Your ability to accurately and logically analyze the things that happen to you is your key to spiritual growth. When things happen to you, the questions to ask are what need the incident fulfills, what it has come to draw your attention to, and what qualities you need to bring in order to bear the incident. An incident is not harmful to you unless you interpret it as such.
This episode discusses the importance of shinning light onto our true emotions and calling them out for exactly what they are through the process of lamentations.
It also discusses having the right perspective in order to accept the things that happen in our lives that we may feel is beyond our control.