it seems pointless, keep doing the right things. Even if you never end up married, living life as a healed, whole, healthy, attractive, confident, godly,